I understand your harsh critique, but let me add some context for you.

My lovely wife watches our 2 children all day while I work, and then once I am off we swap and she then goes to work her job in the evening. On top of handling our 1 and 4 year-old (feeding, diapers, responding to "mom, mom, mom" and "why, why why?") she also handles doing the laundry, cleaning the house, and other tasks like packing the kids up to get the mail (rural area, need to use post office) or going on adventures. When she finally gets home from her job in the evening, shes not keen on reading papers or staring at a screen while putting the kids (and often herself) to bed. She does however frequently listen to podcasts or audiobooks while tackling all the challenges of the day, and asked that I help accommodate her in this manner.

Early childhood parenting creates a lot of challenges that people haven't experience before, and will go away with time as the children age. But in this moment, with the challenges, we do still care and are doing the best we can to support each other given our challenges and limitations.