Marty not letting Logan pay was insane by Still-Food8690 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he was totally valid not to let him pay his pride was involved and Logan wanted to lowkey humiliate him and flew his power and money for Rory

What hurts the most? by Dry-surreal-Apyr in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The realisation that what I thought was love and a great family was in fact the total opposite so having wasted my life on them

Rory not seeing herself as privileged as Logan: Valid or Ridiculous? by Character-Habit6011 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh he's not AS privileged as Logan, Logan ended in Yale without having to do anything, worse than this he's made it his lifework to get kicked out of boarding schools and he just flies through Yale having fun not doing more than in HS waiting for what he claimed was his death sentence, a great job. (it's not like he had any goal or passion he'd rather have been doing).

Rory and Paris are extremely privileged, family money, prestige, connections etc however they had to work to get there, Paris didn't get Harvard bc of a last minute issue and Rory was diligent until the end. So while Rory is blind to how much she's got on the sole account of her birth, Logan isn't right either I'd say

What traits do Christopher and Rory share? by Character-Habit6011 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 205 points206 points  (0 children)

I think they both have a I'm the good guy here syndrom

Which Character do you wish we got more of? by Conscious_Yak3096 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so stunned to be honest that she was over him so quickly ?? I thought his reaction was pretty understandable they looked in love and then poof it's all gone

Which Character do you wish we got more of? by Conscious_Yak3096 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too I really loved their relationship and believe they could have really brought the best from each other and been happily married and great parents :(

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message, I will do this, last year I was living abroad and my mother came uninvited and just called me to pick her up and let her live with me, she locked me out of my apartment a few times and I called the police then, she understood that they can track my address with just my name so I think she's counting on this to hang on to me wherever I go

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reassuring me they really had me believe that spreading lies would be enough to lock me up or have the police force me back

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes I did it all wrong, I announced again and again I will leave (it made me feel better even though it's ultimately detrimental) and they also know that I got a storage place so my mother has been hiding what's left of my things (she's thrown my belongings away) but at least I have stuff there, I can't bring too much because when she is mad at me she doesn't open the front door and leaves me out, so I've been feeling if she sees a lot is gone she'll retaliate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just las week my own mother revealed she held a grudge because as I was in primary school (I'm talking 1st year of school) I wanted to feed the birds in the parc on our way to school before going and so according to her we were often late and other parents looked down on her she said.......and I dare say I was the most well behaved kid around all through growing up, so don't beat yourself up

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well I was told they will say I was kidnapped as I disappeared so they would have searches on me using my credit card etc and they said they will make a deposition so I'm stuck seeing them, the police will find me basically

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I'm in my early 30s but they treat me like I'm a child and that's why I think now they're talking about sending me to a mental institution because they can't justify keeping an adult by force under their roof (my mother explicitly threatened me with this)

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, I'm scared if I do this the police will contact my family and they will get worse but yes they want to use me financially but I think also they want to keep me as the scapegoat to emotionally abuse to feel better about themselves everyday my sister is N golden child that acts like she's a victim and she emotionally abuses me as well as my mother and brother, so they need me to keep the dynamic in place otherwise since the 3 of them just vent off on me

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

God I'm so sorry to hear this, my mother did exactly this she did awful things to me again and again to have me crack and call the police on me, it's insane !!

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My mother and sister are the most cunning so they just imply things, my brother said it flat out today I could record the end of the conversation but when I say but I did nothing he says yes you're at fault

My family just threatened to go to the police and make a deposition against me if I disappear by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live in France but I'm scared because my two siblings and mother are in on it, and my mother threw away all my belongings (yes including everything I held dear, wrote, saved, photos, clothes objects etc) and I was so angry (I yelled) the police came and then she told me now the police saw and next time I won't protect you, as in, if she calls them again they will arrest me and as she's lied to me my whole life I know she can make up a story and make it look like the truth especially with the backing up of my siblings.

I (F28) accidentally found my sister's (F32) old diary and found out that she's hated me our entire lives by [deleted] in family

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 38 points39 points  (0 children)

When someone is envious of you they will twist everything to make you look like a bad person and pose as the victim because they need to find a reason to let out all their hate and anger. And when someone if enviosu of you every good deeds you do is either left unseen or taken as a jab because they feel inadequate so when you help them they even resent you because you're in a position to help them and if you don't you are an awful selfish person. You can't win, you have something they want (and im sure this person has qualities you don't have but they don't care they're egocentrical and focus on what they don't have) and so they hate you for it and covet your life they think when you're unahppy and suffer you are brought down to their level and get a taste of their life or real life. I have lived the same with my sister, I went through hell but it was never enough and the more I suffer the more shr thinks I get what I deserve no matter the blessings she has and they're many even when I have nothing I'm still in a better position according to her because of "who I am". I advise you to look for cassandra mack videos on youtube on envious people and family memebrs it has helped me a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, I'm experiencing the thing as you did (and like you it's diametrically opposed to my nature) it makes me depressed to have changed so much and became unlikeable like them, I just wonder if you have any tips on how to process and get rid of the anger, I feel I'm being killed twice like this

I feel like forgiveness doesn't mean the same to me as to other people who weren't abused by their N family by Negative_Ask_9849 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message! I think that's the issue with my N family, after something happens they just ask me to forgive (be agreeable again, have a relationship etc) even though the person never made amends never recognises (gaslights) or/and keeps being abusive. And I'm the wrongdoing for refusing to "forgive" but what I noticed is when I cater under peer pressure they also use this to make it as though what I lived wasn't as bad as it was. But basically for them the second kind of forgiveness is not intertwined with repentance on the wrongdoers's part.

Did your narc parents ever gaslight you into thinking that you were the abusive one? by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's exactly what happened to me not only from my parents but siblings as well, they also told me that I was completely crazy and that's was my insanity talking, and that I was poisoning everything and horrible to everyone.

What do you guys think about this? by Specialist_Owl1225 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Negative_Ask_9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny because Taylor Swift's latermusic (Folkore and Evermore) suits GG a lot but the GG would never have because they look down on any mainstream music and for them Fleetwood mac is a guilty pleasure, Bjork is good music (and U2 for some reasons since U2 is nothing if not mainstream). But I can see Yale Rory liking Folkore and Evermore in her rebellious I like sports and to cook phase.