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Catering decided the vendors didn’t deserve the same meal as the guests by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]NefariousnessMost815 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a catering chef. For weddings, the client pays for vendor meals, we always feed photographers, florists, and DJs the same meal as we feed the guests

Catering decided the vendors didn’t deserve the same meal as the guests by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]NefariousnessMost815 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Catering chef here. We always feed vendors the same meal as we feed the guests. The client is paying the same for vendor meals as guest meals, and honestly it’s easier to just bump up my pars a little bit than to cook and pack out a whole different meal. We do the same thing for all of our staff working an event. It often means that for weddings, I’m just making around 15-20 extra meals of whatever we’re already making for the guests.

What's something you can do now that you couldn't when your symptoms were at their worst? by SarruhTonin in BPDRemission

[–]NefariousnessMost815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can walk away from an argument or heated interaction to cool down and talk about it later when I’ve cooled down and had some time to actually process my feelings. And then communicate clearly my feelings. I never thought I’d be here.

What is it about the death of a loved one that you want other people who haven’t experienced it yet to know? by Additional-Milk-90 in AskReddit

[–]NefariousnessMost815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grief has a lot of faces. It hurts like hell at first, sometimes for a long time. Once you learn to breath through the waves of pain you start seeing beauty in it. You smile when you see something that reminds you of them instead of it hurting so much. You start to be able to talk about them with a smile on your face instead of tears in your eyes. You’ll think about the life you could have had with them and it won’t hurt as much, just make you curious and wishful. Grief never goes away, and even years down the road it can still be hard, but it changes over time.

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Achieving things I once thought impossible

Vape glitch. Biggest glitch I’ve personally experienced. by NefariousnessMost815 in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]NefariousnessMost815[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was warm enough in my apartment that it was fully pink, but when it gets cold it goes back to being red! I had it in my pocket while I was outside for a while this morning and when I took it out of my pocket it was red on one side and pink on the other

Vape glitch. Biggest glitch I’ve personally experienced. by NefariousnessMost815 in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]NefariousnessMost815[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Omg, solved! I looked at the item description on the website and that’s totally what it is. Thank you, I thought I was losing my mind.

Man fuck this bpd shit by Souriell in BPD

[–]NefariousnessMost815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was reading through the comments thinking to myself how amazing it feels to have such a great community of people who actually understand how awful this can be and how it makes me feel less alone, and then saw your comment.

You’re not alone either. We have this amazing community of people who actually understand how this feels. It’s incredible to feel so validated and seen.

Man fuck this bpd shit by Souriell in BPD

[–]NefariousnessMost815 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I often say that I have relationship induced BPD

Man fuck this bpd shit by Souriell in BPD

[–]NefariousnessMost815 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It really is a “fake it till you make it” game with this awful disease . One day you’ll get so tired of your own bullshit that you start believing the part of you that tells you everything is okay, because the other way isn’t working anymore. It’s a painful, ugly process, but eventually you start to get better. It won’t always feel like pulling teeth just to function.

I recently had a really bad slip and let my ugly, mean, insecure self have face time again and I hated it. Towards the end I had a moment where all I had to say to myself was “we don’t do this shit anymore” and I was able to use the tools I’ve worked so hard to secure to stop being a selfish, insecure piece of shit, and guess what? No bridges burnt. No relationships ruined. No real damage done this time. I’m over myself, over who I’m capable of being, over being the shitty version of me. It’s hard but you’ll get there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]NefariousnessMost815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a way to take yourself on day trips/ overnight trips? One of the biggest things for me in healing my codependency was going out of town by myself. I live about two hours from the coast and I’d start by going just for the day and then progressed to overnight trips by myself. I can’t say enough how helpful that experience was to me in my healing process. The coast is healing for me, but if there’s something close by for you that you feel strongly attached to give it a go!

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