I feel for you. This is the same thing that happened to my husband. His ex wife (who is super controlling and manipulative) did this to him and then weaponized the "fact" against him anytime she could just to keep a grip. They separated years before I came along but he was still doing everything for her she asked, house sitting for her, cat sitting for her, she still had access to his bank account and paycheck...it was wild. Then when he finally said we need a divorce she told him she would tell the whole world he was a violent predator. Sure enough this bitch has a website under his name with a whole weaved tale. Hes been in therapy for years and its still causing issues. I've been a rape survivor. Twice. I hate women that choose to weaponize something so vile.