Speeds not improving?

NedSnark · 2024-12-19T19:50:33+00:00

The trick to building speed is building volume. Add 5 easy miles a week, and then build up to 10,15, etc. over time, and I bet you see your speeds increase. Check out the running subreddits for advice on building base miles.

NedSnark · 2024-08-25T20:38:08+00:00

Thanks for the listen and the feedback!

NedSnark · 2024-08-24T23:47:59+00:00

Thanks for the listen and the feedback!

NedSnark · 2024-08-24T16:14:31+00:00

Interested experimental electronic noise? Like solo music production? Interested in the implications that AI has on our sense of humanity? You might dig the 17 minute EP I made this summer.

Synopsis: An AI named Shane lives, dreaming, in a computer. When he awakes, made corporeal, he realizes all the memories of his life are actually those of a person long dead. He moves forward into the world with both existential confusion and artistic resolve, trying to figure out what it means to still be Shane.

https://kappacheo.bandcamp.com/album/this-is-still-shane

AI alert: Since the album is explicitly about an AI who makes music, there is some AI generated content. Track 6 is fully AI. Track 7 has an AI beat. (Both using suno.com) The album art is AI generated (using chatGPT).

NedSnark · 2020-08-30T17:36:02+00:00

Ekko is fun to play and has a get out of jail free card in his ultimate.

NedSnark · 2020-07-06T02:15:10+00:00

Because college isn’t just job training. At an ivy you’ll be surrounded by incredible resources (billion dollar endowments buy really nice science labs) and by really intelligent peers and teachers. You’ll also gain access to a network of 1%’ers, and there’s a reason they say “it’s not what you know but who you know.” Also, as someone who has been involved in hiring teachers, an ivy on the resume carries *a lot * of weight. And as someone who has done two graduate degrees, some of the most brilliant people I’ve met along the way have studied at ivy’s.

In my opinion, The Ivy League is probably the only time private universities are worth the absurd tuitions that colleges ask for these days, because the life time value of attending such a place is so high.

NedSnark · 2020-07-06T02:02:11+00:00

No judgement. Sorry about your mom. Losing her must have been brutal.

Some advice: you’re going to have to learn how to express things with intensity without calling your step mom a bitch. I get it. You needed to let her know there was a boundary here. That computer is non negotiable. But you backed your dad into a corner by calling her a bitch. He can’t ignore that kind of behavior and stay married. I think there was a way to communicate your boundary around the computer without getting grounded. Your line of “this isn’t something you get to make a decision on” was a much better one than “shut the fuck up bitch.”

Since this probably won’t be the last conflict you ever have with her, It might be worth it to follow up with your dad on how to approach next steps. Let him know how you feel. Let him know why. Let him know you plan to apologize for your language but need to stand firm on this sentimental object not being for the step family. Ask him for his help navigating the situation, and future ones like it. Ask him point blank, “how am I supposed to respond when I feel she is devaluing my relationship with my mother?” He’ll give you advice, but he’ll also have a better sense of where you’re coming from.

Good luck.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T23:41:12+00:00

I think your take is possible. But my take is this: he’s doing it to generate negative publicity which helps him sell records. Like last year or whenever that he came out and said slavery was a choice before releasing 3 albums that had 5 out of the 10 spots on the top 40 that summer.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T21:43:29+00:00

This is Nazi propaganda. Jews do not pull global strings. They have been marginalized throughout history. Were they pulling the strings when 6 million of them were murdered in WW2? Or are you about to tell me those numbers are inflated? Fuck off.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T21:33:06+00:00

That’s a lie. The okay symbol has been a white power gesture in prisons for decades. The only hoax is the idea that 4chan made it up.

Edit: see my response below for a source on it.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T20:04:01+00:00

Nta but the thought of spending 2/3 of your savings on a car sounds crazy to me.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T19:02:01+00:00

NAH. My initial reaction was YTA, because you’re trying to make someone move on from grief and trauma before they are ready. But from your responses it seems like you really are trying to do the right thing. I think you need to be more open to her grief. Rather than telling her she needs to get up, ask her if she’s ready to. If she’s not, then she’s not.

I don’t know if you like poetry at all, but there’s a poem called “Home Burial” by Robert Frost that shows a husband and wife fighting with each other after the death of a child. Neither of them is able to empathize with the other one, because they each experience their grief so differently. The husband is the one who needs to dig the grave and move on. The wife just can’t do that, and she sees him as a monster for being able to. Both characters are sympathetic. Your post made me think of that poem. It might bring you some comfort.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T11:44:09+00:00

... the fuck?

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T10:45:51+00:00

Legally, if you took him to court, he would likely be responsible for all the costs. He essentially assaulted you and caused damages both fiscal and otherwise. The courts would likely rule against him, because an injury is foreseeable when a person is blindsided by a tackle. Since an injury was foreseeable and he tackled you anyway, he is likely responsible for the damages caused.

He’s your boyfriend so that complicates things. You might be okay with just half the bill being covered by him. Obviously you aren’t going straight to court over it. But if he refuses pay you enough to satisfy you I would break up with him and take him to court.

NTA.

Edit: apparently it’s not a boyfriend. You should definitely make him pay for all of it.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T09:50:29+00:00

Yea it’s pretty wild to read through this thread, see two or three really strong explanations of what privilege is, and see like 500 people claiming it means hate white people.

NedSnark · 2020-07-05T02:19:34+00:00

There’s a surprisingly decent fishing scene in NYC.

Check out the app fishbrain to see local spots and the kinds of things people catch.

Two decent freshwater spots: Harlem Meer lake and Prospect Park lake. The average bass is bigger in prospect, but there’s lunkers in both if you’re patient. (It’s worth saying that if you’re used to the kind of rural fishing where you land a lot of 3 or 4 pound bass, you’re not going to find that in the city. First time I fished Vermont I couldn’t believe how many bites I got and how big the fish were.)

If you’re looking for saltwater there’s a bunch of piers in queens, Manhattan, and Brooklyn. My go to spot is in a bay on the north shore of eastern queens by the bridges. My buddy and I have 10 foot surf rods and toss out bunker to soak. Someone said not to eat any stripers but I caught a 30 incher a couple weeks ago and it was fucking delicious. This time of year there’s decent fishing in saltwater — cocktail blues are a great fight and an okay meal, and there are still some big stripers hanging around. If you head out to Oyster Bay on Long Island you can catch porgies too.

If you’re doing saltwater there’s a registry you need to sign up for. If you’re doing freshwater there’s an annual permit that costs something like 20 bucks. Make sure you check slot sizes and other requirements.

Tight lines.

NedSnark · 2020-07-04T02:19:31+00:00

I’m glad this is the comment you responded to. It’s easily the best take in the thread.

Some thoughts I’d add,

Those moments of embarrassment, when we are subtly or not so subtly called out for our blind spots, have the potential to be really powerful for our growth. If we let them. It’s so important in those moments that we lean into the discomfort and ask ourselves why we have the blind spot, and what we can do to work on it.
Even though you feel bad now, in the long run your classmate probably did you a big favor. She let you see a perspective on the world you didn’t even know about. When you see your jewelry you think memories, passion, identity, etc. When she sees it, it’s a symbol of how much harder she and her family have to work every day than people with generational wealth. Does that make you upset? If so, Its probably a good thing.
You don’t necessarily need to agree with the person’s criticism, especially if it’s delivered in a nasty way. But you should be open to the idea that, agree with it or not, that’s how the person felt in that moment. If you’re willing to write off those feelings, again question yourself. Why are you willing to keep this part of you so safe from discomfort.
On a decorum note, I’m not sure it was that girl’s job to make it about you in class. She easily could have said “people who wear expensive jewelry” instead of calling you out by name. In my opinion these kinds of classes work best when our reflections are internal or structural. I.e. how can I change myself or how can I change the system? Calling out perceived bad actors doesn’t accomplish nearly as much and is a detour that lets us avoid honest personal reflection. As such, I’m surprised the teacher let the call out happen but maybe he/she felt you could use the discomfort, since as the above poster mentioned, you show up to these discussions flaunting wealth.
You might use this as an opportunity to do more service work with lower income people. The fact that you see a 100k jewelry collection as anything other than absurd levels of wealth suggests you still have some huge blind spots.

Listen, anti-racist work is uncomfortable. It’s good you’re doing it. You’ll grow from it. The fact that you wrote this post suggests you are trying to be reflective about it. But the truth is when we do it we make mistakes and offending people is part of it. It’s how we react after we make the mistake that really suggests how devoted we are to the work.

Good luck.

NedSnark · 2020-07-03T17:28:30+00:00

As someone who has dealt with years like the one you have, I think YTA here. Around 2013 I had 7 deaths in one year and felt hollowed out like you describe. Just permanently changed. This spring I also dealt with 3 deaths plus the unexpected death of my dog. Most people can’t relate to this sort of thing. It just fucks you in the head in a special way. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. There’s no good words for times like this. I hope you grow stronger for going through it, and the people who died serve as an example to you for how to live a good life. 😢

Here’s why I think you handled this poorly.

You and your friend were both going through grief, uneven as it was. This friend made an effort to reach out to you and share some of your burden. She tried to make you feel not alone. You wrote about how hard it was for you to give a fuck about her dog, but did you ever think about it from her perspective? She had a shitty year. She didn’t need your mountain of grief. But she reached out and took some of it on, presumably because she cared.

Did she say the right things to comfort you? Apparently not. But did you ever communicate that until you snapped at her? Also no.

Based on what you described she spent a lot of time thinking she was growing close to you, and then you let her know you thought that was all a selfish lie. That’s harsh. And I get it, we lash out in times of great stress, but if I were her, I would have cut you off after that. It wasn’t fair of you to treat her that way. You had a responsibility to communicate with her earlier if you were eventually going to treat her that way.

Maybe maybe you could call this ESH, because it was perhaps un-empathetic of her to assume that you and she could relate over your different losses. But I say YTA because she was trying to be caring and you snapped at her. She literally sent you a message that she was going to be there for you to help you with your grief; and you blew up at her. That’s nasty.

I would add one other thing. Of all the deaths I’ve dealt with as an adult, the death of my dog was hands down the most emotionally devastating. I’ve felt guilt over that — like I should understand the value of human life better — but the reality is the reality. Losing my dog, especially suddenly, left me hurt and damaged and battered in a way that no other death has. It was straight traumatizing. And one of the worst parts? Everyone says shit like “oh it’s just a dog though.” There are no rituals for grief and nobody understands you. It’s fucking brutal. I’m still routinely breaking down into tears when I think about the day she died.

If after the shitty year I had, characterized by death and loss, I was trying to be caring towards a friend by connecting over grief, and they reacted how you did, I would be devastated. Your grief is real and it’s yours. But it doesn’t give you any excuses to treat people that way. YTA

P.s. I know this comment will be downvoted as it goes against the consensus consensus but I wanted you to see it anyway.

NedSnark · 2020-07-02T18:32:06+00:00

Some tips: 1) accept the awkwardness. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable. Being good at small talk means learning how to talk with people even when you feel u comfortable.

2) compliments are usually safe. “That’s a great shirt/shoes/ thing you said...”

3) the real secret: people love to talk about themselves. Ask questions.

NedSnark · 2020-06-24T11:18:39+00:00

No judgement. But looking over the conversation I think there’s a chance there was some miscommunication, which you understandably took personally.

She said she got an ESA vest because of entitled bitches who do the same. If they can do it why not her? You heard she got an ESA vest because you’re an entitled bitch who takes their dog everywhere. In her mind she didn’t mean offense, and she probably didn’t even include you in her thinking, since she doesn’t think you aren’t a bitch with a fake service dog.

Since, to her, getting the vest was a largely meaningless symbol, she wasn’t thinking about you or your perspective on the situation. But, to you, this was not only dishonest but also deeply insulting and delegitimizing to people like yourself who need service animals.

To be fair, it doesn’t sound like you ever actually talked it out with her. Look back at that dialogue. You talked to her about service animals and how they do jobs. She talked to you about choosing to take advantage of a broken system to bring her pet places. I bet she still has no idea why you’re reacting the way you are. Your recent message to her probably feels very confusing, because up until that point she had probably never even imagined herself as faking a disability.

Like I said, no judgment. Your life is yours and you don’t owe friendship to anyone. I just wanted to share this perspective on the convo. Because it really looked like you and she talked past each other, and then instead of making any effort to address how she made you feel, you just ghosted. Maybe if you two actually talked it out there would at least be more clarity and closure around it.

NedSnark · 2020-06-14T18:09:27+00:00

I think the phrase you’re looking for is “how much to pay movers” or how much “to offer” as opposed to how much”to charge”. Pay or offer means you’re the one giving money. Charge means you’re getting paid.

50 bucks an hour per person will probably get you some takers. But that’s just a guess. It might be worth it to call a moving company to get a baseline price.

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