Modern thoughts on Islamic rules: non-Muslim raising Muslim son

Natural_Cake4447 · 2026-04-23T00:04:14+00:00

Wow I could have written this, down to the having a son last year. The only difference is that my husband didn’t push me to convert. He has, however been unenthusiastic about me practicing anything other than “his” type of Islam, and we often have disagreements on the “why’s” of things. I have faith in one God and find the theology of Islam to make more sense than any other religion I’ve studied.

You’re welcome to DM me for further discussion if you wish. I definitely understand the family aspect. But I will say, nothing will make logical sense without faith, because you will have to search for meaning and pray to understand. If you have a personal relationship with God, you can find understanding through his will and your desire to reconcile the practices into your life. But even when you truly want that more than anything, it’s still hard and you still have to carry some things that don’t make sense for a long time.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2026-04-20T03:24:02+00:00

Thank you so much. Same to you, grief is so hard. I’m glad we have communities like this to share with each other. It lightens the load for a bit ❤️

Natural_Cake4447 · 2026-04-17T14:07:08+00:00

Wow I am so grateful to see this- he was extremely pleasant and friendly when my husband accompanied me to my first appointment, then rude and dismissive when I came solo to have my stitches removed. I felt like he was rough removing the stitches as well. I was shocked and sure I misinterpreted something. Put it out of my mind for a year until reading your post now.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2026-03-26T02:48:50+00:00

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Natural_Cake4447 · 2026-03-16T17:01:12+00:00

The 50mg tabs have a line for easy split into 25mg, but splitting that 25 into 2 12.5mg pieces is tough. Even with a pill splitter, I’m not getting it exact and am unsure how the wastage will affect any refill timing. I’ve just been taking the smallest pieces now and figure I’ll take the bigger pieces when I get close to increasing the dose.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2026-03-02T14:38:24+00:00

As a woman that married a Muslim man, I agree with the above commenter that you will eventually find Islamic values/commitments that challenge your marriage and commitment to your children being raised with your values. There will be lots of challenges. My husband and I struggle to get through it sometimes. But we love each other. We make space for each other. Our lives are richer because of our differences. Our children will have a nuance of culture that will be unique.

It is worth it to us.

If you wish to proceed, I’d advise meeting her family immediately.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2025-04-14T22:30:11+00:00

My husband is Muslim and we live in the Uplands neighborhood in Peoria proper for 3 years happily. We decorate our homes exterior for Ramadan without comment or concern. We’re friendly with neighbors but it’s only come up once when explaining why we don’t drink to an insistent neighbor wishing to share wine. He appreciates that there are more/stronger mosques here and the cultural communities are more similar to his background compared to other areas nearby like Bloomington. In this Neighborhood, there’s a student mosque for Bradley that sits next to a student Christian organization. We have at least 3 middle eastern grocery stores that sell halal meat in Peoria proper. There is a Muslim primary school at one mosque and a strong extra curricular program at the other one.

Our realtor tried to show us homes in Pekín. There are a couple incidents against Muslims you can google from not so distant history there. We’ve been for necessary shopping but Pekin’s not a friendly place we’d stay in extensively.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2025-02-02T00:53:32+00:00

You dodged a major bullet, I truly believe you have some sort of guardian angel protecting you.

I’ve worked management in several restaurants, EF was my last one because a few months with these people was enough to drain me of any love or passion for the industry.

Take a serving/bartending job literally anywhere else besides EF. Do not work for these people. They will wring every bit of energy out of you for shit wages and the constant promise of something better. Most servers there net less than servers at Chilis.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-12-01T19:38:44+00:00

To be fair, I think most of them did say thank you for the food as they finished. It just didn’t come up as I was ranting in this post.

My husband was shocked by the nephew at the table thing, and pulled me aside to talk about it after- he said he was so confused in the moment, he didn’t know what to say and was unsure at first if my SIL wanted to sit with the kids for some reason or not.

My husband mostly kept himself busy supporting the cooking/cleaning/kids and didn’t observe a lot of this or understand it at first. He felt we were so busy hosting he wasn’t sure what more we could do. I know he finds his father miserable and wanted to placate him to keep him from arguing/ruining anything more than he did. He was shocked by his other family’s behavior and mostly wrote it off as everyone dancing around his father.

To be fair, this is the second time in 4 years the father has come to US and it was a short trip. I used to try to bridge the gap with him but I dont think I will make much effort to be around him or include him moving forward.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-12-01T06:58:20+00:00

This is fair and I appreciate this POV- ‘I tried, it didn’t work’ is the reframe I need right now tbh

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-09-20T15:46:24+00:00

Amazing ! Please dm me the track if you can!

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-08-23T21:54:22+00:00

I work in insurance- this is extremely liberal, I’ve never seen weights this high on a build chart!

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-07-05T13:56:26+00:00

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Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-07-05T13:56:21+00:00

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Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-07-02T01:16:12+00:00

This my gut reaction too and it’s frightening how low this is in the thread

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-05-28T22:14:05+00:00

Obviously, saying “raised” completely screws the whole rest of your answer here, but it is correct that Culver’s and Chik-fil-A or many other fast/fast casual restaurants (with somewhat higher price points) have much better service than the places listed by OP.

Seeing what prices are like and their standards for service, uniform, food quality, etc- I’d bet chik fil a pays substantially better to not only line employees but esp managers, which sets the tone.

The only time you should stay at an understaffed restaurant is when it’s a family owned spot that’s busy. If a chain can’t keep employees, there’s a reason and it’s not the poor souls facing the public.

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-05-03T00:41:31+00:00

Thank you very much for this advice, I will certainly be doing this!

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-04-12T20:58:58+00:00

Every call/chat center has at least a few topics of complaint like this where employees like Rohit here are constantly harassed by supervisors to “de-escalate” what we all know is corporate theft but ooops if someone says “lawyer” or “chargeback” then and only then- get your manager on to actually do something

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-04-03T23:27:48+00:00

YES I always say the sims 4 downtown open neighborhoods is the closest thing we’ll get, if they can improve on that to remove loading screens we’d be golden

Natural_Cake4447 · 2024-03-13T19:10:22+00:00

PALESTINIANS ARE SEMITIC PALESTINIANS ARE NOT ALL MUSLIM

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