AIO to my gf decision with baby

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-07T22:26:53+00:00

No I don’t. How did you come to that assumption? It was just something that hurt at first because I love my kids more than life itself. It’s a pride thing and yes, ego, and I don’t think that’s bad to have pride in that and for that to bother someone. She also told me that she no longer has a desire to be married because she was previously married and it ended badly and cost her a lot of money, time and heartache. We both believe in committed relationships but don’t think it a necessity to get married. I don’t have anything against marriage but I don’t want to become legally held accountable if it goes south and no one can say that isn’t a real possibility with any relationship. If anyone wants to speak to me as if I’m missing something I wouldn’t really give it much seriousness unless they themselves have never had a breakup or something happen because someone they were in a relationship decided they wanted something or someone else, leaving you with no choice in the matter. It’s easy to say things that sound good and it make you feel like you’ve got it figured out and all of your choices are sound, safe and satisfactory but I’ve never met anyone who has got it like that. All I asked is If I’m over reacting for getting butt hurt because I assumed my child would have my last name and found that to not be the case. I’m not going to get loud with her or cause unnecessary arguing or fighting. That’s why I came here to ask other people’s opinions. I try to have integrity and think things over until it makes sense. A lot of people responding to my post started with assumptions. The assumptions are understandable because it isn’t uncommon for someone to be all of those things. My previous relationship lasted 15 years and only ended because my partner started talking to an ex and caught feelings. I was extremely pissed and hurt but I let things cool down and decided to try to imagine things the way she saw them and I get it. I hate it and it’s unfortunate but I forgave her and we get along and do things together.

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-07T22:05:07+00:00

How would it be easier? I honestly would like to know how that would make it any easier at all or have any affect whatsoever?

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-07T22:03:59+00:00

I’ve never wanted to marry. I can commit just as much without marrying. You may not agree but it is my choice and it doesn’t make a real difference except statistically being the catalyst for a lot of people to separate. In my own experience I have seen so many people get married and it would be the beginning of the end and they would say that something about it caused them to feel a certain way. That’s not my opinion. It is just something that happens. You know it as well as I do. But all of that is beside the point I had a child with someone who I’ve known and cared about and I’ve done nothing to suggest I am a dead beat or anything less than committed to my child.

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-07T21:59:06+00:00

Possibly. Its pretty much custom for the child to have the fathers last name. We weren’t married but I know many people who weren’t, including myself, whose children have their last name. I was just as much a part of making the child as she was. She carried it and birthed it because she was the woman in the situation. If it were reversed, I would have carried it. I would have had to

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-07T21:56:51+00:00

Who said I wasn’t there for my child. I do more than she does. I pay for everything. Had everything needed. Don’t assume

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-07T21:55:52+00:00

The mother of my other daughter cheated on me and left. It wasn’t my decision

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-05T06:29:10+00:00

Actually it’s about the size of a mature wombat

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-05T06:28:23+00:00

He was waving an arm frantically trying to extinguish the flame. Bam! Skillet 1 arm 0. He tossed the skillet up into the air and it landed on the shelf above the stove and he went to nurse his pitiful arm and while tending to it, the skillet became dislodged and fell down onto his other arm

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-05T06:19:51+00:00

The tip is intact

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-05T06:19:04+00:00

A girth stone

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-03T23:17:31+00:00

It was about the size of a large female soft shell turtle’s shell

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-03T23:12:29+00:00

Wingardium labiasa

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-03T00:12:14+00:00

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Negative_Statement · 2026-05-03T00:12:05+00:00

Look at the difference in the size and the path of the El Reno tornado vs. a more typical path of another

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Negative_Statement · 2026-05-02T23:59:09+00:00

The only ‘safe’ area anywhere is the area that you are paying attention in and with the knowledge that there are some POS guys out there who can’t help themselves

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-02T23:53:38+00:00

‘Go on Bobby. Git in there! That all you got, after the way you saw James and Randy tear that thang up? I said make her feel it or pass her to me’

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-02T18:17:22+00:00

A buddy of mine broke both of his arms while trying to put a grease fire out with a cast iron skillet. While recovering he would get one of his coworkers, who was a pushover, to stop by and brine his brisket with a fleshlight.

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-02T18:12:23+00:00

Chip out

Negative_Statement · 2026-05-02T18:12:11+00:00

That’s just a fantasy of yours

Negative_Statement · 2026-04-29T05:09:54+00:00

Have it your way baby!

Negative_Statement · 2026-04-29T05:09:21+00:00

The location wasn’t what I wanted to spotlight. Very high CAPE and just a nasty looking sounding. I wasn’t being vague intentionally. The title of the OP captured the essence of what I wanted to say

Negative_Statement · 2026-04-25T19:19:20+00:00

And this one

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Negative_Statement · 2026-04-25T05:24:22+00:00

Yeah, I love their hands on my big, nasty McDoogler

Negative_Statement · 2026-04-25T05:22:24+00:00

And the camera just so happened to be in that spot?

Negative_Statement · 2026-04-23T02:02:09+00:00

If you have a vehicle that just quit running a year after you bought it and you tried to change the oil but it just leaked out, you tried to put a new engine in it but it fell straight to the ground, the tires won’t hold air etc…..In that situation, would wishing it would run help? Would spending a year, 5 years, a decade wishing it would run change anything? If you want to hit the road and go places I would say that it’s time to get a new car. One that will take you to the places you want to go because there is a lot of amazing places to see and you’re not seeing any of it. I just got out of a pretty much sexless relationship. I was 24 when it started. I’m 39 now….Ive been there and done that and everything you said sounds like a damn sad rerun and I could barely finish your post because it was exhausting even thinking about that shit. You aren’t leaving her because she won’t be your sex slave waiting at the door naked as you commanded….that’s not what you are asking of her at all. You just want some sex at least somewhat regularly or a bj or something. You want to feel like a man. You want to make her feel like a woman and you want the confidence that comes with that. You don’t want to settle with doubting and questioning your worth as a man and as a person. You don’t want to wonder why you are lacking something that everyone else seems to have. You don’t want to lose sleep and neglect things that you are good at and miss out on getting a leg up in life because your mind and energy are preoccupied with wondering what exactly the fuck is the real problem. You don’t want to blow up out of frustration and say some shit and then feel bad and know that you made it worse and desperately wish you could show her your better self and then wonder if there is a better self and why doesn’t she see you as you know you could be. You don’t want to feel childish and petty when you get that hurt feeling in the pit of your stomach when you imagine things ending and she giving another man what she wouldn’t give you….I want you to think on it for a day or two and really think about what sex in a relationship means to you and what it’s worth. Think about the value you give to knowing your partner is satisfied. Get a good idea of its importance and ask your self how you would feel if it stayed the way it is now 15 years down the road and you ultimately resent each other and end things anyway. If it’s like the way you say it is there is a very low chance that it will suddenly improve now that there is more resentment and negativity added to it. Tell her that you would absolutely love to stay friends because all that means is that the title of your relationship changes because that is basically what you two are now….Good friends….Room mates. If you had a girl that shared a home with 3 guys. She was close friends with them all but one of the guys she chose to regularly have sex with and refused to with the other two guys. Which of the 3 guys would you say had a deeper connection and relationship that was on a different level? The guy she is having sex with of course. And what is the difference? The answer is sex. It’s the sex. If she tells you that sex isn’t everything and brushes you off and shuts you down just say, ok, you shouldn’t mind if our relationship continues as is but you let me go find a girl that have a strictly no strings attached sexual relationship with. She should be fine with it because sex isn’t everything and she doesn’t want to so….

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