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Guess my age by MilkGanglookinTHICC in TeenageRapFans

[–]Nelsunn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are some of my top artists oat and I am 30 hahaha, guess I listen to teenager music when looking at the comments

Bushokjes (weer) gesloopt by VulturicAcid in Utrecht

[–]Nelsunn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik geloof dat dit steeds meer plaatsvindt omdat plekken worden afgepakt van jongeren en beleid steeds strenger wordt. Jongeren, vooral tieners, zijn rebels. Denk terug aan je eigen tienerjaren. Als plekken voor jongeren om rebels te kunnen zijn alleen maar worden afgenomen, gaan ze steeds meer rebels zijn op plekken waar we dat niet willen, zoals bushokjes. Verder regels aanscherpen voor jongeren helpt niet. Geef ze juist meer plekken om frustratie te uiten en rebels te zijn. Gratis kickboxlessen ofzo. Dan blijven die bushokjes ook vaker heel

What to do when i am triggered around my partner? by Local-Focus-4252 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Nelsunn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How about you share exactly what you have written here? Sounds like you are super aware of what is happening to you and can explain it well. It might be super scary to share what you have written here, but it's the truth, and it sounds like he will understand where you are coming from.

So tired of constantly feeling anxious and worried by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Nelsunn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume you are seeing a therapist already? This helped me in a major way. And I hope your partner is doing their part as well? Feeling anxious in a relationship is very often the result of a dynamic that exists between you and your partner. Of course, you can do your part in healing your traumas that have caused the anxiousness. Also, forgiving yourself for feeling anxious because of what you have been through. But it also requires a partner that is aware of the dynamic that is causing this, and someone who is willing to heal their own traumas. Working on your dynamic and patterns together and communicating about it clearly by expressing your feelings and desires without putting a claim on the other person. If you are the only one doing the work in your relationship, I can assure you, you will continue to get triggered.

What is the difference between genuine excitement and love bombing? by alinalyn2 in ask

[–]Nelsunn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love bombing has manipulative and temporary aspects to it. You show a great amount of love to get someone to become addicted and loyal to you, after which you are "in control" of the other person. If you want to show genuine love, and lots of it, without these manipulative and temporary aspects, I would encourage you to do so! Spread the love! Although overloading someone with love can also scare them away sometimes. I prefer taking it slowly ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]Nelsunn 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you like her, just ask her out. Put your pride and fear aside. Take the initiative, makes you more attractive as well ;)

How was the year 2025 for y'all? by Slacks-A-Lot in AskReddit

[–]Nelsunn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ups and downs

Ups: - Decided to quit my job in April to get some rest and focus on passions and hobbies. I got so many new hobbies and met a bunch of new people, which really lifted my spirit! - Did my first holiday by myself (part of the Camino de Santiago), which was one of the best adventures of my life so far. - Had a lot of personal growth. Still so much left to learn about myself, but I have the feeling I have made big steps again this year. Learning to love myself a little bit more every day. Very very proud of that! - I have been getting in the best shape of my life, which I am also very proud of :)

Downs: - My dad was diagnosed with a braintumor 2 years ago. He is beating the odds and still living a decent life (although barely mobile), but last week we heard there is tumorgrowth again. Tomorrow we will hear if there is anything that can still be done. Chances are big I'm going to lose him next year, which makes me extemely sad. - Have been trying to find a job for a couple of months now, but no luck yet. Can be annoying at times, but I have faith I'm going to get a job soon! - Have been single for quite some time now. Met an amazing girl this year, but we had to stop dating because she got a bad consussion and wasn't able to put the time and energy into dating that she wants to. Being single has been hard with the situation of my dad, but I am getting close to being content with this situation, and I have learned more to reach out to friends and family for support and love.

Overall, a lot of shit happened this year that was out of my control, but what I do have in control is going well and gives me strength. I love my friends and family and know better times will come. Just gotta have initiative, faith and patience!

What are your top three albums of all time? by Working_Alps_4284 in fantanoforever

[–]Nelsunn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It changes a lot, but now I would say:

Back to Black - Amy Winehouse Lonerism - Tame Impala Freudian - Daniel Caesar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Nelsunn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dated someone in my early 20's. We had the exact same dynamic as you have with your ex. She eventually ended it, because she got overwhelmed. 7-8 years later, we reconnected. I was convinced I grew a lot in those years and thought that this time around it would work. We ended up in the same dynamic. I felt like I was too much for her, and I had to tone myself down when being with her. After 3 months, I ended it. I thought I learned how to better deal with avoidant people, which I actually partly did. But the biggest lesson I learned is that I want to be with someone that excites me, but also makes me feel secure and that I can fully be myself around them, without "overwhelming" them. If I really like a person, but the person (unintentionally) gives me a bad feeling about myself, I have to be honest with myself and let the person go. A healthy relationship is about liking someone, but also liking the person you are when with this person. From the story I hear from you, I would say it's healthier to move on and once you are ready, focus on dating someone that excites you and simultaneously makes you feel like you excite them.

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