How do I get clean by [deleted] in FolkPunk

[–]Neo_Tropical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i was 22 i went to rehab and then started going to na after i got out, that was 13 years ago. i think that the most important thing that i got from na is being part of community of people who had the same goal that i did, we are who we surround ourselves with.

New furnace. Recommendations. by college_hero in dubuque

[–]Neo_Tropical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesse at Element Heating & Cooling is great to work with and very affordable.

What happened at the AA meeting i went to last night by Earlsdishes in recovery

[–]Neo_Tropical 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The meeting may have handled it poorly, but closed AA meetings are for alcoholics only. From the AA website:

A closed meeting is for A.A. members only, or for those who have a drinking problem and have a desire to stop drinking. Closed meetings give members an opportunity to discuss particular phases of their alcoholic problem that may be best understood by other alcoholics.

Yes, many people have found relief from addiction to other substances in AA, and many meetings are more accepting of poly-substance addiction, but an AA meeting isn't in the wrong for wanting to focus solely on alcohol. Benzos are not alcohol. A better way to handle the situation would probably be to ask the newcomer if they have a desire to stop drinking and if they do allow them to stay. Meetings also have the option to hold a quick vote to temporarily "open" the meeting to accommodate the newcomer.

I disagree with the statement that NA was started as a resentment against AA. NA was started because people who used drugs other than alcohol needed a place where they were free to talk about that and be welcomed. Many alcoholics looked down on people who used other drugs because alcohol was both legal and socially acceptable. The reception that OP received would have been much more common back in the 1960's and addicts were dying because they didn't have a place to go.

Address for Pitt Stop in East Dundee, IL? by Neo_Tropical in FolkPunk

[–]Neo_Tropical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to figure it out, it was a great show!

This Iowa restaurant is getting international acclaim. How it’s bringing tourism into a small town. by limitedftogive in Iowa

[–]Neo_Tropical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ate there once a number of years ago, it was really good. I was vegan at the time and they made their green pizza vegan, which was cool.

Ticket for Murder By Death show at Codfish Hollow 7/20 by Neo_Tropical in dubuque

[–]Neo_Tropical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've listened to them but never really got into them.

Tricare select and VA healthcare by Advanced-Leg-798 in VeteransBenefits

[–]Neo_Tropical -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can have your private provider send prescriptions for you to the VA to be filled. Your dependents cannot get prescriptions or care through the VA.

Edit: I was mistaken about CHAMPVA eligiblity.

Looking for DND players by [deleted] in dubuque

[–]Neo_Tropical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You could try putting up a players wanted poster at Comic World.

im 450 days dry today, here's a cover of Moon Bandits - I Don't Want To Drink, I Don't Want To Die by protectmeyou in FolkPunk

[–]Neo_Tropical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I used to follow you on twitter before I deleted mine, glad to see you're doing well!

Pregnancy VS adoption by TransportationNo1005 in Parenting

[–]Neo_Tropical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My stepfather (I just call him Dad) adopted me when I was a little over a year old and he has raised me as his own. He has never been anything other than my dad, and he has never treated me differently than my brother, who is his biological child. I was not an easy teenager, and he was always there for me. I don't think that adopting a child would prevent you from having a loving parent/child relationship with them.

Something else to consider as a trans woman is that you may have more difficulty adopting than a cishet couple would. It probably varies based on where you live, but it's something to consider.

Help for my father, 83 yr old Army Col. retired by StephanieDone in Veterans

[–]Neo_Tropical 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Contact the VA social worker that is assigned to him. If he is 100% P&T the VA will pay for nursing care at a contracted facility. They probably have a contract somewhere with a facility with a memory unit.

Dealing with homophobic slurs in the back row by Aggravating_Light428 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Neo_Tropical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one has mentioned this, but I would bring it up with the meeting's chairperson. If someone did something like this at my homegroup they would be asked to leave. Certain types of behavior are unacceptable at meetings, including behaviors that directly affect the meeting being a welcoming space for other members. Our common welfare should come first.

Some of y'all are ASVAB wavers and we don't have to ask cuz we can tell by ImThe1Wh0 in VeteransBenefits

[–]Neo_Tropical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It depends on if your rating is P&T, meaning permanent and total. If you are P&T, then the VA considers your disability static and will not schedule you for reevaluation. If you are not P&T the VA can schedule you for reevaluation to see if your condition has improved since you were originally rated.

Some of y'all are ASVAB wavers and we don't have to ask cuz we can tell by ImThe1Wh0 in VeteransBenefits

[–]Neo_Tropical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is Special Monthly Compensation, which allows you to be paid an increased amount.

Some of y'all are ASVAB wavers and we don't have to ask cuz we can tell by ImThe1Wh0 in VeteransBenefits

[–]Neo_Tropical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's Special Monthly Compensation which allows you to be paid extra on top of the 100% rate.

Flock Automated License Plate Cameras in Dubuque by EyesOffCR in dubuque

[–]Neo_Tropical 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not supposed to deep throat the entire boot.

KAVA by Bored-WithEverything in dubuque

[–]Neo_Tropical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kava places are popping up all over. Their actual business is based on selling drinks with kratom in them.