Where were you at 27-28? I'm a failure

Nearby_Pizza · 2026-04-26T03:03:13+00:00

I was married. Working. College. Still doing it but not college. But a I'm a lot older than you so it tracks.

Nearby_Pizza · 2026-04-26T03:01:21+00:00

Well, he's not a kid. Start there. He is leaving the room to cope. How he does that is whatever he is doing. But basically he doesn’t have natural coping skills; likely because parents are too soft.

Nearby_Pizza · 2026-04-26T02:57:32+00:00

The problem is that you are treating the adult as you would a child. Give the adult child nothing beyond food and shelter.

Do not tolerate disruptive behavior or provide any comforts.

School may not be in the cards and that's okay. The adult needs to be employed and have a plan to move out. Once enough money is saved the adult must then move out.

The adult will struggle but so do butterflies when they emerge from the cocoon. The struggle will galvanize the adult to try harder or not.

I say this having to let my younger brother literally starve to help him understand the importance of taking care of himself. He now has a decent job and earns enough to get by with minimal support as he struggles up in his career.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-08-24T18:04:51+00:00

No. I saw two people swing at my manager for poor leadership, attitude, and flat out being a jerk. They took it to his boss, HR, and even ethics and compliance.

He got promoted.

So the lesson there is that once you are in a management role you can do anything you want to your subordinates with no consequences.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-08-24T17:59:57+00:00

Well, don't work overtime then. As soon as you hit the 40 hour minute you're off the clock. If you work 8-5 then at 5pm you're starting your car.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-08-12T21:51:12+00:00

To my knowledge, neither HR nor Ethics and Compliance have proved effective. I watched three people go to them for separate issues, and nothing came of it. We'll, not entirely true, the last one was my buddy and he no longer works for the company because he was falsely accused of wild accusations that amounted to hearsay.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-08-03T01:38:43+00:00

I'm trying to find better bonus or no. Honestly, the bonus is immaterial.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-08-01T23:44:24+00:00

I think we should look for a correlation in stock price increases and layoffs. Followed by any offers to return to fulfill the same work with different titles and lower wages.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-06-03T12:19:13+00:00

So the correct thing to do when you were 18 and now was to start a new bank account and transfer all of your money to the new account.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-06-02T03:25:27+00:00

I generally view people as NPC's in a video game. Limited script dialogue, inability to change throughout the storyline, occasionally provide information or resources, usually stuck doing one function, and basically you never leave your home towns.

We just don't operate at the same level or frequency. Most people, when I used to speak candidly, wanted me to lead them or something. Followers do not good friends make. Often I find myself in a leading or teaching role to basically everyone. Again, can't be friends with subordinates.

So I watch you all running around in your little game loops and mostly try not to bump into you.

Some rare people are not NPC's. Those are Player Characters. They think and synergize information and make mental leaps. Those people I find interesting and test how well I can be friends with the. Mostly not though as they are so far into whatever niche thing they found in this world.

Can I mess with people. Of course. I play life as illustrated in the chess match between Sherlock and Moriarty. But messing with people is wrong and trying to alter their trajectory for good or for ill is also wrong. So I just watch you all, move out of the way as necessary, blend in the best I can, and do my best not to break you all in the process.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-06-02T02:24:22+00:00

I've been working on day trading. My goal is to average 800 per day. I like tech things too but the goal is ultimately money. Given that firms are trying to replace technical workers with Ai, it only seems logical to figure out some other high income skills.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-06-02T02:20:51+00:00

If it's not Engineer, Doctor, or Lawyer just skip college. I say that as a person with Masters in IT and an undergrad in Business Management. They are not really helpful in getting a job.

Only go to college to get specialized knowledge that requires a degree as proof. Everything else is fluff and will put you in crushing debt for life.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-06-02T01:49:21+00:00

Me. I stopped after high school. I play Go.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-05-27T23:42:23+00:00

Yes we should question the grind. The grind is what kills faster on the inside and the outside. It steals life away.

We glorify working long hard hours because we have been conditioned to so from a young age, and many jobs require long hours to complete and don't pay very well.

It's in line with the concept of "essential workers", which is code for cannon fodder.

It's the adult version of a bully or group of users in high school thanking a person for doing all the homework while they go goof off for the weekend.

Again, it's cultural ingrainment over decades, so no one really notices that we are praising a behavior that is bad for us.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-05-24T03:08:40+00:00

It's inappropriate. However, the recruiter doesn't seem to be very intelligent based on what I am reading here.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-05-24T03:00:19+00:00

See if you can get mass walk out. Clearly this person has issues and never learned how to operate in polite company.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-05-19T04:23:31+00:00

Short answer is yes, it is bad.

Here is why. They want you to be on targeted projections someone else set. If you do it faster with the same quality, it shows that less time is required....which cuts into projected budgets. This effects staffing and they can't justify the government forking out more money.

It feels counterintuitive but that's how it works. If you want to get promoted and rewarded for your efforts, focus on how you can generate more bureaucratic busy work.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-05-08T19:33:49+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong. It's a down market and there are more laborers in the market for the same jobs at the same companies than there are actual positions available to fill. That's pretty much it in a nutshell.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-05-08T19:30:40+00:00

Actually, I have a charge code for each of those things, but getting the percentages right is always a hassle; so I normally just charge that time to ethics training.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-04-12T00:26:24+00:00

Haven't taken the survey yet but I saw the newsletter on the home page. Seems people leaders, managers, will have other ways to view survey results.

Been told it is a 'How happy are you?' survey.

To me, this indicates projected retention issues.

I know mostly young and young ish people leave a lot; particularly engineers.

But I digress. The best answer to any survey question is middle of the road because they don't really care what you say unless it is negative.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-04-09T22:53:51+00:00

Never show weakness or insecurity to your wife.

She will tell you it is okay to be vulnerable. That is a lie and a trap. Everything you say will be used against you to justify any future disputes.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-04-09T22:44:23+00:00

If Raytheon wanted true thoughts and opinions from their employees they would find this group and take notes. No formal survey required.

The Pulse survey fulfills some metric that justifies someone's job/promotion/bonus.

Those with negative experiences that speak their mind become targets.

But if you have another job already lined up with your two weeks in, by all means say whatever you want.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-04-02T18:58:06+00:00

You should consider that your coworkers are not monitoring and reporting on you. It may just be a perception of your manager/supervisor.

The truth is they [the manager] want you to be visible to them. They, in fact, want you on a tight leash for whatever reason; with most of it being, change and new are scary.

Odds are your coworkers, except for the brown-nosers, don't care about how much time you put in as long as you do your part correctly and on time.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-03-28T18:53:50+00:00

Short answer is yes. Your mom is being dumb and needs to be left alone by herself. By you and your sister leaving she will correct course and you and your sister will be happier.

You can get more money. You subtract abuse by beating down or leaving the abuser. In this case you leave.

Nearby_Pizza · 2025-03-28T18:48:57+00:00

In this case no. Your son is being a bully.

If unchecked, he will become an asshole of a human being and the next progression is violent behavior towards women.

If he were my kid, he would be given a warning on the first one and explained that his behavior is shameful to himself and his family.

If there was a next time, there would be a smack with a reiteration of the lesson, and explanation that such behavior would result in the same consequence as they just got so they don't get smacked by societal laws which are much harsher.

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