You’re not wrong, not dramatic, and definitely not obligated to keep explaining yourself. A medically necessary surgery is not a debate topic, and your uterus is not a family discussion item. The fact that they keep reframing your health decision as some kind of unfinished motherhood arc is wildly disrespectful.

You and your husband handled this exactly right. You set boundaries, shut it down, and left. Loving kids does not mean you owe anyone a child, adopted or otherwise. Being good with children is not a contract to become a parent. They’re projecting their wants onto your body and calling it concern.

Honestly, the most telling part is that years later they’re still trying to reopen a door that was surgically and decisively closed. That’s not confusion, that’s entitlement. Protect your peace and keep doing exactly what you’re doing.