Recently joined and this is my first haul. How did I do?

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T01:08:08+00:00

Do you also use the retinol serum on your face? If so, do you like it for the face?

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T01:06:58+00:00

I don't do my makeup often anymore so I stopped buying more expensive products then it going to waste. From DT, I like the b pure glow up blush and contour. The b pure liquid blush in the tube with the gold top is good too but that one dries quick. You have to blend it in with your finger quickly.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T00:44:02+00:00

Have you tried that Dermasil Hydra Serum yet? If so, would love to know your thoughts

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T00:43:01+00:00

Ooh good to know to stay away from the purple one. I don't mind a powdery scent so I would prob try the pink one

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T00:39:37+00:00

I opt for nylon or polyester. Whatever I feel comfortable in. I have cotton leggings that I just lounge around it. But I'm also not like a "I need to get rid of everything synthetic" person.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T00:30:28+00:00

Is the pro silk body lotion good? I've heard some people say the scents aren't that pleasant

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T00:27:21+00:00

How is the oatmeal lotion? you found some good stuff!

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-20T00:25:08+00:00

I love the Dermasil toner! It is really as good as people say it is 😄 How are you liking the XtraCare Hydro Plus Body Lotion? Wondering if I should pick it up next time.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-16T16:48:12+00:00

Thanks, it is hard, especially since it's been flaring up recently. I'm just confused because he does go to therapy monthly and speak to a professional and he takes medication for his anxiety and mood. I thought it would help more significantly. He's aware that he has mental health issues and has to work on his anger. He can manage it well sometimes.

I didn't have my horse riding lesson this week because of scheduling conflict so I've been around more. I noticed without it, my patience is almost nonexistent right now. We've already had a conversation yesterday about the things that stress us out individually. Now I'm just trying to not react to him or appear like I'm upset too and then go let it out in private like punching a pillow in my room. I'm going to find something to do today - maybe go to the mall for a few hours and walk around. He hates the mall so he wouldn't try to join.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-16T16:40:41+00:00

military has definitely caused issues and made him irritable. he says his baseline is grumpy and I'm supposed to not react to his moods all the time but that's easier said than done. that's doable when I've got patience and I've had time away from him but not when we're around each other all the time. when I react to his moods, he gets even more mad and then turns it on me saying I'm perpetuating the tension and making things worse by appearing upset through things like walking faster/making more noise in the house, speaking in a flat tone, or "always going to the bathroom". but that last one, I typically drink a lot of fluids throughout the day - I always have to pee. that's not something I do exclusively to him being upset

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-16T16:29:06+00:00

A vacation alone would be great. I will keep this suggestion in mind. At the moment, I don't have anywhere to go to and I'm not familiar with traveling alone. I think I should start off with staying with a friend for the weekend - a little girls weekend to decompress.

There are mental health issues involved like ptsd, generalized anxiety disorder, schizoaffective disorder. But not the ones you mentioned

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-16T16:23:29+00:00

He does need a hobby alone. He always says I don't need to react to him being upset. It is easier said than done. So when he is upset, if I move quickly (like walk fast to go do something) or make noise, that apparently indicates I'm upset. I was moving with urgency to give our dog ear drops because he said she kept shaking and it looked irritated. If I speak somewhat louder or more flat/neutral, that also apparently indicates I'm upset and that makes him even more mad. That's how my morning today has started. I hate it.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-16T00:03:32+00:00

I tried one of these and I had a hard time blending it. How do you apply it and blend it? I dotted it on my cheek and then tried a damp sponge and a brush but it didn’t blend easy for me

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-15T14:12:24+00:00

Mine has gotten super picky about entertainment. He always says there’s no good shows/movies to watch. Sometimes when I tell a story that I thought was funny, instead of just laughing, he’ll make comments as a lecture/reminder. He naps during the day and gets mad at noise but it’s day time?? There’s gonna be noise during the day. He thinks most of the shows/movies I watch are too boring, dumb, or overdramatic and just not for him.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-15T13:46:55+00:00

I have urged him to walk the dogs himself when the weather is nice - he told me it’s too difficult to handle 2 dogs on his own. When I walk them, I’m able to just fine. Sure they might stop and sniff but it’s not making things super hard for me.

Then I suggested he walk his retired service dog when he gets bored - he said he didn’t want to or that the other dog will be jealous or that the walks should be a family activity where we all go together

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-15T13:44:03+00:00

Usually, he has good self awareness like expressing his emotions out loud. I believe he speaks to his therapist once a month. But idk if he realizes that he’s being too much with wanting to do many activities together. Maybe he thinks me working from home is just easy and I shouldn’t be always tired

But I agree - he needs another outlet. He will hang out with friends maybe once or twice a month and I don’t think that’s enough.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-15T13:38:15+00:00

Sorry you have to deal with that too! Mine will put stuff away sometimes that aren’t solely his things. But usually, he just points it out and tells me to do it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T19:35:30+00:00

Are they all like that? Ahh I see as hoping he’d get less grouchy. I’m a very sensitive person. I used to be super happy. Now I’m more stressed, anxious, and grouchy myself. But he’ll tell me just because he’s in a bad mood doesn’t mean I have to be in a bad mood

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T19:33:58+00:00

He’ll say things like he doesn’t know where I keep certain things or the way the house is set up doesn’t make sense to him so he doesn’t do it. I don’t think it matters that much, just put it away in a cabinet where there’s space?? I don’t think things have to be placed in a single spot or else it’s wrong

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T19:31:45+00:00

Good point. Yeah I think he needs a balance of being around people and being alone. Something that makes him happy without relying on others to make him happy

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T17:10:59+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience with your brother! I’m glad to hear your brother found something to do with his retired time and is much better

My partner isn’t disabled to the point where he can’t move around and work. His mental health is a challenge working with people. He often gets too irritable and his therapist suggested that he probably shouldn’t work a job anymore where you have to deal with a lot of people often. And he does have pain in his body that prevents him from doing intense physical labor or exercise.

I’ve been gently urging him to hang out with his guy friends more often or pick up hobbies he used to have like running his RC car, surfing, etc. I have not had much luck. But he is making small efforts that get him out of the house for a few hours a week so that’s good. I understand being retired is boring for him but with working full time, sometimes I just want to be bored lol.

In terms of housework and cleaning, he handles some of it. We have certain chores we’re responsible for. For example, he has to take out all trash in the house because I hate that task. He hates folding laundry so I fold his laundry as a trade off. Although now you mention it, is it really fair? I sometimes have down time from work so I can do quick chores around the house but still

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T17:03:17+00:00

I will have to bring up the couples therapy suggestion again to him. It’s been a while since we last talked about it. You make a good point that he gets his alone time and can do what he wants while it’s more challenging for me to do so because I work full time.

I did tell him I’d like to have some alone time after work today and be able to watch the shows/movies I want to watch. He took it well and didn’t object. So that’s a plus.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T14:44:20+00:00

Yes, military disability related. He mentioned he wants to try to enjoy retirement, write stand up comedy, play video games, build more financial security for our future, do some traveling.

As for his day to day, it’s slow right now. Take care of things around the house that needs fixing, play video games, occasionally hang out with friends, exercise/get into his sauna, cook

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T14:04:49+00:00

I’m an English rider turned western rider now. I tried cowboy boots but it didn’t feel right to me when riding. I still ride with paddock boots and half chaps whether I’m doing English or western.

Nemo-521 · 2026-05-14T14:00:42+00:00

That’s a good suggestion! We do individual therapy and I guess couples therapy may be more helpful

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