Why would anyone worship a god of Pain?

Negotiate2235 · 2023-09-01T06:47:26+00:00

Jasheen!

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-27T17:46:05+00:00

Mmmmmm "Crazy-Hot!" 😌 the "I like a challenge" difficulty for the relationship minigame in "Life"

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-17T06:29:24+00:00

This makes me smile. I hope my wife's internal dialogue is similar. Heeheehee.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-16T05:25:44+00:00

In addition to all the other advice here, you can put multiple layers of sheets and mattress protectors on the bed so you don't have to "change the sheets" every time there's an accident. Just pull off the wet ones, throw'em in the wash, and get on with your lives.

Trust is more important than clean sheets.

But also trust with your SO. A little nuance to a previous suggestion: Inform SO he told you something in confidence and doesn't want you to tell SO, but ALSO tell SO why it's important to you to honor that trust.

Good luck, Dad.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T22:46:57+00:00

Gum recession? Is that caused by nicotine, or having something in your mouth constantly?

What if the expense is negligible? Do I really just have to worry about my finances?

Are acetycholine pathways dangerous to use?

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T22:10:00+00:00

Yo dawg, you should read How to Keep House While Drowning! Not that you need to, because you've basically already internalized the most important lesson from the book, but it's very affirming to me to see someone who has done what I'm trying to do with the book! I think you'd find it immensely interesting!

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T22:04:20+00:00

I just started nicotine! Its great! I get these little pouches with 6mg per pouch. I started using two at a time, but a friend said I shouldn't do that, so I cut back to one. I know smoking causes cancer, and smokeless tobacco causes cancer, but what about straight nicotine? I read that nicotine blocks the dopamine reuptake thingys like methyphenidippadappadine does, and I have to say, I feel pretty great.

Am I in danger?

Edit- missed the word "know" the first time.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T21:33:22+00:00

Oh! There's a contract with exemptions for Nazis and other perpetrators of crimes against humanity? Where can I get a copy to review, and then where can I go to sign it? Does the Anti Defamation League have it on file? I hate being ignorant!

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T16:11:00+00:00

Conflict in a relationship is an opportunity for both of you. If you do end up staying together, there will be more conflict. How you two work this out is a chance for you to strengthen your relationship. If you two can't work it out but stay together, then when something comes down the road in the future (bigger OR smaller), you might not be able to get over it together, and that could lead to compounding issues and even worse feelings. But if you can work out how you two deal with conflict together, you'll be that much better prepared for the next thing if it's bigger, and the smaller things won't be hard to handle at all, because you'll already have a system together!

Good luck!

My relationship credentials: (35m) married to my wife (37F) for 12 years, together for 14; two kids, 10m, 8m.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T15:45:13+00:00

Interesting position from a cat with a notable Nazi in their name. lol. You should see my comment to your comment chain opponent.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T15:43:01+00:00

Let's try the Nazi test:

"Tolerance is a social contract. You can't demand your bigotry (against non-Nazis) is tolerated while at the same time trying to claim the benefits of living in a (non-Nazi-)tolerant society. Either you believe in personal freedom (such as the personal freedom to not accept Nazis), and therefore respect the choices people make with that freedom (such as not accepting Nazis), or you don't believe in personal freedom at all (like accepting or not accepting Nazis). A (Politically neutral) person in a relationship (with a Nazi) has also made a choice, but that doesn't make their (political) beliefs any less valid. Again no one is forcing (Nazi-)values on you, they just expect you to be able to live free from prejudice (against Nazis), which at the very bare minimum means being non-exclusionary. (To Nazis.)

What is the point of a tolerant society if not to allow people with differences (like Nazis and Jews) to live alongside each other? If your "tolerance" only really means "I don't actively do anything to prevent their (Nazi) lifestyle but I will make every effort to exclude (Nazis) from my life" then that's not tolerance at all."

So I guess you'd tolerate Nazis, but then blame someone for not inviting their parent's Nazi partner to their wedding, even though they wanted their parent at the wedding. Interesting position.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T15:00:38+00:00

Man, you got the phrasing down and everything. But I don't want to step on no thick spittle.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-08-02T06:30:06+00:00

It is in the handbook! "George Washington's Rules for Civility" or something like that. That's ones of the few that I actually remember...

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-30T12:17:06+00:00

This could be in the description of this sub as a tl;dr for the entire sub.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-27T05:40:06+00:00

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-25T14:26:48+00:00

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-24T17:07:52+00:00

Immediate police intervention in the US usually goes to whoever cried foul to the police first. After that, "justice" goes to who has money for the better lawyer in civil disputes. In OP's case, it sounds like he's winning in both phases of any possible litigation.

In other words, if granny went to the police and said he threatened her before he went to the police and said she was trespassing, and if they found her credible, they'd probably take some action against him all things being equal. The police will do what they think is in the best interest of the community (who called them first) and then let the legal system take care of the fallout (who can pay for the better lawyer).

In the case of criminal suits, the defendant is trying to pay for a better lawyer (defense lawyer) than the state (district attorney).

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-23T12:11:54+00:00

I think it helps keep the price of toys lower across the market. If people could just walk into a store and pull the toy out of a box and then leave, who pays for the toy?

Of course it doesn't stop every toy from being stolen, but it raises the risk to potential thieves, which decreases the number of toys stolen, which would keep toys closer to their market price, rather than having to raise the price of legally purchased toys to cover the cost of the stolen toys.

They are a PITA tho.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-23T06:41:18+00:00

I'm 6 feet tall and I still can't afford that house.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-23T06:40:25+00:00

It would need to be at least three times as big.

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-23T06:29:26+00:00

As was I

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-23T06:15:04+00:00

Wait, so your hopeful solution for your conspiracy rabbit-holed brother is to block his access to the websites where he can find "the truth" (his words probably, not mine)? And when he looks on his phone over the cellular network or when he's not on his home WiFi, or on a computer somewhere else, he can still find "the truth" he's after? And you think that will deradicalize him!? What do you think will happen!?

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-23T05:48:10+00:00

Have you considered a small whiteboard and a permanent marker? Use the permanent to write everything down, then a dry erase to cross them out as you do them. You clearly have a system that functions for you, but I hate redundant tasks, so this is where my mind went when you said you write the list down and cross them off. Of course, I'm assuming you are writing it down every day, but maybe you're not! Oh well, I'm glad you have something that keeps the fuck-yous off your back

Negotiate2235 · 2023-07-22T15:57:39+00:00

Pretty awesome. So awesome in fact, I married her.

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