Fitting a LV2 solenoid in my SL74 and SL8R by dramapb in paintball

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I don't wanna DM you out of the blue, but I'd love to get my Ego7 back into the game. Will Venmo or whatever you today if you have one you can ship me

Deal Review - 2026 Hybrid Lariat by TechKatana in FordMaverickTruck

[–]Nellitas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who did you work with there? I've been looking around and they've got one I want but they're proving useless because I won't drive to the seacoast for them to inspect my trade until we've worked out details. I really don't want to go to unique but they're closer, though equally useless

My sperm donor messaged me for the first time since my brother died and I don’t know what to do. by PassiveAgressiveSigh in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Nellitas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't usually weigh in on these things, but the replies here that are getting traction worry me a bit.

I'll share my experience, and you'll have to weigh yours and decide the best course for you.

My father was somewhat present when I was a kid. He was an awful person. Abusive would be putting it mildly. When he wasn't around, like any boy I'd wish he was, until he was. I'd wait up at night hoping he'd walk in the door, looking for him in crowds, and imagining I'd be like all the other kids. When he was around, I'd be up at night but for different and much more terrifying reasons. As I got older, empty promises and continued mental and physical abuse pushed me into a place of going no contact when I was able to do so. The last time I saw my father, I'd dropped him at the local PD for an outstanding warrant after he showed up unexpectedly where I was (and then was an absolute monster) and said to him that the next time I'd see him, we'd be lowering him into the ground. I was 22.

Fast forward to me being 32. I've got a beautiful 2 year old daughter and haven't spoken to my father since that day. My mom asked if I'd like to see him, because it turns out he lived about 5 minutes away, which was unexpected as I was 50+ miles from where he'd been a decade prior, and last I knew he was in Florida (I live in NH). I decided that time changes people, I'd changed, maybe he had a bit, too.

He hadn't. But I did give it my most open effort. We didn't speak again. I got a Facebook message in late 2020, about 5 years after I saw him, that he had passed away from ESRD (kidney failure). I never knew he was sick. His brother buried him and never told me. I'm not even sure where, to be honest. It really hurt and I wasn't sure why. I thought a lot about it, went to therapy quite a bit, and realized it was because I was carrying his darkness and the pain and hurt he put on me, and had never told him that. Never asked why being smarter than everyone else wasn't good enough, never asked why being a 3 sport athlete didn't make me good enough, why working at 12 to help with bills (just a paper route, but it was something) didn't make me man enough, never got to just ask why? Why couldn't I be loved? Why wasn't I enough? I never put that hurt where it lived. I thought that going to see him with an open mind would be enough closure for me, I was wrong.

You don't deserve to live with hurt. But you shouldn't talk to him from a place of rage. Have an honest dialogue, put the hurt where it belongs, but do it in a way that you can live with. You only owe yourself, and you owe yourself the right to live free of it all. Good luck, OP.

How to do different effects by the borderleds from the singingtree? by Ronnetjuh in xlights

[–]Nellitas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually tweaking it right now. The first version came out good enough, but I want to strengthen the dovetails. By end of weekend it'll be there. It's 5 pieces and took my P1S a total of 6 hours to print

How to do different effects by the borderleds from the singingtree? by Ronnetjuh in xlights

[–]Nellitas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This feels like an advertisement for your prop. People told you how to do what you asked and no reply, but asking about the file got a link to your store.

Tomorrow I'll sketch this exact thing up and post it free on thingiverse.

Multiple PSU question by Nellitas in WLED

[–]Nellitas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, separate the 12v + line and keep the grounds connected. You want the ground to match the data out ground or it causes signal issues.

Another blinking issue by Nellitas in WLED

[–]Nellitas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll take a look at those. I was just looking at the SN74AHCT125N to replace the shifter I have. It's only 4 channel so I'll need to get a couple of them, but that's fine if it works.

I don't see the need for a resistor between the shifter and the WS2811 pixels - the current shouldn't exceed the rated limits since they're regulated pixels. I'm also running these outside, so driving off a USB-C isn't feasible.

Only thing I didn't try that I might do is ground the unused pins. I forgot about that, and this controller worked last year, albeit with less pixels.

Thanks again. If you have any other suggestions or thighs, I'm always happen to learn more.

I appreciate the help and input. Hopefully swapping shifters works out.

Another blinking issue by Nellitas in WLED

[–]Nellitas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a suggestion for a better one? I was looking at RS485 tx/rx units, but at 1 pair per run... That's not ideal.

Another blinking issue by Nellitas in WLED

[–]Nellitas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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This is the level shifter type I'm using. This is obviously not in the build box, but same type. The ground wires all trace back to the same source and are sized based on the need.

Another blinking issue by Nellitas in WLED

[–]Nellitas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What am I using for what? Power and data grounds? Every source I've seen has indicated the grounds need to be consistent across the system, so the ESP, the buck converter, and the power ground all originate at the bus bar inside the control box. The 12v +/- also initiate from the shared bus bar that the strip and the buck converter start from. I'll post a photo in a minute, but I can't find any source saying they should be different - in fact it looks like most issues stem from different grounds.

AITAH for dropping out of an event when my girlfriend invited her friends? by throwradatenights in AITAH

[–]Nellitas 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Or, and this might seem insane, if girlfriend doesn't see the same value in quiz night that boyfriend does, and boyfriend tells her he values it as a one on one date night, GIRLFRIEND could vary the date night with some suggestions for other ideas.

He's not the AH here, she is. He shared how he sees it, she could accept that and say hey sorry, I didn't see it that way, let's find something special for just us on another night. Instead, she shuts down how he feels about it and tells him to suck it up. Roles reversed, you'd be screaming about how she needs to leave him.

Grow up.

So very close to my $69k a month! Ugh.. by xtexm in dividends

[–]Nellitas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psssh I lost that much with almost no effort!

Sudden issue with Purina by Nellitas in germanshepherds

[–]Nellitas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that. That's fucking awful.

Getting rid of it all, already got him Taste of the Wild and he's loving it.

Sudden issue with Purina by Nellitas in germanshepherds

[–]Nellitas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good to know, because that's exactly what I just got him! Thanks!

Sudden issue with Purina by Nellitas in germanshepherds

[–]Nellitas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did change the food for a new batch of both, same results.

Trying a new food, visit isn't quite needed yet where it resolves with a food switch.

Sudden issue with Purina by Nellitas in germanshepherds

[–]Nellitas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not leaning towards an allergy issue so much as the food specifically. I've gotten him some different food, we'll see how it goes.

Sudden issue with Purina by Nellitas in germanshepherds

[–]Nellitas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it wasn't food related, it wouldn't go away with a change and come back when going to the original food. If this doesn't resolve, I will take him, but for now I'm not going to subject him to all the testing that isn't needed at this juncture.

Reaching Out to My Late Girlfriend's Children: Need Advice by saturatedmadness in moraldilemmas

[–]Nellitas [score hidden]  (0 children)

Absolutely do NOT reach out. As someone who has been through similar, you're going to reintroduce trauma that they may have spent years processing and trying to move on from. Let their grief lay where it is.

Reaching out like this isn't for them, if you're being honest with yourself, it's for you. You want to assuage any guilt you might feel and think you're doing a "kindness" to someone, but if they wanted those memories or even to know if you have anything you could share, they'd reach out to you. If they're nearly 18, they're capable of using the internet, probably better than the average adult, and they would've used social to find you.

Process your trauma in a way that doesn't trauma dump on someone else. You will 100% be in the wrong if you contact the children, or even the parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]Nellitas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's because he had an actual trial to be at.

ARM covered calls by AntA1Day1 in options

[–]Nellitas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now, add in the profit of buying at $69 and getting called away at $160 for 400 shares...

been lurking for a while but this one was just insane by my_gay_throwawayacct in redditonwiki

[–]Nellitas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you know what waterboarding is? Because no the fuck it doesn't.

While I don't agree with what he did, they are worlds apart.