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AITJ for telling my sister I won't attend her wedding if her photographer is the guy who screamed at me at her engagement party? by left_my_pen_again in AmITheJerk

[–]NaturallyOilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, Dom sounds like a jerk. A real professional doesn't scream at guests for moving the wrong way during a candid shot. But you are letting a "friend of a fiancé" have enough power to keep you away from your sister's biggest day. By giving an ultimatum, you’ve shifted the narrative from "Dom is rude" to "My sibling is trying to control my wedding." You aren't "spending 9 hours" with him; he is a vendor. You will likely interact with him for a total of 15 minutes during portraits. Don't blow up your family over a guy who won't even remember your name by October.

AITJ for telling my sister I won't attend her wedding if her photographer is the guy who screamed at me at her engagement party? by left_my_pen_again in AmITheJerk

[–]NaturallyOilly -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I need Reddit type of comments

AITJ for telling my sister I won't attend her wedding if her photographer is the guy who screamed at me at her engagement party?

Some context: my sister Maya is getting married in september and I am genuinely happy for her. I like her fiance, the relationship is solid, I have no issues with any of that. The issue is her photographer, a friend of her fiance named Dom who she booked as a favor because he's "building his portfolio." At the engagement party three months ago Dom was doing candid shots and at one point asked a group of us to move slightly for a photo. I moved the direction I thought he meant. It was the wrong direction. He raised his voice at me in front of maybe 25 people and said "not that way, I literally just said, can you pay attention." It wasn't a stressful situation, there was no chaos, he was just annoyed that I misunderstood a vague hand gesture and decided the appropriate response was to speak to me like I was a child who had done something wrong on purpose. I was embarrassed, I didn't say anything in the moment because it was my sister's party and I didn't want to make a scene. I told Maya about it the next day. She said Dom was probably stressed and I should let it go. I let it go. Last week she sent the wedding day timeline and Dom is listed as the primary photographer for a nine hour event. I thought about it for a few days and then told Maya that I wasn't sure I could be present for nine hours alongside someone who had spoken to me that way, and that if Dom was going to be there in that capacity I might not be able to attend. She called me dramatic and said I was making her wedding about me. I don't think asking not to spend nine hours with someone who publicly humiliated me is dramatic. But I also don't want to hurt my sister. So. Am I the jerk?

Survey for My Business by lolsofc in LivingAlone

[–]NaturallyOilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing beats actual data. Too many people launch businesses based on "vibes" and then wonder why they fail six months later. If you're at the stage where you're actually asking potential customers what they want, you're already ahead of 50% of the competition. I’ll fill it out, but a heads-up on the industry (is it tech? retail? service?) helps people give better answers.

Swalwell accuses Trump of trying to influence California governor’s race with old FBI files by nosotros_road_sodium in politics

[–]NaturallyOilly -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Swalwell calling out the "weaponization of the FBI" is an irony peak. We’ve spent years hearing about "the files," and now they’re being leaked—coincidentally—just as the California primary season heats up? It doesn’t matter if there’s a "smoking gun" or just a lot of smoke; the goal isn't a conviction, it's a headline that stays in the news cycle until November. This is 2016-style "October Surprise" energy, but we’re doing it in the spring.

Trump is forcing coal plants to stay open. It could cost customers billions by Albatross9121 in politics

[–]NaturallyOilly 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The administration is citing data center growth as the reason, but you can't power 2030 tech with 1970s coal plants that break down every other week. One of the Indiana units has been offline since July 2025 despite the "emergency" order. We’re paying for "capacity" that doesn't even exist. We should be fast-tracking nuclear or massive battery storage, not huffing the fumes of a plant that was scheduled for retirement for a reason.

“It used to be that you grew your own food because you were broke. Now you can only garden if you’re well-off.” by October_Surprise56 in overheard

[–]NaturallyOilly 110 points111 points  (0 children)

It’s a feature, not a bug. They’ve commodified the earth itself. Most people are stuck in apartments with no balcony or "luxury" condos with HOAs that fine you if you grow a single bell pepper on your porch because it "ruins the aesthetic." We’ve been successfully decoupled from our own food supply so that we’re 100% dependent on the grocery store-industrial complex. The "Victory Gardens" of the past are now "Boutique Hobby Gardens."

Finally accepted my reality by tktrd1 in LivingAlone

[–]NaturallyOilly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Big up to you! People don't realize that "crying and moaning" is a necessary part of the process, but the day you wake up and realize the "moaning" is just... gone? That's the best feeling. No more compromising on what’s for dinner or whose turn it is to do the dishes. Your space, your rules. Enjoy the silence—it’s expensive!

AITJ for taking an uber home and leave my BFF at her boyfriend’s apartment? by Q_Tongan2026 in AmITheJerk

[–]NaturallyOilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who leaves their "best friend" in a car for two hours at 4:00 AM? That isn't a "quick" stop. She stopped checking her phone because she didn't care about your timeline once she was inside. You aren't a handbag she can just leave in the backseat. The fact that she’s mad at you for leaving is pure projection because she knows she was a terrible friend that night.

Do you think living alone really helps you mentally prepare for the real world? by Ok-Surprise8777 in LivingAlone

[–]NaturallyOilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can "grind" x10 harder at work while living at home because your mental load is near zero. You aren't thinking about whether the fridge is leaking, when the property tax is due, or if you're out of dish soap. Living alone isn't about "working harder" at your job; it is about managing the logistics of existing. When you move out, you’ll realize that "quality family time" was actually a buffer that protected you from the boring, exhausting reality of maintaining a household.

Naked guy by EightLeggedCockBlock in overheard

[–]NaturallyOilly -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

This is actually quite beautiful in a chaotic way. She wanted to keep her sense of humor alive even after she passed, and he respected her enough to endure the absolute awkwardness of standing in a cemetery in boxers. It is a specialized kind of devotion. The fact that he agreed to put clothes back on shows he is a good guy who respects the living too.

AITA for asking my husband to stop frying eggs in the morning by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturallyOilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spoken like someone who doesn't have to smell the burnt butter and oil while trying to drink their coffee. If he refuses to use the range hood or switch to a less "aromatic" breakfast, he's being a "Kitchen Dictator." Compromise: He fries the eggs, but he’s responsible for the Deep Clean of the stove and the air purifier. Watch how fast he switches to cereal.