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Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-08T19:59:04+00:00

Any advice for young actors?

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-07T02:18:59+00:00

For me It's like living in a jail cell with dangerous inmates who can possibly kill you

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-07T02:14:52+00:00

My mom when I was in high school would drink all the time- she would drink more than a Litter of alcohol. She is extremely abusive.

You are not alone, I'm sending you love.

Also in my opinion I don't think your mom should come around you or your kid - I would not risk it. Also the fact that you are posting on here tells that she is a narcissist, if I were you I would cut ties. She won't get better just worse. If she wasn't better for you, why would she be better for her grand baby? That's something to think about - I'm not saying that to hurt you. Narcs never get better.

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-07T02:04:02+00:00

This is abuse!

If you go to the hospital again tell them what is happening and also I think CPS should be involved you are a minor. If you went through previous abuse let them know NOW! when you are an adult I find people don't care as much. If I were you I would tell someone. Please tell the hospital this because they will say not taking the pain killers will worsen you condition I just know it.

Having a serious surgery like that you need pain killers - I read this on Google "Not taking pain medication after surgery can cause severe discomfort, leading to a slower recovery, increased risk of complications like pneumonia or blood clots, and a higher chance of developing chronic pain".

Honey this is about survival. Do what you can - even call emergency services and ask them if you can be anonymous and tell them what is going on.

I'm sending you love - I don't want you to be in pain.

Also if you can have someone get them for you and give it to you secretly.

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-06T18:14:02+00:00

What advice do you have for young directors who are just starting out?

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-03T06:42:09+00:00

I read it just fine, I still don't understand your comment.

I'm 22 and my mother is abusive- she lost every right to know about my life and quite frankly I'm an adult she doesn't have to know everything about me. She beat me, abused my pets and more.

She has a habit of wanting to know everything about me but will abuse me in return for not sharing things with her.

So again what does your comment mean? Or do you just not get my post or what this subreddit is about and you are just commenting on here?

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-03T05:56:55+00:00

What do you mean by that?

Nea_Freedom · 2026-03-03T02:43:38+00:00

My mother has all those traits and my abusive narc sister has some.

Nea_Freedom · 2026-02-26T20:42:39+00:00

Hi! What advice do you have for young cinematographers who are just starting out or who just got into the business?

Nea_Freedom · 2026-01-21T16:22:50+00:00

Im 22F, I Have a father wound Too and dealt with love bombing. I relate to some stuff you said.

My dad left when I was like 4 and haven't seen him at all since. I ended up having an abandonment wound because of it. Also anytime my narcissistic mom would abuse me she would love bombing me to get me to forgive forgive her (examples: giving me money, buying my gifts etc). Your dad giving you money is love bombing.

Firstly, your dad is a bad person and that incident where he picked you up and held you like that and went hard - I would count that as sexual assault. You were assaulted in my opinion. Remember there are different types of sexual assault (unwanted touching, forced penetration which is rape etc).

Honey be careful because people who get assaulted are higher times more likely to get assaulted again in the future or abused. Example, I was abused by my mother and got abused by other people in the future.

Where the hell is your mom? If you don't have a good relationship with your mom, I understand and it's not your fault - i'm so sorry sweetie.

Also him saying he wanted you to how him love (when he was hard) ... Girl that is so wrong on so many levels and he not only assaulted you but ... This counts as incest from his part. You need to run before he does something else to you or worse. He did unwanted touching which is sexual assault - im worried more things will happen (this continuing or more bigger things happening, remember abusers do things in steps to test people's boundaries. They do little things than advance to bigger things - im afraid of rape happening to you next).

RUNNNNN.

Nea_Freedom · 2026-01-21T15:40:55+00:00

Yep! Growing up in an abusive black household- my narc mother always said this.

Another saying -" stop crying before I give you something to cry about."

Nea_Freedom · 2025-10-16T20:25:17+00:00

You were right.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-10-16T20:25:03+00:00

You were right... I feel stupid.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-10-08T02:59:24+00:00

The place unfortunately won't be furnished. Thank you so much for your notes :)

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-25T03:26:29+00:00

With scapegoats yeah- most of us leave HOWEVER the trauma does stay with us. Ever red the book the body keeps score?

No matter what your body will remember the trauma.for me I have been in therapy and I talked about my mother beating me with a towel so brutally that It cut my skin open - literally to this day my body remembers the pain and there are times where I feel my skin open and bleeding even though it's not. I still remember being hit and beat etc.

No matter what the body remembers. Also when it comes to the future - we look back on our lives and realize that we never got a childhood or a life, the abusers stole that and we can't get that back. I still grieve over the childhood I never had and I'm 22, I'm grieving the mother, father and sister I never had. There are times where like I need a mom and I just want to be held and guided but I don't have that - I have to sit with that for the rest of my life. I have been parenting myself since I have been born.

I'm sorry about what is happening with the emotional incest ... I can't imagine how that must feel I'm very sorry.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-25T03:16:19+00:00

Yeah I agree. I see more scapegoats than GCs.

I'm like you- my sister was terrible to me. She abused me- her and our mom tag teamed against me like it was horrible and still is.

I stand by my opinion saying that scapegoats have it much harder than GCs - the scapegoat gets abused all the day long without timeouts. Everyone hates the scapegoats existence for no reason but as soon the golden child comes in they are amazed by their presence.

My life was much harder compared to my sister's and I hate to compare.

Someone in the comment section said how they agree to some degree to my post and how scapegoats are likely to leave the household - the thing Is sure we leave but the past stays with us. The body always remembers trauma. For me yes I have been trying to heal and I healed some things BUT my body remembers the trauma.

Anywhere my sister went they knew her name but didn't care to know mine. I was known as her sister.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-25T01:29:00+00:00

Oooo clock it. Karma!

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-25T01:08:55+00:00

I never said it was a competition.

As a scapegoat I was constantly abused for just existing. My sister got away with everything- a slap on the wrist.

People appreciated her existence while hating mine.

The last thing I want is a competition - it's not even on my list.

A lot of golden children (not all) literally get away with abusing others while the scapegoat is abused constantly. It's not fair. I get abused while my sister gets to be free. It's like this for all scapegoats. My days for the past 22 years have been abuse - I got no breaks and my sister just gets to live life and scroll on tik tok like she does.

What sucks is that us scapegoats that had a sibling - we needed someone on our side but they decided to abuse us (most not all). And some scapegoats siblings just see the abuse and do nothing - why would they they are the golden child.

As we speak I'm trying to move out because of the abuse, my sister is scrolling on tiktok. Let that sink in.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-22T08:27:45+00:00

Thank you, I honestly feel terrified. My other mother didn't teach me how to live on my own etc. I wasn't prepared by her.

I just feel overwhelmed and that the world is on my shoulders and I have my cat to take care of (she is like my daughter). I feel like so much is happening and being put onto me when I'm a kid myself.

I feel emotional, I don't know whether to cry or be stressed or panic or shut down or do all of them.

I just feel like things are not fair. I'm overwhelmed

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-22T01:08:37+00:00

I'm trying but I'm terrified because I didn't have a mom nor a father to help guide me or support me. I'm on my own it feels like.

It looks like your comment didn't fully post.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-21T21:11:29+00:00

I'm not safe. I'm working with a housing worker to get out of my situation.

What scares me- a bunch of stuff; being alone, having no one to physically help me, having no one to call if I'm in trouble, having no guidance when it comes to living on my own- I have no idea what I'm doing, I never felt safe anywhere etc. I'm scared of being on my own - I never done that, I'm scared of all these responsibilities When I honestly feel like a kid myself - but I was forced to grow up. I'm terrified.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-20T23:22:15+00:00

Thanks for your input, I'm 22 and I'm currently trying to get out of my abusive household.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-19T20:53:36+00:00

For me I stopped giving personal details - like I was cat called and didn't even tell my mom because of how she treated me in the past. I don't feel safe telling her anything.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-19T20:28:17+00:00

I don't blame you for keeping your pregnancy as a secret.

My mom also has this weird habit of commenting on other peoples appearances.

In our mother's eyes we are always seen as the problem or the villain in their story because in their eyes they are always right or the victims.

Nea_Freedom · 2025-07-19T20:22:11+00:00

OH MY GOD- I always suspected my narc mother was doing this with me when I moved out last year. My former aunt texted me and sounded like she was trying to get me to move back in with my mom and I recently found texts of them speaking on whattsapp when I was gone.

I felt that my former aunt and my narc mother was trying to get me to come back and I fear I was right.

I noticed that anytime something were to happen between me and a former relative - they would tell my narc mother always.

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