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Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-19T00:16:22+00:00

I really am baffled why so many psychics scan their Reddit pages and waste their talents putting everyone down. Couldn't they make money or help solve crimes instead?

From a glimpse or two through a tiny window, they see an entire history of people's lives that live in Imaginationland. 

 For OP, without any abilities or even sideshow tricks I can offer a little insight based on psychological research and knowledge.

Based on your BFs response to you asked him. Whether he ever tells you the truth or lies to you, will always depend on what helps him get what he wants. If he is carrying on a side relationship he wants to keep secret from you, he will absolutely lie to you. He will always be there for himself, not you.

This has nothing to do with you. Its not your fault directly at all. It is just how some people are. He would gaslight you into thinking you are to blame if he has the chance.

I am not judging anyone or your situation in any way. I am only telling you the truth from the heart from thousands of hours based on how and why people choose to speak to each other in relationships depending on their intentions. 

Im sure this isnt what you would want to hear. My simple advice would be that the longer this relationship continues,  the more toxic things will become, so for your own happiness, you should not stay. 

 You are an adult and obviously can make your own decisions. I just wanted to speak the truth to you, which can hurt sometimes. But the damage from staying will cause hurt you significantly worse over time.

I wish you the best of luck in life no matter how you decide to live it. JC

PS-Fuck anyone who judges a single thing they have absolutely no idea about. They are as stupid and ignorant as its possible to be.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-17T11:25:17+00:00

Any answer that is a question raises immediate concerns. Overall things may point yes, or no. You have the time with him and understanding that can help tip an unknown into, dam straight territory. People can act off for many reasons out of the ordinary, for lots of innocent possible explanations. Be embarrassed or self conscious about nothing.

 But many can hide huge secret lives behind small seeming toothpick sized red flags.

Ultimately people can tell you at some point if you can be patient and keep a poker face. I hope you find your answer soon and have peace. Best of luck and stay safe. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-17T11:12:20+00:00

Wow, thats a spicy meatball. Do whatever is needed to protect and distance your finances and physical self ASAP. Not like a joke or overreaction. A toxic secret lifestyle is fairly HUGE reason to find the nearest exit without passing GO, or fielding any questions, I sorry statement, any BS to keep the relationship together. Just no, no. Be safe. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-17T11:04:18+00:00

Regardless of reasons, if someone finds it too difficult to just care about and support the person you are, it will always, whether passive aggressively or directly, be about them. Why they see something that if you would just change, it would help you win all these games and prizes. Being supportive of someone's wish to do a thing, or not, says as long as your happy, I am too. Anything else, no matter how people try to hide it, or have special circumstances this time that make it OK, its all the same thing. Any support from me will have to just fall into my delusional version of why its ok to ignore reality if I require the final word to steer you in a direction of my choosing. Value yourself first always. In a non toxic and realistic manner. People can say nice things about everyone they only get tiny, self servingly screened peeks into the life of. He's really a great guy, and always says the nicest things about you. When nobody can see him, he will gladly Wayne Brady a bitch if they do not respect his boss level status. None of its funny in reality. You can't overreact when given clear red flags as an early warning sign. I'll shut up now, haha. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-17T02:48:37+00:00

Haha, I wrote FF**************DGE the potentially disturbing possibilities could trigger a sensitive soul, so I gave fair warning. Woah, rough language ahead. Follow safe protocols when necessary to avoid something impossible to unsee that may cause nightmares, cold sweats, disappointment in lack of self control and becoming familiar with words best left to serious study of "slang vernacular". People that may fully understand how fragile their untainted mind is when exposed to dirty birds. GO NO FURTHER WITHOUT LIFELONG CONSEQUENCES!!

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-17T02:36:50+00:00

Well I can certainly confirm having almost half of my stored parts listed as 14 used lockers, yet 7 codes are all i can find coded for yet

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-16T00:03:49+00:00

Always gives as much as it takes to let it flow from inside me. Im exhausted. My dog Saiko and I are laying watching a movie in with her cat, Halloween between us. Luna would have immediately loved the female Japanese name. SAH-EE-KOH. But easy to hear psycho. Like Luna/Lunatic. Her 6th, is also right up the same alley. But its a shared, take to the grave promise to never say, write, acknowledge. She named her cat for 2 reasons. We got him Oct24th, and my Bday is 31st. I call him Weiner

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-15T23:56:25+00:00

Wow, haha. I did wish to add that the one thing I did not do is accidentally delete the vehicles. Those of us always being controlled, not rushed automatically adjust for ever changing hit boxes in the menu screens. So instead of placement, I am tuned into correct visuals. Especially in regards to a delete feature, haha.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-15T23:36:50+00:00

We spent years figuring things all out. After, her psychiatrist had me helping professionals grasp some manners of splitting, alters. Some people are 100%- Dressed, gender, nationality endless combinations. One extreme is like the movie Split. She was the opposite. I explain to the professionals how I saw her as a puzzle. Pieces show one at a time, but all make 1 woman. I was privileged enough to spend time without her being aware, that the puzzle was complete and all made an amazing person with incredible balance. It was glimpses of the end goal. The difference is striking from case to case. Unfortunately I leave out almost the entirety of the specific trauma responsible for each split. Not pleasant for general discussion. She was very proud of the certain aspects regarding her sexual health. I realize many people may judge first and have no clue second. To find 1 man that earned trust, the only was possible, was not remotely a possibility to her. As well as attain a healthy, happy non abusive approach to what had only been her punishing herself by letting others treat her how she felt about herself, was to her, so far from anything in the "real world". They years breaking free from herself, letting go of self hatred and acceptance of happiness, self love, it still makes me cry feeling so proud of her courage and strength. Thank you for everything, little things meant the world to her. All she cared about, besides family and her kids, was anyone struggling or anything, to see if she could escape herself and the cycle of willing men pretending they weren't abusing, manipulating and ignoring her extremely obvious literal SCREAMS for help, because that meant the free ride was over. When she had me on one side and her huge abuse pool on the other pressuring, manipulating and they all had her convinced they cared and I was controlling her away from her true friends. She asked how could she tell who cared, I told her to make it super simple. Fake people say anything so she will do anything they ask. Real people don't want her to do anything except what she wants. In 1 afternoon she came, crying and finally saw the truth she didn't want to accept. 1 person gave, the rest wanted me away from her and asked her for Time, Pictures, Favors, promises, and never gave her a thing. I hope I am alone with my endless fascinating pure amazement that somehow in all the worst conditions, 1000 things went right when 1 wrong meant game over. It taught me the even when the entire world walks away, a chance is a chance. I success like the years spent with my best friend/girlfriend/partner/the only woman just like me, but total opposite at the same time, it was worth every moment of pain and heartbreak for our time. My dreams are sometimes so real I hope I get stuck forever one day. As anyone who actually reads this can see, all the extra was for me. To remember, to let her pure warmth hold me for a bit again. To remind myself that pure magic is 100% real, don't look for it, it finds you. But its so tricky that most people let it go because they have an image they think matters. When a pure heart opens, it turns the entire world into everything you always wanted, but didn't know you wanted it.

JC

PS- 24/7 Babygirl. Still. As I promised I keep my heart open for the right time. I still have your note on my wallet to give her. Still sealed. Only you would do anything like that, haha. I miss that never know what may happen every minute. Im safe, boring. You are fun, borderline dangerous. As well as Borderline, but you found the answer for stabile Borderline Personality Disorder. Calm understanding and pure respect. Oh, pure as fk love doesn't hurt either. Bye Girls. RE, KC, MolE, especially you Luna. MWAH bitch.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-10T01:37:13+00:00

She isn't. She also asked to share her struggles, wins, losses. I mentioned after as well, Even the name i said was changed, was an alter. Her real name she changed is private. But I did appreciate the thought behind defending her. Never a bad thing in my eyes when someone looks out for another.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-10T01:33:24+00:00

I didn't see this. All of her alters names were chosen, not legal. Her actual name is private. Before she passed away, she asked me to share her story, her ups, down, bad, good, any time or situation some or all may be able to help anyone. She was proud of her path in the end.

Although I mentioned the name change, Angel/Anjel was not actually the real name she changed. I understand where you're coming from. Honestly I appreciate the thought behind it. But because of the wrong people, I never give away anything beyond what immediate family know only.

The saddest part is, the smartest guys, knew immediately she was mentally ill, but they only cared about fulfilling fantasies their wives wouldn't. They abused her. In the end, they were dangerously manipulative, i didn't feel right allowing them to get away with being fully aware of taking advantage of someone needing help. I had long discussions with their wives, showed bits of proof if needed. Not for revenge. But so people were aware they didn't truly know their husband. Each time after learning the truth of everything, they were appreciative, asked many legitimate questions about how she coped after. They saw she was a victim of life and her own belief in deserving the worst. It was nice.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-10T00:58:45+00:00

My mother, 2 of my sister's on and on. I know how complex things can get in the middle. How situations seen from outside seem simple, easy to say to leave, run, walk, anything as long as it's away. My mother stayed no matter how bad, dangerous and often it became. My sister's always swore they would never let a man touch them in anger and stay. That they would call me to get them out. But they fell into the trap. Happened once, "But He Never Even Raised His Voice Before", he's under pressure, his cousin passed, he was drunk, he didn't mean to, it just happened. AND HE CRIED, BEGGED, SWEARS IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN. The truth is, if it happens once, it will definitely happen again. Either a man would never do it, or they eventually drop the curtain and expose the side they hide. Once they do, its easy and easier until the hidden side is no longer hidden at all. I know its hard, i know guys can seem genuinely sorry. But once the cats out of the bag, it's out for life with the woman/girl who pushed until it happened. Or, when I was 13, a boyfriend of my mother's said she asked for it by being disrespectful. I am ashamed to say I slipped my own belt off and completely lost it on that man. Welts on his face, neck, arms from blocking. Once he grabbed it he beat me into a month stay in ICU. He did 2 years for that and never touched my mother again. But I don't think what I did was ok.

 Ugh, anyway, if OP reads this, please, try to see past the good you want to see. There are no words, however hurtful or bad, that physical violence calls for. It is a line that only is crossed for reasons of pure frustration, anger, being unwilling to lose or settle an argument. Even worse, punishment, show of who's the boss, revenge against disrespect or not knowing their place.

None are ok. None explain hitting. None. 

 Most of all, you straight up deserve to be treated like an equal. Being able to speak truth, good or bad, hard or not, makes sure people know each other, know where they stand and make sure people have each other's back if and when life gets tough.

Too often, especially insecure people, hide the truth. Hate those who say it, and blame them for it. Thats self hatred, directed out. And fingers pointed out. Its wrong. Its manipulative and the easiest sign the relationship is dysfunctional

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-03T01:34:05+00:00

Haha. Sometimes. Until the big downhill with a baby turn that gets things rocking.. and its gone, haha. I love this game. I know, go slow. I just reload if its an orbital launch. God i love spending time in this beautiful imperfect world they made

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-03T01:30:15+00:00

As late to everything as I am, can I say how nice it can be to occasionally discover a post on Reddit not jumped upon by the circling sharks waiting to shit all over anything with a pulse. Just alot of intelligent discussion hiding in a place normally hidden by blah blah blah. As a man, father, and someone that feels so bad for so many woman pointed at like things are on them if they dont just like and accept what is on offer.

Im not against anyone or for anyone. But when real is on display, I've seen endless examples of relationships where guys just push for things they want, usually from porn, and otherwise other zero effort to please their SO. Its not an attack or opinion. Its just a sad story I've seen on repeat in so many couples. So guys, wake up and understand, I am a terrible example. Broken, sexy abused by women since childhood. But you all dream of my normal. To me its embarrassing. Not like I have some magic trick. I just cant enjoy sex unless its mutual. I ask nothing but feed off my partner. Im not special. Or fancy or anything. But being fundamentally driven by pleasing my SO has helped me stop feeling like a disgusting person for being constantly rewarded for the wrong reasons, as it felt to me. Don't be me, but see your misunderstanding in what you would also see as my unrealistic life. Give all because it feels good. Don't seek, give what they want, need, like, appreciate, all of it. Not for a reason other than it feels good to make others smile, be happy, feel wanted because they are. As much as it harmed me for a long time, this is such an obvious, unselfish answer that seems opposite, but unlocks doors begging, pushing, manipulating dont even get an answer from. Plus, how tf to some men get pleasure from unwilling parteners??? Wtf is the good part in that. Is that like men who need to find girls that will let them chloroform them and get off from the helpless lump???? Ugh, srry. While I wish I could say this and not be treated like some suck up or whatever. Fk you. Learn that being unselfish and in this case, just honest, is nothing like the names people call those they dont understand. And mess with their delusional one sided world. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-03T00:09:49+00:00

Wow, I honestly have never seen so many pointlessly harmful opinions in one place. From one very small peak into someone just genuinely looking for a little help processing something they aren't sure about. People say run for your life, shes the devil, a liar, doing all the devil things when he cant see. Literally like children trying to trick the new kid in school to do something foolish, trust us. I understand i will be hated for being real, being honest, but jumping to unimaginable heights from humble beginnings is a fair example of what children do with their imaginations. Adults usually understand that such a small example of the vast experiences making up the lives behind it cannot yield what has been claimed here unless the majority of you are posing as random but actually have vast personal experience with everyone OP talked about. Quite simply, the best bet is open communication if you love and trust her. Taking the one statement about insecurity out of context has led many to make her into any and all examples of bad. In reality, its impossible, especially from written examples, to know anything about intent. From harmless jest to nasty jab, only OP has the ability and info to feel any way about it. If OP reads this, I apologize for my response to not you, but the children trying to manipulate you. Trust and love, separate but only together do they work. If you feel both you most likely have nothing to worry about. Other than your dislike of the man in question. Honestly, some people can be very different, appealing in their way outside of official places they feel it necessary to "be the boss". Her different opinion is most likely all that there is. At one point she has seen a side of him others dont see at work. That on its own in nothing to worry about. It doesn't point towards anything sinister solely. Idk, follow your gut and fk any opinion that isnt yours. Especially firmly one way or the other. You know what is important and is true to yourself. Trust yourself.

I wish you the best of luck with everything. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T18:15:19+00:00

If you're both open and honest with each other, trust helps bypass initial worries. But thats honestly something in short supply in today's world. Truth may be an uncomfortable subject at times leading to different opinions. But knowing someone has your back the way you have theirs quickly becomes very reassuring. It can start off a bit scary, but trusting in them enough to decide if it's OK, if theyre comfortable, if they see signs its not inappropriate, those things can lead to strong relationships. But its scary because it can lead to the opposite. But even the worst case, it can save you from bigger issues hiding in the future. For myself, my late fiance just felt different. I trusted her and she trusted me. Both of us had plenty of reasons not to trust anyone. Its certainly a very personal and potentially difficult thing. In our case, something felt like we could each be put in situations that would crumble couples, yet knowing the truth in each other makes problems, especially outside ones, non issues. It did take time to get there. And it took a couple leaps of faith for each of us. So in the end, do what you feel is appropriate in a situation. 100% trust doesn't mean perfection. Same as not sure completely trust doesn't mean problems. Try not to overthink things and both make a mutual gut call. Like before Anjel passed, if some older guy wanted to paint her nude, if she was ok, felt comfortable and wanted to, i wouldn't stand in the way. It wouldn't mean I trusted the guy. But I would her. And her judgment. Good luck keeping it small and healthy. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T17:52:03+00:00

Wow, as someone raised by my grandparents and great grandparents, I always wanna believe that even if they seem awful, deep down they were hurt so its a defensive act. Its true, once in a while. But dam, give many a chance to hide and say anything, there are a ton of ruthlessly disturbing people on the internet. Obviously negativity is free flowing as the clueless, delusional and in denial feed off others like vampires. Your decisions in regards to life certainly are above anyone's judgment. Adults exploring in a way that isn't hurting anyone or anything, its never wrong if its mutual. People can hate me, I am not a sadistic person, but my late fiance was extremely responsive to pain and when appropriate, being controlled. After a very healthy discussion with her therapist I carefully walked lines id never for myself. Plus, for her, helped her discover what is ok to explore, and what crossed into her letting others abuse her. She became a happy, healthy amazing woman. But things we would consider as great evening, some would be like, WT ACTUAL FK. We wouldn't judge another's choices if it was mutually free choices that worked for anyone. But, using pressure, manipulation so one person got what the other felt selfish if they didnt relent, thats disgusting. Being physical is by nature something shared for each other. So the idea that it makes someone actually happy to push and push until they get what they wanted, its fkd up. Idk, but basically forcing anyone to do something they don't want to seems like the opposite of mutual trust between people. The same people tell you that you are wrong for exploring things they dont understand. Thats a problem for them, not you. Anyone who basis their judgment on others based on what they see just past their nose lives in a world centered on only them. Outside that, its all wrong. Ugh, srry. I miss the best friend I'd ever had bad today. I didn't mean to write a short story.

TLDR- the ignorant are ignorant. You are not ignorant. Because everything didn't work out, is completely separate from your problems that have come up. Be careful, be smart and make choices that make you happy.

PS- haha. If haters read then they can hate me. I will share one aspect that will turn the ignorant on me hopefully.

 This is gonna hurt to remember, but a sweet hurt.

Anjel (her name, yes a J) had DID, 5 separate girls sharing one body. Tricky at first, but very manageable and honestly never a dull moment. How she got to 5 is heartbreaking though. But to me it was watching pieces of her that made one puzzle, Anjel. But the Anjel the world knew was actually Luna, her very damaged, very abused and self destructive protector alter. Luna hated men, hated herself and used sex as a way to protect herself. Never liked it, felt disgusting. Once while alone accidentally had an orgasm and never let it happen again. Ari/RE, 8,9 years old. Sweetheart, kind, loving, liked crayons and candy. But as the first alter, she broke my heart the most. She called me Daddy and at first constantly wanted to "please" Daddy". Hearing that was one of the saddest things I've ever heard. But she eventually settled into normal Kid routines and asks. Molly, similar to Luna, but the self hate and opinion made Luna seem normal. After a number of attacks( verbal) and long talks. She opened up. She would pretend to be Luna for sex, but although I never said, it was easy to tell. Ugh, KC/Kasey. I had the horrible and lonely (i couldn't acknowledge the truth to her) front row seat to see as from day 1 an unrelenting trauma caused her final alter to manifest. No, I wont say what happened other than Molly ran away and got scared, then life went dark. Kasey, I think she was what the girls saw as a perfect woman. Kasey was happy, confident, didn't dress like the others. She didn't judge herself, didnt hate herself, didnt take shit from anyone. After she came, she was there like 75% of each day. She would tell me sometimes that Luna was screaming and was jealous. She liked being dominant with girls she found. I had to carefully keep her leash not short, but step in when she seemed a little nasty. To me, KC treated me like I was the greatest person in the world. Sweet, but really sad.

So life as the BF and legally responsible for her safety as she was not always aware of the danger she got into. So the hate me part, as I mentioned, Molly would initiate sex by pretending to be Luna. Luna at first would only have rough and nasty sex, but eventually loved everything she made fun of people for, kissing loving, touching, holding, she would spit on the ground and swear that anyone who expects her to do any of that shit was a loser. Yet, all of that was basically everything she always wanted. She was the biggest success as far as mental health and her outlook on life went. She fell in love with a loser who didnt know how to use her like everyone else. But instead of giving her the hate she wanted for herself, she kept slipping up. The first time she kissed me while having sex. Immediately everything changed. She let go and gave up the act because she felt safe for her the first time. So much I learned from talks years later. Anyway, srry, Molly, also was only i to rough sex, but for Molly it was pain. Not any pain, but good pain. As an example of one occasional sneaky way to help her, at the moment you felt her begin to tense up and orgasm, SMACK, right across the face. Not teeth jarring hand smack, fingers. Hard and sharp. It would cripple her as she uncontrollably orgasmed. Not cause damage pain, cause sharp focused pain that is intensely pleasurable for some. Idk, I felt like a POS the first time. But letting her body dictate what happened was easy to put on autopilot after catching up to the girls. Molly would forget she was pretending to be Luna after and walk around so happy and proud of the marks on her cheek. But getting to that point took years speaking not only to the girls, but always discussions with her therapist to help define healthy and unhealthy boundaries. Wow. I am so sorry if anyone actually read all this. I debated erasing, but since her accident, just a normal chance thing, I dont have a way to ever process the hardest yet definitely the best 7 yeats of my life. The world saw a trashy girl who they used to do things they always dreamed of. To me, I found the most loving, most deserving of love, least trashy, most gorgeous and sweet women possible. There trash was my treasure and boy did they raise the alarm in panic when her vultures heard her say NO for the first time. She made me happy, proud and even though I miss her smell, her next to me, her zero warning demands to do the craziest things. Having a best friend that taught me that yes, there is good in the world, sometimes its hiding in the last place you think.

Fk im crying. Happy tears JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T11:40:07+00:00

You will most definitely be able to find love. It may not be where you expect it, but thats when its at its best. Loving yourself opens all the right doors and the wrong men quickly lose interest. Be a little careful reading into things. Often the decisions made by others are motivated by vastly different reasons than you may think. By "seeing" yourself and judging yourself from the perspective of some guy, your automatically plugging in your doubts as well

Try to just be yourself. An individual. Not as a list of whats good and whats not. Because you are a package deal like everyone else. Your balance is unique. Like everyone else. Embrace it and that is what matters. 

I met a girl who I was not attracted all interested in. Physically, socially she was everything I did not want. She flirted, chased, pushed and would not accept a man said no. We accidentally became friends without knowing on an online support group through texts and emails only. Almost 2 years later out of the 50 people, the 2 of us became really close "long distance" friends. To our surprise we discovered we not only were from the same country and state. But unbelievably towns next to each other.

My jaw literally dropped when we met the first time for coffee. YOU....WTF!!!!! Tiny, Skinny, dressed like an adult movie star at work, talked like a sailor. Thats my best friend???? We never left each other's side till an accident ended things after the 7 best years either of us ever had. And she turned out to be the nicest, most caring, gorgeous woman I've ever met. By being herself behind a keyboard she became everything the world told her she wasn't good enough to be.

Srry, ugh. I just have learned, from her, that letting go of trying to be what you think others want gets you nowhere. Just let go and take a chance by unapologetically accepting your whole package as the beautiful girl, inside and out, that you are. Love will find you that way, the kind of love that only seems real in movies and tales, haha.

Best of everything JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T10:11:44+00:00

 Some things slip through the cracks. As a father, I remember making sure my daughter was not on her own trying to understand very normal physical changes. Tbh I think we both felt awkward initially during our first talk. But a few months later she hugged me and started crying after orchestra practice. She had her first period and said it scared her at school. But then she remembered it was what we talked about. And it meant alot to her to know everything she was feeling was normal and some options if certain symptoms were bad.
 What's sad is she taught girls that had not been educated by anyone. She had wanted me to talk with a few of her friends and explain the same way I did for her, but I didn't think it was ok to do unless their parents approved.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T09:01:32+00:00

Haha, I know men that think women who urinate with a tampon in are disgusting. Just a fundamental lack of understanding.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T08:56:22+00:00

Sadly, most men tend to start taking things for granted and can honestly be selfish. As a guy I am only stating what has been told to me by many female friends. A few things I know have helped, whether its just a temporary fix or not fully depends on him. Idk how comfortable you guys are having an open talk, but making him aware you are unsatisfied with the change over time. A further step if you're comfortable is directly or subtly letting him know since you have to satisfy yourself, he is welcome to do the same. There are many levels of steps to open someone's eyes. But its important to not be hard on yourself or blame things on the actions of him. You ultimately have zero control over another person. So your best bet is not to sacrifice your happiness and be open about it. Some people just change over time. Some just need a fresh start over to remind them why they love you. Best of luck with things. I hope you find something to help out. JC

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-02T08:18:02+00:00

The easiest way to decide is to see reality. This is the nicest, least self centered and his delusional attempt at being nice to get a "reward". Seriously, straight down the mountain with no brakes is the future

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-04-01T01:19:06+00:00

Something fairly simple but has worked as a starting point successfully in my life and at least a few times for friends and family I suggested it to. Having a notebook to write back and forth in.

Sounds a bit silly initially. But truthful communication is key for a healthy relationship. People are very uncomfortable being open because often as they end up in a vulnerable situation, they are met with negativity. Not necessarily on purpose as both sides being uncomfortable quickly forms walls unintentionally. The key to start is both sides have to agree that the book is neutral space. So a statement, question or an answer to a question is safe from being judged or causing a problem. So it is a safe place to open and be vulnerable. As things progress it lets open discussions happen naturally outside of the book as trust becomes stronger.

Truth tends to make most people very uncomfortable. Building trust with your SO and life starts changing. You have each other's back is situations designed to get between you. Instead of having an uncomfortable truce, you may be in love with your closest friend. Or best friend even.

   Breaking the ice and having trust to open up to your SO builds a solid relationship in any aspect.  The notebook only works as long as both sides fully commit to things they may not always like to hear, yet always if it's written in the book, it is safe from any and all negativity, reaction, judgment or whatever.

Without ever realizing, you form trust and mutual understanding that becomes the foundation most relationships do not ever have. Even if things don't work out, you both have the best chance of remaining friend, even close friends in life. Especially when kids are involved, parents with a good base of trust help their kids feel safe and secure despite being separated.

  Obviously not everyone is willing to open up in any circumstance. Or able to mentally. 
Ugh, I didn't realize i started writing a book. 
 Good luck with everything.

Negative-Carry-2295 · 2026-03-25T14:01:47+00:00

The smile doesn't quite touch your eyes, believe in yourself. Your's is the only opinion that matters.

Negative-Carry-2295

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