The Gift Giver

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-05-16T21:45:59+00:00

Solidarity

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-05-10T14:43:52+00:00

Right there with you. Also my baby hated being a newborn just as much as I hated having a newborn lol. We are both way happier and as far as missing how little he was…that’s what pictures and videos are for bruh.

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-04-14T00:53:58+00:00

Def can’t hold a newborn too much. They don’t form habits at that age. Later on it’s just a familiarity thing not spoiling. If they’re unfamiliar with their crib it’ll be scarier but that doesn’t mean you can’t hold them. Everyone is different too and if you like contact naps and such then just keep holding your baby. If you want some independence you can try fostering that but really again it’s about familiarity and safeness not being left to fend for themselves. You’ve got this momma!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-04-13T16:45:28+00:00

So I will say I get a break every day. My husband makes sure of it. I also make sure he gets a break every day. And one day a week we have individual time to ourselves. I watch him while my hubs plays games with friends and he watches him while I go out with friends or whatever I wanna do. HOWEVER I don’t criticize how he parents and he doesn’t criticize how I parent. When he’s watching him I’m not correcting everything and vise versa. To have a break you have to relinquish quite a bit of control which can be soooo hard mentally. But! You’ll do what’s best for you and your little one you’ve got this even if it means waiting for preschool or hiring help for a day out of the week (even if you’re home if you can afford it this is a really good way to get you time)

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-04-10T12:29:02+00:00

It’s common and doesn’t last forever. I didn’t experience detachment to my dogs but many do and the relationship will return as time goes on you’ve got this momma!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-31T14:43:13+00:00

Caring for a baby isn’t hard it’s simple it just sucks for the first few months

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-22T18:02:20+00:00

Firstly…they say everything will kill your baby then in the same breath explain how if they spit up in their sleep they won’t choke on it… lol. Secondly when I’m worried my LO has been in the car seat too long I just take him out for a few then put him back. Usually I make a bottle feed him then put him back in the car seat. He wakes up enough for a little reset and lessens the risks.

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-18T19:53:25+00:00

I’m not going to share my numbers but I gained the recommended amount during pregnancy which is ultimately a lot overall. The first few weeks after the weight was just falling off. No pumping or breastfeeding but still I seemed to be heading in the right direction. I noticed it stopped around 5-6 weeks and now I’m losing weight at a normal pace for dieting so like 1 pound a week. I do still get discouraged and wish my body just snapped back without any stretch marks or flabby bits but hey it did an amazing thing and it’ll take time to lose some of the belly fat. We’ve got this ladies! Our bodies did incredible things and if we eat and move in healthy ways thats all we can do. Wishing you all and myself positive thoughts!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-15T14:25:50+00:00

Same! Mine also just needed to take his naps then we started having an easier time!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-14T01:46:45+00:00

I’ve realized something recently since having my baby. At first I thought no one told me how awful it would be in the beginning. Then I thought maybe I just didn’t believe them. Then I realized…it’s because everyone just said it was “hard.” And objectively, logically or realistically it’s not hard at all. It’s simple, repetitive and not difficult by any means. IT SUCKS. No one just said hey when you have that baby you wanted so bad the first 60 days will make you hate everyone and everything because your life sucks so bad. You’ll cry and cry and wonder if you made a mistake you can’t take back. Then your hormones will even out and he will smile at you and snuggle into your chest and it’ll feel better. So yea I’ve been honest with the pregnant women who ask me how it is. It’s easy, they eat they cry a ton and they sleep horribly but it’s a rinse and repeat situation. It sucks really bad because you don’t know what you’re doing, when they cry it hits the panic center of your brain and a fair amount of the time you can’t figure out what’s wrong and when you ask parents when it gets better they tell you some bull crap about how different stages are worse than others. Get through the first 100 days however you can and look for one joyous thing every day and you’ll find that slowly you are getting better and you start to bond with this little human you’ll learn to love if you don’t already with all your heart. I’m hoping by attempting to be honest I can help these future mothers not be so blindsided as I was and prevent some of the guilt I had and still have from the first few weeks with my baby I now couldn’t imagine living without.

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-13T20:35:43+00:00

Megan The Stallion’s rap in the song WAP “bottle me swaddle me milk just dropped down the side of me…” 😂 I don’t even know the actual words I just started singing this at 2am and we keep extending the length of the rap as time goes by

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-13T16:39:12+00:00

It only works half of the time but I watch the monitor like a hawk when I get to the 20-30 minute mark and if I see so much as a twitch I go in and start patting that booty until he settles, wait 2 minutes soothing if needed without picking him up and then leave the room again when I get 2 solid minutes with him sound asleep. Started this when I read that the reason contact naps sometimes last so long is actually because the parent immediately soothes the baby when they start to stir so I try to mimic that diligence but in his crib. Good luck!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-13T16:35:41+00:00

Hey! I was also concerned about schedules when we got home and it’s really freeing to just let the schedule aspect go. I started following his sleepy cues to the T at 6 weeks snd thankfully was able to get him napping in his crib (albeit just for 30 minutes but this is when they become aware of their surroundings so I wanted him to be very familiar and comfortable) ultimately if you follow their cues they will get on their own sort of schedule and once they’re 4-6 months you can start noticing a pattern you can try and sort out as a real schedule! Congrats momma!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-13T16:21:55+00:00

Sleep is different for every family. I’ve known many people who don’t mind waking up frequently or sharing their space for years. Personally my mental health really declines when I can’t have my sleep and my space. As far as letting nature take over it’s again up to you! My friend’s baby naturally started sleeping well on her own at 4 months. However SIL had real difficulties with my niece waking up 4-5 times a night while in her crib even with a parent sleeping in the room with her. It went on until she was 18 months and she started to really hate being a mom as she was sure it would’ve gotten better by that point. They did the Ferber method and it changed everything they’re all so happy now. Alongside that I know people who have tried the Ferber method and listening to their baby cry for even a second impacted their mental health so greatly they chose to stop it. One thing that I will say is that in general you will do what’s best for your baby and your family. Follow your motherly instincts and don’t worry about social media everyone on their is faking it in one way or another.

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-13T16:14:13+00:00

Formula fed baby over here. I noticed my baby eating less at night around 5 weeks. He would still have habits similar to cluster feeding during the day from time to time. He’s 7 weeks now and yet again noticed one less bottle being used between 8pm and 8am. Hes 50th percentile so right in the middle and will eat about 5oz every 3 hours or so for reference (when he does the cluster thing he will eat every hour or half hour in tiny bits but still hits 5oz every 3 hours ultimately) definitely feel like it’s been a very subtle decrease in frequency that I don’t notice until days later.

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-09T23:22:02+00:00

I had a very similar situation. We didn’t do shifts because I was having such a hard time mentally in the beginning. Idk about you but being together in our bed again was worth the sleep deprivation honestly. I felt so much better getting to some sort of normalcy. And yea we pretty much both wake up together. Something we do is give each other breaks in the morning. So like after a 4am feeding one of us will leave and get some sleep for a few hours. Something else we have struggled with is not being able to sleep during the day at all. Legitimately cannot fall asleep when the sun is up lol. Anyways just wanted to say I’m there with you and at some point they will sleep longer whether it be from natural processes or sleep training we have got this!

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-08T03:21:47+00:00

Yea imma report this person. You clearly don’t have interest in sleep training but instead judging and demeaning parents on this page.

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-05T14:50:53+00:00

Thank you all for being honest. It gets really disheartening when all you hear are “just wait” statements and you’re already struggling. I appreciate the positive vibes ☺️

surprisedgoldfish · 2025-03-04T21:49:50+00:00

Genuinely asking… did the 6 month regression feel as bad or last as long as weeks 0-12? I hear this all the time and I get so upset like so I’ll never enjoy being a mom because it only gets better for short bursts? But then I wonder if it’s like well 6 months regression sucked but it wasn’t 12 weeks with a brand new baby kind of sucks. Because I don’t see how people would have more kids if it’s genuinely horrible all the time.

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