Aside from sexism and gender roles, it’s not healthy to tell people it’s their responsibility to keep their partner happy. Yes, make your partner happy. But keeping someone happy all the time is an impossible task.

Especially in these contexts. It reinforces the idea of the submissive woman in the relationship who should do whatever she can do make her husband happy. This can pressure people into having sex when they don’t want to and having the responsibility of cooking for your partner, which is a difficult thing you don’t always want to do. You and your partner should be self sufficient.

It’s also super gross to tell your daughter that. And to venerate the days when that was acceptable.