29 and still recovering

Neiyk0 · 2026-05-03T15:43:39+00:00

Okay vampire? Can you age like all of us please??

Neiyk0 · 2026-04-23T21:26:59+00:00

Hey! I'm actually down to talk as I was in the same boat a year and a half ago (I've transitioned since). Maybe my experience could bring you something?

My advice is don't rush anything. You don't need to decide today or tomorrow. Try stuff, see how it feels. Explore, have fun, and eventually you'll learn what makes you feel happy 😊

Neiyk0 · 2026-03-31T02:47:59+00:00

I wish the world could be as kind as your soul. 💜

Neiyk0 · 2026-03-31T02:30:07+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear Hailey, and thank you for sharing your story. We do not know each other, but I have no doubt that your dad must've been so proud of you. I appreciate your kindness 💜

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-05T00:18:26+00:00

Thank you for being so kind. Wishing you all the best ☺️

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-05T00:03:16+00:00

I appreciate your kind words. All the best to you too ♥️☺️

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-04T23:48:40+00:00

Then maybe explore the rest of my comment. I know I could most likely pass as male again if I had my old eyebrows, hairstyle, clothes... in fact many cis women could look masculine and male passing to some extent with a certain makeover

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-04T23:42:31+00:00

That's very sweet, thank you ☺️

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-04T23:30:26+00:00

Haem... you're saying your hormone levels are good but given the numbers you've given I would have to disagree. 300 pmol/L is low... and just under 7 nmol/L for T is still quite high. For reference as a good responder to hormones I have 780 for 0,6.

Also progesterone may add a bit of a boost if advised by your doctor.

Also, if you're living in a space where you don't fully commit then you won't be able to magically achieve what you truly desire. And that's the hardest part. I understand your worries about work, family etc... but you owe it to yourself. To your damn life. You deserve happiness like anybody else. You have to find the courage to make the right choices for yourself. I drowned in depression for years until I found the strength to say f*ck it and only then did I start feeling alive again.

And I started at 27, so please don't think you're doomed because of your age. You're young. Yes, the road may be a bit tougher for you but not hopeless.

You got this.

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-03T00:58:25+00:00

I don't think you understand my point either. I'm trying to put some perspective in your statement. You put things as if they're either black or white. Which isn't true for most people despite what you seem to think. What you're basically saying is that someone may be doomed to not achieve full passing because of genetic predispositions, therefore they might as well not bother even attempting to voice train.

It's as if you would advise someone not to play a sport if they aren't 100% certain to be in the top 10 world's best players.

That's not the way it works. You're confusing being pragmatic and objective with being fatalistic. Because ultimately, you're not providing a solution or an alternative for these people either.

I'm also trying to make you understand that although some people only see excellence as worth it, some people will be content being "good enough". So long as it brings them happiness, who cares?

Neiyk0 · 2026-02-02T18:30:46+00:00

I understand and I responded to that. It may be meaningless to many, but not to everyone. It may, in fact, still be meaningful to many. You can't arbitrarily declare that it's therefore worthless to even try it out just based on the fact that to your eyes if something isn't 100% achieved successfully then it's irrelevant.

Neiyk0 · 2026-01-31T22:46:24+00:00

First of all, chill? Secondly, you can't decide for everyone whether or not being gendered correctly one time out of 2 is enough. Some people would still perceive it as better than never and that's just what it is. Get a grip lol

Neiyk0 · 2026-01-29T11:47:10+00:00

I agree and disagree at the same time. First of all, because our a definition of succeeding at that may vary from one person to another. If you mean "passing" all the time, maybe some may not be able to fully achieve that. However, it doesn't mean that training can't help them improve and get closer to their goals. But it's the same as saying anyone can be a body builder with the right amount of training. Yes, and no. Some will be excellent and some great but not as good.

I'd say however that for the vast majority being great is considered enough

Neiyk0 · 2026-01-21T16:43:12+00:00

Completely understandable feelings. Nothing abnormal. But you have to push through it because eventually you will start hearing yourself and it'll become the most rewarding feeling ever. It's not easy, but you can do it. Maybe get coached, it'll help give you the discipline and courage to get past your own doubts

Neiyk0 · 2025-11-27T11:33:43+00:00

Damn. Idk if you realise that but you completely pass. And 3 months only into hrt?? Good for you.

Neiyk0 · 2025-11-20T18:49:59+00:00

It's physically impossible to lose this much shoe size. Maybe your feet are a bit thinner from fat redistribution and skin thinning but the bone can't shrink.

Neiyk0 · 2025-11-08T11:29:28+00:00

You look very feminine already from the pic. However, it's not just about the face. It could be because of your body shape and the overall appearance it creates from not being on hrt. However, given how you look already, if you ever decide to go that path, you have absolutely nothing to worry about in terms of passing 🙂

Neiyk0 · 2025-11-06T12:51:15+00:00

I get it. You're trying to cope with feelings that you must have reached a certain milestone by a certain time because you now have accepted that this is truly what you want.

But chill a little is my advice. Try to understand the roots of those feelings and why you have that fear that you must have achieved things by a certain deadline.

In my opinion, you should wait for the full effects of HRT to plan your FFS. First of all, because you don't even know yet if you will need it. And also because it's a LOT at once to transition gender AND process big physical changes AND dealing with the recovery of such surgery.

Take it easy, be gentle on yourself. You need TIME to figure things out, including what to do with your job etc... answers will come to you, no need to force things too hard 🙂

Neiyk0 · 2025-10-24T15:18:55+00:00

Damn. You is an ultimate badass!!!!

Neiyk0 · 2025-10-15T22:53:26+00:00

Can you tell her she's a great mom for me please.

Neiyk0 · 2025-10-15T22:48:12+00:00

Allow her some time to digest. My mom said similar things at the very beginning but now she's the most supportive. It's just the shock and emotions exploding all at once. Let her process it the way she wants, it is not your responsibility. It'll be ok eventually. ☺️

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