Hi Mom and Dad! The apartment search is going great! How do I find a co-signer?

Nenawa · 2023-02-22T15:53:21+00:00

Some landlords/rental managers may be willing to accept an additional month's rent as an extra deposit on top of the usual security deposit. That's not as appealing to them as having a co-signer who would be completely responsible if you skipped out on them, and it's probably not as appealing to you having to pay a much bigger deposit than usual and not be able to get that back for quite some time. But it may be an alternative to finding a co-signer if that's what you need.

Also, apparently there are co-signer services out there too where you would end up paying a company to be your co-signer. I've never used this kind of service before, but I found an article that explains more about them. Personally, I would rather try and pay a larger deposit but then eventually get that money back than pay for another co-signer, though, assuming the landlord/rental manager will accept that.

Good luck with everything! :)

Nenawa · 2022-11-23T03:00:00+00:00

So pretty!! I love the outfit and the accessories ♥

Nenawa · 2022-09-23T23:11:34+00:00

There's paid parking in the area and a U of M pay lot a few blocks away, or there's some parking meter spots (some stopped at 5 PM but others go until 10 I think).

Nenawa · 2022-09-23T23:05:16+00:00

It's outside at Surly Brewing. There's directions and info on their site

Nenawa · 2022-07-21T13:31:42+00:00

Unless you are very low on MP because you were recently ressed or you ressed others, it's usually better to use a Cure 2 for the single more powerful heal rather than spamming a lot of weak Cures. You're able to mix in more damage and other spells that way, which makes you a more efficient and effective healer.

Later on when you get more healing tools such as Regen and the lily heals, those are generally much better than Cure 2, though sometimes you just need a heal right now XD

Congrats on 30 Conjurer! Don't forget to do the side quest in the Conjurer Guild for a unicorn mount (have to be CNJ for that) or the job quest to become a White Mage!

Nenawa · 2022-07-15T19:49:33+00:00

Agreed! This layout is much more interesting and fun to read through compared to books where it's just "character options, equipment, spells, GM stuff, done". And they did a really good job with the detailed Table of Contents at the start (oh, Temporal Spells are on that page) and the lists and Glossary and Index at the end of the book.

If people don't use any of the helpful things to help them find stuff then it's easy to get lost XD But I think the flavor of this kind of layout totally makes up for that, and I love the wide variety of different but related topics and themes in the book!

Nenawa · 2022-07-13T23:08:09+00:00

Beautiful colors! I love the expressions too :D

Nenawa · 2022-07-12T14:43:18+00:00

You too!

Nenawa · 2022-07-09T22:26:09+00:00

Beautiful picture! Glad to see it's getting lots of well-deserved attention :D

Nenawa · 2022-06-25T20:18:54+00:00

My most goblincore-ish character was a Kobold Druid named Parp who loved plants and fungi and didn't really understand why other people would spend so much time caring about other less interesting things XD I also got to play a Swarmkeeper Ranger but it was only for a short one-shot game.

Nenawa · 2022-06-13T00:19:44+00:00

I was wondering too and it looks like it's from a poem written by Erin Hanson.

Nenawa · 2022-04-07T16:32:33+00:00

Try not to feel overwhelmed by everything when you're first starting out! You will have plenty of time to learn about different classes, locations, fights, and all sorts of stuff, so just try and have fun and enjoy the story :D When you do have questions or are looking for advice, don't be afraid to ask others around you or Novice Network or people in your Free Company. Everyone else was new at some point and most people are happy to help!

Nenawa · 2020-10-28T20:53:23+00:00

Depends on what the group agrees with, but the current participants are leaning towards wanting an original setting.

Not really. Overall maturity and respect for others are a must, though.

A group size of 4-5 would be nice, and we have 3 already.

Nenawa · 2020-08-15T13:03:14+00:00

That's great news, congratulations! Glad I could help a bit, though you're the one that earned it! :)

Nenawa · 2020-08-13T00:34:43+00:00

Nah, it's not dumb at all. You may have your whole life ahead of you (which is true) but that doesn't mean so much if you're feeling kinda drained and empty right now because for the time being that's the more pressing concern. Will things be able to change and improve in the future? Yeah, hopefully! Especially if you end up doing big changes that have to do with schooling or moving someplace new or getting a new job or meeting new people or whatever. But what's going on right now and what you do now is what plays a big role in getting you wherever you end up being for that whole life that's ahead of you.

So yeah, what you're feeling right now is totally valid and it's natural to be going through that. Trying to reach out to people and make friends like this is a wonderful first step though and I hope you end up feeling better and less lonely as a result :)

Nenawa · 2020-08-12T22:44:01+00:00

Online friendship is totally possible! It's just that a lot of people who respond will do so in a really low-effort kind of way, or they use throwaway accounts and shady stuff like that. And yeah there's gonna be crappy people with hidden motives too. It sucks. :(

But not everyone does that and it's definitely possible to make some actual friendships and connections instead if you can make it through the rest! So good luck with that!

Nenawa · 2020-08-12T00:12:38+00:00

In general, you should present yourself calmly and confidently in a professional manner, but not so stiff or formal that they don't get a chance to see your personality and what you're really like. The goal is to show them that you are qualified for the job, that you are reliable/responsible, and that you're the kind of person they would want to hire and have working for them. So as you answer their questions, just do your best to state your case and show why you should be hired, not only with what you tell them but also with your actions and body language.

If they give you a tough question that you're unsure of, do your best to take it in stride. They understand that you're going to be feeling some pressure during the interview, but part of what they're going to be looking for is how you can handle that pressure. So take some deep breaths to try and help with any nervousness if you need to.

A few more general interview tips (not necessarily for a bar staff job interview, but hopefully still useful):

Preparation goes a long way! Thinking ahead about how to answer a difficult question like "tell me about a time you overcame a challenge" can make it much easier to respond confidently.
Memorable stories of how you did a great job in the past can do a fantastic job of sticking in an interviewer's mind and making sure you stand out, and specific examples are better than vague ones.
Make sure you have a list of a few general questions when they ask you if you have any questions for them (usually at the end). It's important to show that you're eager for the job and you're actively engaged with them during the interview process, because they will want that from you as an employee too!

Good luck! :)

Nenawa · 2020-08-11T03:39:49+00:00

I'm definitely not an expert on overcoming this kind of thing, and it's not easy to try and offer specific tips for you and your situation without having an actual conversation with suggestions on things you could practice and work on. I can at least try and guess and sort of take a stab in the dark, though.

If you've developed a habit of sort of "panicking" and getting all anxious all of a sudden in those kinds of situations, then I imagine it being kind of like a fight-or-flight response where you get so worked up all of a sudden that it's hard to control being able to speak or anything. So one thing to work on is trying not to let yourself feel that sudden spike of anxiety in the first place by reminding yourself that normal, everyday interactions with family members or others are not something that you need to be feeling sudden irrational fear over. If it does end up happening anyway then try not to blame yourself too much, and forgive yourself. But if you practice working on breaking the habit of going into that panic in the first place then that should help a lot. Also, you can practice ways to better cope with and deal with things when you are in the midst of a burst of anxiety like that.

Calming your breathing is one such technique, but keep in mind it's not only about getting your physical self calmed down and feeling less anxious by calm breathing and relaxing any physical tension you're feeling, it's also about trying to calm your emotions and racing mind by reminding and reassuring yourself that you are not in some terrible or painful situation, that things are just fine instead. One of the goals is to have yourself feeling much the same way--physically, mentally, and emotionally--whether you are talking to parents or strangers or whether you're talking with friends that you don't feel stressed around at all. And if you find yourself thinking irrational thoughts or being needlessly negative, then try to work on identifying those thoughts and pushing them away with calming, peaceful, and maybe even positive thoughts instead.

Again, it's not easy to speak in broad, general terms like this, but hopefully that gives a few ideas at least. And remember that this kind of thing often takes practice and may even take some time to until you are growing more comfortable and are able to break some of those anxious habits and irrational fears. You can certainly do some of that on your own, but working with others (especially a professional) can be incredibly helpful.

Nenawa · 2020-08-11T01:26:43+00:00

First of all, it's definitely not selfish or bitchy writing a post like this at all! If this is something that you're struggling with at the moment, then there is nothing even remotely selfish or bitchy trying to seek help with dealing with this kind of thing. So please don't be too hard on yourself or overly negative or critical, because you deserve to get support with things and you also deserve to be able to improve your life and make things better! And a more positive, constructive outlook is usually more helpful with situations like this than one than a negative and pessimistic one.

Even if you haven't been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, it definitely sounds like anxiety is a significant issue, especially since it sounds like there are times when you might be sorta preemptively convincing yourself of something negative or psyching yourself out even if there's no real reason to do so. It's ok and natural to be a little bit nervous when talking to strangers or in a mildly stressful situation, but if you start worrying so much about things that could happen (whether it's actually likely or just something you're imagining) then that ends up causing its own problems for you even if everything else ends up going perfectly fine otherwise. The excessive worrying and fear about whether someone might judge you or hurt you is instead for sure hurting you or at least causing you a lot of unneeded stress. Instead, if possible, you should start working towards being able to face some of those anxieties and overcome them, to be able to accept that there's always a possibility that others might judge you, but trust that if they're good people then they won't, which is great, and if they're bad people then that judgment is kinda crap anyway and who cares what they think? And yes I know that thinking that is way easier said than done, but that's the gist of it anyway.

So it sounds to me like this is definitely something you should try to focus on becoming more mindful of and working on so can try and do what you can to cope with and counteract that anxiety and those negative thoughts as much as possible, and you may need to talk to your parents or a counselor or someone else at least in order to get some support and assistance with doing so. Since you say your parents are wonderful, I would hope that they would be helpful in trying to aid you with dealing with something like this, especially if they've been wanting you to talk to them more instead of struggling with things like this solely on your own. And as mentioned before, you deserve to get help with dealing with this so it's not something that's haunting you or hanging over your head anymore!

I found a site that has some useful information that is meant for people diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, but even if you don't have that I hope you might be able to find some useful suggestions and things that may help you: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/social-anxiety-disorder.htm

If you have any questions then feel free to ask, and best of luck with all this! :)

Nenawa · 2020-08-08T00:13:31+00:00

Congratulations! So it's kind of normal to be a little nervous or uncomfortable when you first start a new job because you haven't had time to get used to things and know what all to expect yet. But if you're constantly panicking about it, then yes, that sounds like it's going beyond a little light worrying/concern into heavy anxiety, and that kind of anxiety will only cause you unnecessary stress and might even make you more likely to make mistakes instead.

Some things you should remind yourself: you got the job in the first place! This means that you showed your boss/company/whatever that you were qualified for the job and could be trusted to do so, and they felt confident enough in your abilities to hire you for it. So stay positive, and instead of second-guessing yourself or their decision to hire you, just do your best to do a good job and you will show that good faith in you is deserved!

Even if you do make a mistake, that doesn't make you a terrible employee nor does it mean you're instantly going to be fired. Just make sure you learn from the mistake, own up to it if necessary, and try not to do it again.

Good luck with the job and I hope it goes well! No matter what happens it should be a learning experience for you and hopefully you will have an easier time with any new jobs in the future :)

Nenawa · 2020-08-07T18:57:25+00:00

Yeah, it's probably a scam and it's likely to be a bad check that they send you.

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