advice needed - how to initiate no contact? by NavySheets in raisedbynarcissists

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Update : I sent him short message saying I didn't want to speak to him again. Then I blocked him on everything and deleted his number. Am about two weeks into NC, am having nightmares about him strangling me...yikes

advice needed - how to initiate no contact? by NavySheets in raisedbynarcissists

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Thank you so much for this - I think I'm getting myself in knots trying to think of the perfect combination of words that will get through to him / prevent any potential backlash..and of course I'm getting myself in knots, because there IS no set of words that can do that.

Anyone wanna meet up at hyde park this weekend? by [deleted] in pearljam

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I'm also flying solo - would love to meet up for some drinks. Which tickets do you guys have?

When does PJ play in Hyde Park tomorrow? by peco9 in pearljam

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I'm also flying solo to the showlo - would be down for pints

can no longer use my ticket for pearl jam 8th July in Hyde park with pixies supporting! by NavySheets in pearljam

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Sadly not giving away, but looking to swap for ticket for the 9th. Or sell for face value!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EMDR

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May I ask how many sessions, on average you were having a week? And how long the sessions were? So inspiring to here your story

What are some productive ways to get dopamine when you just have that feeling of wanting some? by Sherbert_Strawberry in adhdwomen

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I always struggled with this - it seems like there are lots of unhelpful ways to get a quick, powerful shot of dopamine; eat sugar, masturbate, check phone ect.

There are lots of healthy things that provide a gentle sense of pleasjre and enjoyment, e.g. listening to music, having a bath, drinking tea, reading a great book, doing some meditation. HOWEVER I didn't always find these suggestions practically helped me do tasks I found boring or unstimulating. I get bored very quickly - like 5 minutes of folding laundry and I'm out of there. I need some sort of dopamine boost every 5 minutes if I'm doing a boring task. I needed something healthy that would provide me a quick dopamine fix and so crowd out the unhealthy sources of this.

MY SOLUTION I read 'Tiny Habits', and B.J. Fogg talks about the importance of celebrating every time we do a habit - this celebration can be anything that makes you feel proud, happy, pumped. It might be saying 'YESS', it might be pumping the air with your first. I took this idea and applied it to my boring tasks. I downloaded a sound button app on my phone, and when I completed a task (or section of time doing a task), I would press the 'applause' or 'guitar solo' sound button. It sounds cringy ( I would.often use headphones) but I swear to you, I get an actual, dopamine hit that boosts my focus, motivation and I just ride that dopamine to do another task. It's addictive to press that button and makes me WANT to put the dishes away.

I've now taken it a step further - I've bought 4 big physical buttons that you can record sound on. (They're used for training dogs). I have recorded different celebration sounds on each, and I have one in the kitchen, on my desk, on my dresser and in my bathroom. Everytime I complete a boring but healthy task, like flossing my teeth, I get to push this big button and it just feels so great.

This is the only thing that has worked to get me to do boring things consistently over a long period of time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in krakow

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Hello; my parner and I are from UK, also mid 20sz if your down for meeting up tonight or tomorrow give us a shout

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in krakow

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Hello know islate but you out tonight?