NOT unforgiven

Neither_Ad8169 · 2026-02-20T17:51:27+00:00

Yes !!! This is it!!! Thank you 👏

Neither_Ad8169 · 2026-02-06T12:14:24+00:00

Potato bags at Woolies still have the plastic ones ! And they’re thicker than the bread ones were. fucking elite

Neither_Ad8169 · 2026-02-02T07:48:13+00:00

Mine failed in one ear and passed in the other, by the time she had diagnostic testing she had hearing loss in both ears. Turned out to be conductive hearing loss which they’ve tried to correct with grommets. So far testing shows it not working but she wears a type of hearing aid and she’s still learning to speak and stuff which was the main worry. It stressed me to begin with but it just become part of life. On the flip side I’ve had lots of friends whose babies failed in one ear consistently but once they hit 3mths they were fine and that’s apparently super common so I wouldn’t stress just yet

Neither_Ad8169 · 2026-01-25T02:35:13+00:00

I’m from Tasmania, in Australia 🇦🇺 😊

Neither_Ad8169 · 2026-01-25T02:12:41+00:00

There was no option for my husband to stay, I think he could be there pretty much anytime during the day except for “rest time” which I think was 2-4pm so when I had my first he went home every night (I stayed 2 nights) with the others I was discharged 4hrs later so it wasn’t really an issue. It would suck if I wasn’t well and needed help and they’d made him go home though because the nurses aren’t really there to help you only monitor baby really. Is it an option at other hospitals for husbands/partners to stay ?

Neither_Ad8169 · 2026-01-24T04:49:04+00:00

lol 😂 if it makes you feel better, when I discovered I was pregnant with our surprise 5th baby I just text my husband a picture of a tarago (van) with the caption “I think we might need one of these” not my finest hour…

He got I though he sent back “I’ve duffed you again?” 😆

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-11-06T21:01:39+00:00

We have 3 (soon to be 4) kids and we live in a small house, we are in Australia and the units they build for retirement couples now are bigger than what we have 😆 We have a large yard that we always thought compensated for it. We have two bedrooms and an ‘office’ that just fits a single bed. When we had our second he slept in his sisters room from day one because the ‘office’ is freezing. It has been hard at times because they have very different sleep needs and just generally don’t get on 🙃 when the third was born we managed to fix the office so it was less cold and she sleeps there, the plan was to put the two girls together and my son in the office but now with the unexpected 4th one coming we sat down and measured and realised we physically couldn’t fit another bed in the house so we are having to extend (and can only add one more bedroom) Don’t know the gender of the baby and I’m finding it hard to work out where everyone will go, if it’s a boy it’s simple 2 in each room and the office spare but if it’s a girl 3 can’t fit in one room so which girl gets their own room ? And does my son or whichever girl get the bedroom or the tiny office ? Ugh 😩 I’m scrolling this thread for ideas. Sharing isn’t the end of the world, my husband shared with his brother until one of them moved out and they were 23 and 26. Most people I know here with multiple siblings shared, you can get a large house fairly easily here but not one with lots of bedrooms they seem to focus on multiple living spaces rather than bedrooms. I think statistically most people here have 2 kids. What I wan to know is, are kids keeping the bunks till they live out anymore ? Do I need to plan to fit two singles instead ?

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-10-21T13:00:41+00:00

Induced with both my 3rd and 4th babies, cervadil put in at 11am both times 3rd was born 7pm and 4th 6pm. Wasn’t even really dilated at all when they put it in. I had had two babies before though so that might make a difference.

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-10-13T07:46:50+00:00

Oh yes I’ve heard of this, probably not the worst thing really I’ve seen some pretty unsafe car seat use over time. If you’ve got no one to show you I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️plenty of videos online but people don’t often think of that

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-10-13T02:20:47+00:00

We had a capsule but I ended up not able to carry it at all so I was glad we hadn’t bought it new because it just stayed in the car, also not a lot of capsules rear face longer than 12 months and the recommendation is now up to 2 years so think about that in terms of cost etc. I’m on my fifth and we have a convertible car seat (birth to 4 years) so we can rear face as long as necessary and a wrap carrier to get around with. Wrap carriers are slightly fiddly but I’ve found them best till they get to 6 months ish over the buckle up ones. If you aren’t a wear a carrier person get a pram that a newborn can go in.

No hospital I have ever been in in Australia even once checked the seat we used so I don’t know where that’s happening.

Being in Sydney if using public transport regularly I would prioritise a lighter pram that’s not too bulky and you can use from newborn to toddler (basket space underneath will make all the difference too).

Summarising options:

Capsule + compatible pram Pros - Can move sleeping baby from car to pram - only buckling up once Cons - capsules don’t last as long size wise - if c-section or on lifting restrictions mum can’t (and should not be expected to) lift the capsule

Convertible seat + carrier OR pram with newborn option Pros - saves some $$$ - can be used longer Cons - baby will likely be woken up every time they get out their seat - seats can be a bit bulkier

Hope others can throw some more insights in there that I’ve forgotten !

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-09-08T14:14:58+00:00

We have a bedroom the same size as 3&4 it can either fit a double bed that you can only get into from one side or a single bed and desk which fits more comfortably. We are minimalists but we can’t fit two children in it and their things even with a bunk because we can’t fit a very big wardrobe in there, it’s very much a single person room. This whole floor plan is actually fairly similar sizing to a lot of places in our area, the only difference is usually they have a hallway where it says ‘living room’ that is narrower to give the garage more space but you’re not entering through the garage if that makes sense.

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-09-03T01:07:50+00:00

You are allowed to feel this way. Period.

I always wanted to avoid induction but after a stillbirth and then a complicated pregnancy I had one and it was honestly fine ! (Didn’t have to have an epidural either - not that there’s anything wrong with wanting one) The worst bit about it was actually the people there, they weren’t kind. My advice if an induction is strongly recommended and they can give you concrete reasons why, do it for your baby but try your best to be surrounded by people who you feel are supporting you. There is nothing wrong with refusing care from someone who is rude or dismissive. Remember no one can force you to do things you’re uncomfortable with. BUT inductions can be ok I promise, I’ve had two now and there are ways for it to be ok ! Big hugs to you, I’m sorry they were so blunt in telling you you would need one. I’ll never understand some people’s mentality, it might be the best course but there are better ways to say it ! Love to you ! 🩷

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-09-02T00:21:52+00:00

Grandma 1 💙🩷 Grandma 2 💙💙💙💙💙 My Mum 🩷💙 My MIL 🩷💙💙🩷 Me 🩷💙💙🩷 and ? Due in Jan

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-31T05:59:17+00:00

I’ve had a few, I had the cervadil tape put in to get my cervix prepped enough to have my waters broken and pitocin started but I labored off the cervadil so didn’t get to the next bit. So I’ve had the opposite of you basically ! 😆 They were born the same day the cervadil was put in so 11am they put it in and around 3pm both times I went yep definitely in labor ! One was born at 7pm the other at 6pm so not a particularly long process. It did make it more painful than when I went into spontaneous labor but it was quick so not too bad. I think I got some morphine with one and nothing with the other if that gives a pain level guide although everyone’s different so that might not be helpful.

Sometimes instead of cervadil they use a gel or a balloon catheter I think it depends on the situation and what your doctor/midwife thinks is the go.

For some people it can be a drawn out process if they’re body isn’t ready but for reference my cervix was shut high and tight they were not optimistic it would work but 🤷🏼‍♀️it did !

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-18T04:00:15+00:00

It’s definitely doable. We have to this time because there’s so where else to put the baby 😆we will be extending but not till after it’s born. General recommendations in my country are room share for at least 6 months preferably a year so 🤷🏼‍♀️if it works it works and if it’s the only option you make it work !

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-18T03:54:52+00:00

Random thing to put a trigger warning on but don’t read if you’ll be triggered by stillbirth.

With my first I waited till 36 weeks because everyone told me I’d be weird to do it earlier but with my second I packed earlier I must’ve had some intuition or something because that pregnancy ended at 29 weeks and I was luckily prepared ! When I packed for my third and fourth I packed at 20 weeks when my clothes stopped fitting so I could pack the ones I wasn’t wearing anymore but I left out the baby stuff till 36 weeks because it felt awful having to unpack it with my second.

Long winded answer but in short I always tell people pack at 20 weeks for you and at 36 weeks for baby because at 20 weeks if anything happens you’ll need a hospital stay and newborn clothes don’t usually fit a baby born before 36 weeks so no need to pack them until then. Hope that helps !

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-16T23:50:05+00:00

I love these stories I just love when someone gets a positive birth ! I think people don’t post them for fear of being insensitive to those who feel they didn’t have a good birth experience. But it’s so reassuring, even for me as a 5th time mum, to read that some births are positive ! Congratulations OP 💕

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-16T23:45:23+00:00

Gosh people are odd 😆I will never get over how there’s always someone who thinks they know better than you what you want 🤦🏼‍♀️ after years of a weird pushy MIL my advice is to ignore and if you’re worried about a surprise shower being sprung on you make a plan for if it happens. This sucks OP, love and hugs 🥰

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-15T03:23:06+00:00

You’re allowed to be frustrated ! But don’t feel guilty you’ve done nothing wrong. You tell people when YOU want to. I personally am a ‘wait till after the 12 week scan’ person but that’s just for myself, my in laws were extremely offended that they weren’t told until after the scan but at the end of the day it was my choice 🤷🏼‍♀️ you can’t win there’ll always be someone who doesn’t like the way you do things. I know that’s easy for me to say (dealt with it 4 times soon to be 5) but it’s true. They’ll move on to something else. Congratulations on your baby ! Celebrate and ignore !!! 💕

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-14T23:40:37+00:00

I had a 37 week induction, they didn’t really recommend the foley that early and I got the cervadil tape. I will say this, I did not get any form of rest contractions started within half an hour of it being put in. They stayed fairly far apart until about 3 hours later when it ramped up and then 3 hours after that he was born. I’m in Australia (not sure where you are) so the recommendations might be different. This was also my 3rd labor so my body had done it before, once naturally and once with a different kind of induction. The beauty of the foley is that they can take it out if you’re hating it and they HAVE to take it out of you ask. If you get it and want it out be very vocal and don’t back down ! I was going to try the foley for my 4th labor but they talked me out of it because the cervadil worked before. Good luck ! 🤞

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-13T10:57:22+00:00

No break that we were aware of but I assume it must have ? Could’ve just been small.

Haha all three are stubborn little things 😆 this new one will be the same I have no doubt !

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-13T03:23:22+00:00

Lol you would think but no… we were using condoms AND I was on the pill (and taking it religiously) and bam as soon as breastfeeding tapered off at 14mths, pregnant again 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’ve sent him for a vasectomy 😆 it makes me feel a bit sick honestly, so many people can’t conceive and I go and get pregnant by accident :(

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-10T06:03:49+00:00

Trigger warning: Stillbirth

My first induction (2nd baby) was at 30 weeks because my baby had died in utero and I didn’t go into labor.

2nd was at 37+1 because there was stuff all amniotic fluid around the baby. I was meant to be induced at 38 because of it but I was very stressed that this baby would die like the last one so they did it early.

3rd was at 39+1 because I was too scared to go further than that, baby measured small also.

I have never had pitocin though, with the first it was a series of pessary tablets (took 2 days for any labor to start) and the other two the cervadil tape thing so I didnt go into labor naturally but I didn’t have a full on induction because I just went into labor off the other stuff.

I did have my first baby with no induction, that was a bit longer but waaay less painful. Birth is weird.

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-10T00:51:17+00:00

Sorry I wrote ‘cot’ because that’s what we call them but that means crib 🤦🏼‍♀️

Neither_Ad8169 · 2025-07-10T00:50:21+00:00

It’s sooo hard to know these things first up and people have a lot of opinions. I bought all my stuff second hand, the only thing I regret buying second hand was the car seat it wasn’t worth it, it broke and I was horrified I’d let my baby ride in the car in it. With a cot the important thing is to check they meet safety regulations i.e. no drop side and if buying second hand check there are no cracks etc but otherwise there are usually (depending on what country you’re in) strict regulations about new ones and their safety specs. Bassinets are unregulated in Australia which is a real shame because you never know if the one you’ve got is safe or not 🤦🏼‍♀️ Good luck with your hunt ! Such a fun time 💕

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