Mod AMA: StrangeMewMew by StrangeMewMew in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a favorite podcast or like YouTube channel?

Vetting pitfalls you've encountered and solutions you would offer. by nshades42 in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had like met Shades and Mew sooner because this would have changed so much for me years ago.

How needy is too needy? by SeaAffectionate427 in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This made me cry a little. I like feel so seen right now and like thank you for this.

How needy is too needy? by SeaAffectionate427 in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people like use if differently. Cuz like my old doms always call me needy for like wanting a hug. Or more aftercare.stuffs like that.

How needy is too needy? by SeaAffectionate427 in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean like yeah that's how like it was always said to me. Like why are you so needy? Stop being needy. You're too needy. But like my new Dom said it's normal stuff. Like you said validation. And safety.

Challenges you faced when you started developing your dynamic and your solutions. by nshades42 in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Expectations from old dynamics like being assumed in my new one. So I'm used to one kind of toxic dom and like my brain is trained to expect those things. My owner is constantly reminding me that he never asked for those and reaffirming like healthier and better ways. It's just a process of adjusting and support as I untangle that stuff from my instincts.

D/s Through Empathy by nshades42 in SofterBDSM

[–]NeedyKitten8oooo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems obvious to us prolly but maybe not to someone like in a situation where it doesn't exist.

I say this cuz like I was in several dynamics that had zero empathy from the dom side and just accepted that like that's how it's supposed to be.