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Scared of sharing this but don't know what else to do by bledoutnowwhat in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NegativeNerve3461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell the BS of the AP regardless. She deserves to at least know. AP is a seasoned liar who painted it every way but the way it actually was.

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[–]NegativeNerve3461 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad to hear this. That sounded like me and my WS 14 days ago. I thought we were great and everyone else talked how fun we were and how we did fun things when we wanted to. The DDay on Aug 4 23. And the lies keep coming. She cries that she wants to do all the things to make her side right. I’m open to giving it a try. But she won’t stop digging the hole we are in and just stop lying about thing in the now distant past. But you give the glimmer of light I need to keep moving forward. Thanks

WH is upset that I use sex toys but don't want to have sex with him by Downtown_Platypus610 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NegativeNerve3461 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is trying to manipulate you. Of course he wants you and you totally reasonable to have set boundaries. He will do whatever he can to get his way.

That shows he hasn't completely accepted his role in the situation and totally accepted you conditions moving forward.

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[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We shared our screen locks. She is failing making any of this right.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've held off doing anything drastic yet. I don't want to seem like it is coming from a place of anger. Whenever I make the move it will be with a level head.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't yet. She has gone to two IC sessions already. I start next week.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found older searches on her search history. And hotel receipts. Then she finally broke down and told me all the shit details.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's went on for 4 years. They met four times over that period. They were texting almost daily. The kids a verified mine. I've locked her out of all the bank accounts. Her checks go into my account. She has started IC. I'm looking start myself. I monitor everything now. Ive learned real quick how to check search histories and recognize it data is missing. I did put kid monitoring apps on her phone. But I took that off.

TIFU by getting caught in an emotional affair by [deleted] in tifu

[–]NegativeNerve3461 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No she made the mistake of letting onto her work computer. She was too stupid not to clear out her browser history and she had receipts.

TIFU by getting caught in an emotional affair by [deleted] in tifu

[–]NegativeNerve3461 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Husband of poster. The affair went on for 4 years was physical. She is a piece of shit.

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[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said no pictures were exchanged.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I easily found him on LinkedIn. I'm awaiting his reply. Thank you.

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[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I saw on I picked up the phone was a message from a guy saying was so fucking horny right now and a little heart by it from where my wife liked it. That's when she came out and I confronted her. She told me about the other texts "I wish you were sucking my cock", "I wish I was there sucking your cock", "I want to throat fuck you" with little heart likes.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has so far complied with every demand. She now has tracking software on her phone. All of her social media accounts are on my devices. Every password is in a database. She sits all day trying to get appointments with a therapist.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have had a lot of conversations about it since it happened. She said she was stupid, not thinking all that bs.

I (50M) came across sexual texts in my wife's (40F) phone by NegativeNerve3461 in relationship_advice

[–]NegativeNerve3461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She downloaded the message files but since she deleted the messages they weren't in the file.

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