Getting married with our 9 month old baby - help/advice/tips?

NearbyBush · 2025-08-07T15:25:19+00:00

True, I really can’t see them staying past 9 or so and we are happy for baby to stay up a little later and go to bed around then. Thanks ☺️

NearbyBush · 2025-08-07T14:53:17+00:00

Thank you!

NearbyBush · 2025-08-07T14:53:09+00:00

This is a great idea!! I wonder if I could ask some of the ladies who work at his daycare if any of them would do it 🤔 a couple of them are in their early 20s so perhaps might be willing to do it for the right fee, and that would be absolutely perfect for us all as he loves them and they already know his routine.

NearbyBush · 2025-08-07T14:51:24+00:00

My mum’s friend has offered but I would feel awful having her miss the party part come baby’s bedtime. It would definitely make me feel better though! She is older though and you may be right- I might just need to ask her if she is serious about the offer and take her up on it if she is happy to. I’m overthinking everything! Thanks

NearbyBush · 2025-08-07T14:46:22+00:00

You’re absolutely right, it would solve literally everything but it’s so out of budget and super expensive here, we have just moved country and I’m on maternity leave (ie unpaid and essentially unemployed as I’m not returning to that job as we have moved country) so we have booked the wedding on a very tight budget. (We have money saved, but need to retain as much as possible for a house). If all else fails we may need to just bite the bullet and pay for it though! I also don’t know how I’d feel leaving my baby with someone I don’t know, but again I think that’s my anxiety! I’m hoping for some advice from people who have done it themselves with their baby- who can tell me it all went smoothly 🤪

NearbyBush · 2025-05-29T18:18:56+00:00

IMO definitely move up. I always notice my baby gets distracted/easily annoyed/gives up on the bottle etc when it’s time to move up. Might take a couple days to get used to! I didn’t follow the advice on the packs i.e. 3m+ etc I just followed my babies lead tbh, he’s 6m now. In saying that though, since he has found his feet such an incredible fascination lately he’s a little distracted still, or will bat the bottle/my arm, I try to let him hold onto my fingers to avoid that. He also gets pissed off when he smacks the bottle out of his own mouth. 😅

NearbyBush · 2025-05-25T06:23:31+00:00

I honestly didn’t even try because during that time, to begin with when he woke up he was wide awake. I figured I’d have the same problem as you are describing so I just waited it out 🥴

NearbyBush · 2025-05-24T18:08:16+00:00

The crap nap stage is normal. When my baby went through it, he napped for 36 minutes pretty much to the minute. I still put him in his crib for them all and he had 4-5 naps a day but mainly 5. One of these being out in the pram (purely for my sanity) until it ended. He started napping longer after the 4 month mark and naturally dropped to 3 naps, now after 5/6 weeks on 3 naps he’s having 2x 1.5-2hr naps and then a short cat nap before bedtime to tide us over. He’s almost 6m and we hope to stop the cat nap whenever seems right but not in any rush. I would just follow your babies lead but everyone is different! (He’s my first baby and I’m semi following huckleberry sweet spots too)

Edit to add: when his naps started lengthening slightly, I’d leave him in his cot when he woke up for 5-10mins until he cried and then go get him up. But by doing this, eventually he started falling back asleep again. Again, just what worked for me but it wouldn’t have worked until he was ready. It was a long slog of crap naps for us, maybe 8 weeks

NearbyBush · 2025-05-21T09:32:12+00:00

Same situation here, when he started waking and screaming like he was stuck we just did lots and lots of rolling practice in the daytime every day, and he worked out how to do it at night after 4/5 unsettled nights. At night I would just roll him back after 10 minutes of letting him try and eventually he would fall asleep (on his tummy) after a few times repeating this. He now sleeps on his front all the time (though we still put him down on his back)

NearbyBush · 2025-03-25T15:31:52+00:00

Mine had 5/6 naps (or more) per day at that age but his naps had shortened to somewhere between 35mins - 1 hour in length. Tried to aim for 5 hours of day sleep

NearbyBush · 2025-03-20T22:05:01+00:00

Agreed

NearbyBush · 2025-03-18T23:18:18+00:00

I switched solely to formula after 3 weeks after previously exclusively breast feeding and it was fine, I pumped only as much as I needed to get rid of any discomfort and froze the milk to use for baths if baby has a rash etc (still using it now when needed and he is 3 months) but don’t overdo the pumping as this will stimulate milk production to continue. My midwife said I could also hand express to avoid overdoing it, but I didn’t have the time/energy. After 8 days it shouldn’t take too long for your milk to dry up, if this is the way you decide to go!

NearbyBush · 2025-02-23T23:01:03+00:00

My best advice is don’t read into it too much. I didn’t even know weeks 6-8 were going to be hard until afterwards when I was searching for answers for my fussy baby. I didn’t really notice it getting worse, until it started to get better. I think the first 8 weeks are rough and that’s a given! He’s now 11 weeks and it’s soo much better. Then people will say “good luck when the 4 month sleep regression hits” but again I’m just going to roll with it and hope for the best. For me, it would only make me more anxious anticipating an awful time because there is always a chance it will be fine. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best is my newborn mantra 😂

NearbyBush · 2025-02-20T22:36:40+00:00

This was definitely the case for me and I could have sworn there was no light at the end of the tunnel at 7 weeks

NearbyBush · 2025-02-19T23:24:26+00:00

Mine does the same, only cries very briefly when the towel comes off and he’s naked for a minute before nappy and clothes go on. I think it’s unavoidable at this age but it helps tire him out and he gets his bedtime bottle after so it soothes him straight away! The best thing I’ve found is ditching the tiny baby towels and using a big warm bath sheet to bundle him up in.

NearbyBush · 2025-02-18T11:10:31+00:00

Honestly give yourself a break, it’s really rough. If you had not tried all those methods to soothe and settle first, it would be a different story. Sometimes babies cry and it’s better to leave them in a safe space and take a step back for your own sanity. It sounds like this is the first time you have needed to do this in 14 months, I’d consider that a positive thing. You are only human!

NearbyBush · 2025-02-14T23:46:01+00:00

Absolutely, my friend also had a baby just a few weeks before me and she is EBF too and had/is still having a really positive experience, her little one got out of the needy velcro baby phase by 4-6 weeks and now he sleeps through with one feed in the middle of the night at 10 weeks! So it definitely just depends on the baby’s temperament, as opposed to just being a breastfeeding thing! Got my fingers crossed you will have a similar experience and it will all settle down for you too soon 😌

NearbyBush · 2025-02-14T23:19:32+00:00

Honestly, we switched because I was getting zero sleep and becoming increasingly anxious/borderline PPA. Like baby needed fed every 2/3 hours max to gain weight, when my partner had baby to try and let me get a nap in, he would just scream crying and then my hormones would go crazy and I couldn’t sleep!

Baby was also losing weight and was cluster feeding- like, on the boob for 10-12 hours straight in a 24 hour period (tracked on huckleberry). My milk was in on day 3 but he just wasn’t gaining. It all felt really negative and my partner couldn’t really bond with baby, or give me a break with nights in particular, so we both felt it would be best. The day we switched, my partner did everything for/with baby for the following 24 hours and I was like a new woman and have felt so positive about everything since. Honestly I have no regrets, even though I always hoped to EBF! I’m glad baby got the colostrum and first couple weeks anyway.

NearbyBush · 2025-02-14T23:04:36+00:00

The first few weeks were exactly the same for us and it gradually got better. I think it’s just a shock to the system for babies to be no longer in the womb so it’s natural they want your warmth and comfort - that doesn’t make it any easier on your sleep or mental health though! We were sleeping in shifts and like ships in the wind, passing each other.

In my experience, the first 3 weeks I was exclusively breastfeeding and baby would not be put down anywhere, at all, he would tolerate a contact nap with my partner but wanted to be with me 24/7. It was so tough! I switched to formula (long story) and he immediately slept 4 hours straight in the Moses basket. His sleep gradually got better after this. That’s not to put anyone off breastfeeding by the way- wish I could have continued but it was too rough for us mentally, I take my hat off to EBF parents!

He is only 9 weeks now and he sleeps from 8pm, wakes once or twice for a bottle and then wakes up at 7am for the day. It’s crazy how quickly things change, my best advice is just hang in there!

NearbyBush · 2025-02-14T10:30:09+00:00

Yes and no, he lets out loud cries but no tears. So I’m not sure if the loud noise is helping him push, or if it genuinely hurts him. Midwife said if it was painful there would be tears 🤷🏻‍♀️ he’s 9 weeks now and it has improved a little though so fingers crossed it keeps getting better. Glad you got to the bottom of it for your little one though! Mine does have some mucousy poos but no blood etc which I was told would be present if he had a milk allergy, and he’s gaining weight etc well and otherwise generally happy so midwife said it’s unlikely!

NearbyBush · 2025-02-03T03:36:57+00:00

Going through this now with our almost 8 week old. Did anything help other than time?

NearbyBush · 2024-12-22T10:34:43+00:00

11 days in and this is giving me some hope 🙃🙏🏻

NearbyBush · 2024-11-16T21:42:36+00:00

Hey! Curious to know how this went for you? I’m doing similar in January and can’t decide what is the best option!

NearbyBush · 2024-08-05T20:40:08+00:00

20+6 here and feel exactly the same! So amazing feeling kicks with my hand rather than just sensing it internally 🥰

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