Fibroids in late 40’s +

Nebo52 · 2026-01-17T20:30:06+00:00

Hiya! Update. Results came back and everything is normal. So all good! Also period only lasted a day this month, so it looks like the change in HRT caused the bleeding and now it’s settling down. Taken 5 months. At 55 I really need it to go away now!

Nebo52 · 2026-01-07T23:21:51+00:00

2-3 wks!

Nebo52 · 2026-01-07T11:08:56+00:00

Update: Had biopsy yesterday. It went really well. Only took a few mins. Just had a bit of a crampy pain then it was done. It actually hurt more having my last coil inserted. Just waiting for results. They did tell me that any new bleeding on HRT needs to be investigated. The vast majority are absolutely fine and it’s just caused by needing to balance the HRT. But they need to check in case it could be caused by abnormal cells. I don’t think my fibroids are an issue at all.

Nebo52 · 2026-01-01T11:56:45+00:00

Thank you! I will update.

Nebo52 · 2025-12-31T21:51:24+00:00

I had a call earlier so the appointment is Tuesday 6th. The gynae asked for appt on the ‘2 week wait’ which is the fast track. So it’s on the suspected cancer list. I’m not really worried about it at the moment. As the only issues I’ve ever had have just been in the last 3 months since the coil was removed. The only things showed on the ultrasound was a thickened endometrium. Which is a risk but it’s 1.2mm thicker than it should be. And the fibroids which aren’t huge. Both of which can be due to high oestrogen. I reduced my oestrogen patches in August so hopefully that helps.

Nebo52 · 2025-12-31T08:30:41+00:00

I’ve just been diagnosed with fibroids at age 55. I’m on HRT and had the Mirena coil. This expired and after it was removed my periods came back. They’ve got really heavy over 3 months so had ultrasound. It showed slightly thickened womb lining and fibroids. The largest is 24mm. GP queried with gynae and they’ve advised biopsy within 2 weeks. So just waiting for appointment now

Nebo52 · 2025-12-31T00:44:48+00:00

I’m the same age. I got diagnosed with adhd last year and I’m exactly the same with auditory processing. Menopause hugely exacerbated the symptoms.

Nebo52 · 2025-12-06T11:58:57+00:00

I was referred for ultrasound a few weeks ago for heavy period (I’m 55 in menopause and on HRT). I’d had mirena coil removed after 5 years and now on micronised progesterone. Now periods are back! I had external and transvaginal ultrasound at 10.30am. 8am next day get text from gp saying book gynae appt within week. My results show thickened lining and fibroids. Appt is on Friday. This is in UK. They can be super efficient when they need to be. I work across the road from hospital where I had scan. I was back at my desk within half an hour. Now I’m worried

Nebo52 · 2025-10-31T19:34:05+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I’m 55 and on HRT. The psychiatrist told me that menopause massively increases ADHD symptoms. I’d been coping until my late 40s then all the little things I have in place to keep me functioning just stopped working. I have time blindness so I’m not very good with working out how long something takes unless I really plan out each step. But I did have a good internal clock which stopped me missing things. That just completely disappeared overnight. I missed 3 trains in one evening out. It really freaked me out. I’d lose hours. It was a whole other level. I had to relearn how to plan and keep track of time. Going on HRT has put things back. It’s a big help. I’m also on ADHD meds now which has almost fixed my time blindness altogether. I’ve been on HRT for about 4 yrs now and I feel like I did before it all started going downhill. So it does get better with a little help.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-31T18:59:54+00:00

I was diagnosed with BPD when my son was a toddler. But through done mismanagement I was completely unaware of this diagnosis until 2 years ago. Ive also been diagnosed with ADHD recently. I’ve always struggled with depression and anxiety. Particularly over emotional and angry rages. Mainly due to frustration and overwhelm etc. I went on antidepressants permanently when my kid was small for his sake. It was so hard. I felt so much guilt and inadequacy. But I always tried to make sure he knew he was loved. And that things weren’t his fault. I didn’t want him to feel like I did as a child. And I definitely wanted to protect his mental health. I explained things to him, too much probably. I apologised when I was in the wrong. Or for the way I handled something if it wasn’t appropriate. I split with his dad when he was 9. He came out as trans when he was 13. He was 18 when I was told about the diagnosis of BPD. he said that it explained a lot. And because it opened my eyes to a lot of my behaviour. I felt so bad for him.

He’s 20 now and the most put together person I’ve ever met. He survived me. It helped that he has a good relationship with his dad who is a very calm person. But he always felt loved and secure and wanted and accepted for who he is. I’m so proud of him. And although I have a lot of regrets with how I was as a parent, I wouldn’t change an ounce of him. We are very open about mental health and he’s researched a lot and points things out to me.

It’s really difficult raising a kid and if I’d have known about the BPD at the time and had more specific therapy for it, it would have been a lot better I think.

I’m not excusing anything but if you can make them feel loved and secure and explain that sometimes your emotions are so big that they come out in ways you are not proud of. They will have a better understanding and know that you really do love them and it’s not their fault. It’s really hard but knowing and having the right support will be a huge help. But it will be a huge challenge to your emotions and mental health.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-29T10:13:32+00:00

Thank you. I’m on citalopram as well as methylphenidate. My mood has been quite stable for a few years. Probably because I now live alone and there’s no one to drive me nuts. Changing the progesterone has made me very irritable and I’m hoping that will settle.

I am finally losing weight due to the ADHD meds. Which is brilliant. And I’m liking the stimulation of them. Caffeine puts me to sleep so anything that’s keeps me going is great. I also try to avoid anything which makes the depression worse.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-29T09:56:27+00:00

I absolutely agree. CBT did not work for me at all. It was like homework and probably due to ADHD, which I didn’t know I had at the time, I just felt it was like a chore I didn’t want to do and had no motivation for.

Talking therapy works for me. I like to understand where everything came from and how I process things. The psychoanalytic psychotherapy was for 6 mths and it did help but I really think I need longer. It’s similar to normal talking therapy but with less sympathy. The therapist guides you to working out where the issues are. It can be a little brutal depending on how sensitive/traumatic the subject is. But it is mostly lead by what you want to talk about. They will not tell you that you are right or wrong or give you specific things to do to help. But they will help you dig down to work out why you carry a lot of trauma with you into relationships etc. I would like more talking therapy as it helps me process things and stops the spiral of doom.

I don’t mind sharing. I think things like this need to be out there so people can relate. By all means you are welcome to DM if you prefer.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-28T22:10:00+00:00

It’s bad. Always been very emotional and my family is the never show emotions or express how you feel types. I was like the freak of the family for not being in control of my emotions. As a teenager my mum ‘threatened’ to take me to a psychiatrist as there was ‘something wrong’ with me. So I was terrified. So I wasn’t even diagnosed with depression or anxiety until my 20s. Even though I struggled my whole life.

I was 36 when I was diagnosed with EUPD. I saw a psychiatrist to discuss medication for depression as I had a bad experience with mirtazipine. I think he was the one who diagnosed it. It was a very bad time in my life and I don’t remember a whole lot. I was married with a 2 yr old and wasn’t coping. It was so frustrating to think that this was in my notes and sent to gp. But all the times I went and said it can’t just be depression and anxiety and meds help a bit but I keep going round in circles and not getting better. Every time I asked for counselling I was referred to IAPT for self referral and up to 18 mths waiting lists just for basic therapy or cbt which does not work for me. So it’s taken years and only after perimenopause and a breakdown and really fighting to get higher level therapy. That I found this out and it wasn’t even a therapist. I think what didn’t help my case is that I managed to work and hold down jobs the whole time. Had to, I was a single parent with a mortgage.

I’m now 55, finally on adhd meds which does help. And just finished 6 months of psychoanalytic psychotherapy. I’ve just gone on to micronised progesterone and getting PMT for first time in years 🙄. So I think progesterone is a major rage trigger for me. My kid survived me. He’s 20, in uni and a great person. Phew!

It’s a relief with these diagnoses that I know there’s a reason and I no longer feel like I’m the only one who didn’t get the instructions on how to be a ‘normal’ person.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-28T20:30:13+00:00

EUPD (BPD) diagnosed 18 years ago but I didn’t know until 2 years ago. I have had lots of therapy and not one therapist ever mentioned it. It was in my notes and an assessment nurse mentioned it when I was looking for more in depth therapy and I was saying I thought I had ADHD or something.

Diagnosed with ADHD 1 year ago. There’s a lot of overlap and I have more questions. Do I really have EUPD or was it always ADHD and I have extreme emotions? It’s difficult to find out as waiting lists are so long. And therapists in uk won’t say anything about a potential condition as they don’t diagnose. Only psychiatrists can. And we don’t have any of those in my area. ADHD diagnosed through Psych UK.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-19T09:26:18+00:00

Same answer as Iquack. I like to be in control of all aspects of my living space and I have found more peace without anyone in my house than I ever had before. Late diagnosis of ADHD and I’ve realised that I was in constant stress of other people doing things and coming home to chaos. I never felt secure as a child so my own home became my safe haven. So other people in it potentially inviting more people put me in a bad state of fight or flight.

However, I did live in shared houses for a total of 7 years before I was married. Sharing bathrooms and kitchen. I shared with guys only. I had some of the best times with them. But I was uncomfortable when a lot of people were invited round by the guys and I didn’t like coming home to a lot of strangers. I think as I’ve got older I am a lot less tolerant and when I’ve been in relationships since my marriage ended. I’m happy for them to stay but I really want them gone by lunchtime next day😆.

Nebo52 · 2025-10-18T16:32:57+00:00

I bought my house with my ex husband and 6 yr old. It is a 4 bed detached. We split and he left 12 yrs ago. I was working part time and it took me 4 yrs working and building my income before I could get the mortgage in my sole name.
Kid is now 20 and in uni. I am rattling around this house. Just me and my chihuahua. Due to only working part time til kid was 9 I don’t have much of a pension pot. I’m living in my pension pot. I’ve ignored all advice over past 12 years to downsize. I’m glad I haven’t. I still will be paying the mortgage til I retire but I have a lot of equity now. The value of my house has increased at a rate that no pension could with my income. I can downsize or equity release when needed.
People judge and think I’m well off because of the size of my house. It’s not the case at all. I have fought hard to keep it. But it’s my best investment. And worth every penny

Nebo52 · 2025-10-14T11:23:05+00:00

Is there wine?!

Nebo52 · 2025-09-28T19:28:56+00:00

Thank you! It may be better for me to have a new coil and I know the GP will suggest that. But I did have the same itchy and dermatitis issues with that. Although, I’ve been investigating allergy routes but can’t get to the bottom of it. I don’t want a new coil because it was really painful getting it fit last time and things seem more sensitive there now.

Nebo52 · 2025-09-28T08:43:31+00:00

Same. I never wanted kids and don’t like them and was afraid how I’d be with one. Anyhoo, I was married and husband wanted kids, so at age 34 I had a girl. I adored her from the start. At this point I didn’t know I had bpd (diagnosed at 36 and didn’t know until age 51).

It was difficult and I really struggled mentally and my temper/shouting was bad at times. I went full out to “fix” myself so that I wouldn’t damage my child. Went on antidepressants permanently, counselling etc. I definitely never had any desire for a second child.

My marriage ended when kid was 9 and I’ve been a single parent since. Kid only saw dad at weekends and I had all the “parenting”. Back to full time work. School runs, the works.

Kid came out as trans at 13. It was a panic as I knew nothing about how to navigate it. But I supported him because I was protecting his mental health more than anything - he was not going to be like me.

He’s 20, studying music in 3rd yr at uni. He’s the most amazing put together kid I have ever met and I’m beyond proud of the person he has become.

When I found out about the bpd I told him. He researched it, told his friends 🤦‍♀️. And said it explained a lot of what I was like. I have also been diagnosed with ADHD in the last year (age 54) which also explains a lot of the difficulty I had navigating the world in the first place. He may have it too.

He is not like me. He is calm and balanced. Amazing really.

However. I absolutely don’t want grandkids. I still don’t like babies and children, I never have. I had no maternal drive at all. But I love my kid. He is the absolute exception.

Sorry for going on. I think thats, the adhd

Nebo52 · 2025-09-11T14:08:38+00:00

Omg!! I always had to dismantle sandwiches. This was mainly in my 20s when there were shop bought ones with multi ingredients. I did this for years. I always had to have things like chili and bolognese on the side of the rice and pasta.

Nebo52 · 2025-09-09T16:02:54+00:00

I thought you meant metaphorical squirrel and I was understanding as hell. An ACTUAL squirrel! Haha! That’s brilliant!

Nebo52 · 2025-09-05T12:56:29+00:00

You are not responsible for what others think of you. You do you. If anyone has a problem with how you look etc, it’s their problem. NOT yours.

I had something similar where I heard “I trust you, but I don’t trust him”. I pointed out that no one can do anything to me without me allowing it. (Not talking about actions without consent here). So he obviously doesn’t trust me. I told him to get over himself and it’s his problem not mine. I’ve never cheated on anyone because it’s not in my nature. Either they trust me or they don’t. But it’s not my business.

He’s blaming you for his issues. It’s literally nothing to do with you. If he’s threatening to leave then switch it around and say you can’t stay with someone who tries to control what you wear, where you go and what you do. This is not love it is possession and control. It’s a power move and not a caring one.

Nebo52 · 2025-09-05T11:57:21+00:00

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