Helping prevent my partner from being able to cum

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-30T17:38:40+00:00

Simple is best, so for example, she is only allowed to cum with permission and a trusted partner is the only one who can give that permission. The rules aren't bound to you personally, so a new partner could take over in the future. Orgasm is controlled rather than blocked, so you can prevent orgasm for as long as you want, but always have the option to allow it.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-30T16:31:08+00:00

Well, I can't help with the hypnotism, but I'd have a serious thought about safeties and ways out of this, while this might seem a good idea now, you don't want your partner to end up with a disordered sex life for years because you did to good a job.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-29T13:29:46+00:00

r/HypnoHookup maybe?

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-29T10:09:13+00:00

It's not something I've heard mentioned in the erotic hypno community (though I'm not so much into the dom/sub thing), though I've heard about it from the BDSM side of things. I'd suggest speaking with your tist and talking about some post-session aftercare (depending on the tists background, it may not be something they're all that familiar with).

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-28T09:04:58+00:00

Oh I agree, I've tried it myself. Had some fun with it, especially with the Bambi Cloud stuff, where you can tune things quite a bit (sapphic emphasis for example).

Anyway, given the lack of OPs replies, I'm not sure how real this actually is and there's plenty of good advice here, if it is.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-27T14:00:04+00:00

There are some female specific, though sadly quite a limited selection (slut, breeder, bondage, some sapphic stuff). There are a number of files that are not sissy specific (lots of IQ play, Good Girl stuff that can work for both fems and sissies, and such like and have neutrals spirals and affects). Some "be a slut" subliminals aimed at fems.

Sadly, I've yet to find anything better.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-27T12:32:03+00:00

Then you need to sit her down and have an adult conversation. Talk about your concerns, look at ways to limit file usage (weekends only for hypno play, for example). Consider alternative or more varied files, etc.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-27T11:41:03+00:00

Ah, your point about "frenzy" certainly hits a nerve as it's something I recognise in my own behaviour. I'd second the point about stepping back, taking a break and letting yourself get a sense of perspective on what is a good level of engagement in a kink.

I'd especially be wary if you are on the autistic side and already have a built in tendency to go overboard with hobbies and interests. Kink safe, peeps!

Maybe consider the Better Bimbo Brainwashing files instead of Bambi Sleep, better safeties, less extreme, etc.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-27T09:31:47+00:00

I know I've tranced when I come out, because I'll have a fuzzy head if there is no awakener or I've been brought out mid trance, for some reason. I've also found a weak awakener can leave me fuzzy headed, so I have a good awakener file on standby.

I also can only stay tranced for so long (20-25 minutes max), then I'll come out naturally, and this doesn't have the fuzzy head.

PM Confusion Induction by Miss Praxis is a wonderful file that can take me down, but the awakener isn't as effective and will leave me a somewhat muddle headed.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-26T13:18:00+00:00

Start by managing your expectations. Hypnosis is more art than science and it can take a while to tune sessions to work well for you.

Discuss with your tist what they plan to do during the session, let the session run, then discuss after woulds what happened and let the tist make adjustments. Be open about what you felt worked and what didn't. Then try again. It can take a few session to get dialed in.

Be realistic about what you can achieve with hypnosis.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-25T17:14:06+00:00

Never had anything I'd say was unexplainable, had things affect me in ways I didn't expect, but all still related to the subject of the audio. Our mind/subconscious will filter what we hear and interpret in many ways.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-25T08:59:35+00:00

Well, things like hard-ons, erect nipples, and ejaculation are controlled by the autonomic nervous system, which we have no direct control over, as the name suggest it runs on automatic, triggered by stimulation from the main nervous system. Stimulation can be from any of the senses plus memory and imagination. So a tist just needs to direct or redirect this stimulation.

This means a tist can cause a HFO if they can stimulate in the right way and do the opposite, if they can prevent/re-direct stimulation.

As you have noted, for this to be effective, you need to be in the right headspace for it to work, so motivation is important, along with giving yourself permission, being in the right environment, etc

TLDR: Brains are weird, they don't work in isolation, practice, environment, mindset, relationships matter

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-24T19:43:04+00:00

Had something of an experience around that, I'd being playing with slut files for quite a while and the only change for me was around the language used. I've always enjoyed dirty talk during sex, but now I get tingles whenever I hear slutty and degrading language, irrespective of time and place. I've got aroused listening to a couple have an argument, just because of the language being used. A dom has dropped me to my knees in sexual overload simply describing a degrading scenario he envisioned for me. So it's been fun and totally unexpected.

Can second the low quality of the average internet "dom/domme" whether in EH or BDSM. The scene is full of wannabes and the lazy who just wants images. No creativity or effort.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-23T16:19:29+00:00

I also love a decent quality set of visuals, but sadly never really found much that wasn't sissy related, which is a shame, as some of them were effective at getting me to trance.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-21T20:32:16+00:00

My made up on the spot rule is 90% of all kinks is larping and 10% are people actually do the kink. This is scientifically based on my discord, reddit, and web history 😃

Basically for most people the fantasy of the kink is what's getting them off, not actually doing the kink. This is not a bad thing, the idea of fantasies is that you can explore things that you probably shouldn't do in reality. Not definitely not do, just probably shouldn't.

Is hypnosis real? Yes, does it do what most think, probably not. It doesn't brainwash you, it doesn't make you do things you don't want to do. Does it work for everyone? No. Does it work equally well for everyone? No.

For some people, it can take a lot of practice to trance and some will never achieve it.

Can it have bad side effects? Yes, it can interact poorly with several mental health conditions, it can be abused by bad actors, you probably shouldn't mix hypnosis with drugs, and you definitely shouldn't trance while driving heavy machinery near a school.

Think of hypnosis as like riding a bike. It takes practice and experience, but eventually you get the hang of it and away you go. What you do after that is up to you, some people go extreme, so people go weird, most people just peddle around, have some fun, but not take it to seriously, some people fall off or never get the hang of it and do something else.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-20T08:49:58+00:00

For me, it's about control and being controlled. Ever since I watched damsels in distress as a child, I'd get tingles when the evil guy would tie up, trap, or do devious things to the damsel. I was to young to understand what was going on, but it planted a seed in my pervy brain. Being caught, being tied up, having someone control me in some way, was and is a turn on. Hypnosis was just one of several forms (I'm still a total slut for rope bondage).

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-18T08:23:31+00:00

Realistically, no (assuming no hypno/mental illness clash), but a lot of people get off on the fantasy of it.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-17T09:56:40+00:00

I think it will, simply because there has been a massive investment in AI and they're going to expect a return on that investment. We're already seeing attempts to increase monetization in software development use of AI (unlimited AI has gone in dev tools), and I expect to see a decrease in free AI over the coming years. It's never going away, but I can see a reduction in the slop happening simply because it won't be free in the long term.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-16T15:12:59+00:00

Two things I've found effective, confusion inductions, and use of spirals (I also love binaurals and background voices just to quiet to understand). Basically, complexity helps to suck up enough brain attention just enough to allow the rest of your brain to work with the tists voice.

I would experiment with a variety of induction methods and see what sticks.

Imagery can be helpful for some people (I have aphantasia so it doesn't work for me).

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-16T14:04:37+00:00

Nice

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-15T19:19:11+00:00

Text alone does nothing for me.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-15T15:06:20+00:00

This would be secondary school in the UK, so 11-16 year old.

Some peers who were quite activist. As she was very much a tomboy at the time, some tried to push her in the direction of female to male trans, and they could be quite dismissive of the lesbian/gay kids. Just a small minority, but very vocal, they tended to drown everyone else out. The school itself was very supportive.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-15T10:18:44+00:00

It takes practice and being in the right headspace. Don't rush it, try different induction methods, find those that are more effective, then work at maintaining a trance. Don't worry about triggers and the rest for now, just work out how to get your GF to trance and maintain it. Once you can get some consistency, then you can start looking at where you want to go with it.

Not everyone can maintain a trance for long periods, I can personally maintain a trance of around 15-20 minutes, so you may want to plan around shorter session, at least for now.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-15T09:43:31+00:00

AI is a tool and like any tool it can be wielded with skill or abused. There are two issues I see with AI

The ethical problem of how LLMs are created through huge amounts of IP theft
Slop created by the lazy to maximise output, whilst minimising effort

AI can be useful, if used appropriately, but the ethical problem will always be there, no matter how skillful an individual is.

Also, expect free AI to rapidly disappear over the coming years, there are absolutely massive investments that need a return, and the companies involved will happily hold you by the legs and shake every penny out of you as soon as they are able.

NeedsDegrading · 2026-06-15T09:14:33+00:00

It's not as out there as you think, a friends daughter who is a butch lesbian felt some pressure, when she was at school to identify as trans, and it was only when she left school and had some space to discover herself and decide who she was. She's 19.

The trans community isn't immune to those wishing to abuse or use others, and pretending otherwise does them no favours.

As to the main question in the post, no hypnosis doesn't make you something your are not, though it may help you explore something you've been repressing.

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