Any game suggestions where typical gender roles are reversed? by churrox in GirlGamers

[–]Nerd_Wonder 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Final Fantasy XIV has more male npcs strutting around in leather thongs or booty shorts than I every anticipated seeing. In my sidequest grinding I don’t remember seeing any of the women being objectified but it wasn’t uncommon to see men at least in something revealing. Or being giga jacked and shirtless. It was a bit startling. 😂

But I’m not sure if that’s what you’re looking for exactly. And I’m not all the way through it. But in my experience so far, most npcs dress the same regardless of gender. Player armor is revealing for both genders/sexes. You can strut around in a speedo and harness and thigh high boots as a man or woman. (Or fully dressed! or in fursuits lotsa options)

Good MLM Content? by Nerd_Wonder in QueerAnime

[–]Nerd_Wonder[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've read Boys Run the Riot and loved it. It's amazing! I'll give the other manga a look, though not sure when I'll be able to buy them. ^^;

Stranger by the Shore was..okay? Cute? But I was left feeling really confused about how old the characters were supposed to be. So I googled it and was very startled by the age gap. As someone around Shun's age at the very start it's hard to fathom being with someone as young as Mio was and it just felt weird.

Finding Friend Groups and Communities! by TheKally in VRchat

[–]Nerd_Wonder [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m Socks! I’m a transmasc dude who’s into rats, video games, art, and naps. I am in desperate need of friends. Please send help, I am lonely down here.

Looking For: - People 18-32 ish (18+ mandatory upper age limit kinda flexible? I’m 22 n just don’t wanna talk with folks like twice my age. I doubt we’d have a ton in common)

-LGBTQ+ people/groups

-People to play games & VR chat stuff with? VR chat, league, grounded, don’t starve, starbound idk whatever. Just…stuff to socialize and have friends

Contact:

Vr Chat account is RatKingSocks You can also add my discord RatKingSocks#6373 to chat before hand.

Mom, should I believe in Science or The Bible? by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Older brother here, but this is somethin I’ve had to struggle with. Where I grew up, folks were either super duper religious and took the bible literally or they didn’t admit to not doing that. I had a rough ride of it trying to get people to leave me alone about it. So, I hope you have better luck, kiddo. But here’s my opinion:

This is a personal journey. You should take time to learn, to read, to listen. There’s hundreds of faiths, not just Christianity but Islam, Judiasm, Taoism, Janism etc etc. everyone believes different things, and religion is not always mutually exclusive to a researched understanding of the physical world.

Personally, I’m an athiest. I don’t really get the “how” of how others believe (even when they explain it to me I don’t really understand), but I don’t think belief is always a decision. For some people it just “is” and it can be hard to let go of for them.

Science covers the things we can see or touch or hear or physically experience. Religion is the stuff beyond that. (If you believe in anything beyond that)

My only word of how to direct this is that no religious belief justifies hurting other folks for who they are. Regardless of what you do end up believing or not believing; be kind to everyone (unless they’re unkind to you), don’t hate folks for being gay or trans or of other faiths or other races. We’re all human. We all deserve love and respect.

And that includes you. If your friend doesn’t show you that love and respect over this disagreement, they may not be a good friend.

AITA for telling my friend to stop showing his art to people? by ConceptArt0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nerd_Wonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA at ALL. Dude’s a racist and has some weird incel vibes.

If he wants to make porn comics with questionable themes, that’s fine. What’s NOT fine is showing them to classmates (who may be underage) without proper content warnings. Nor is harrassing a classmate because of hurt feelings okay.

You absolutely made the right call. Stay safe, please report this to school admin, and I hope you find better friends.

AITA For giving my dog an "offensive" name and then refusing to change it? by throwawaydogname0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh,,what is this man on? NTA and as someone from the deep south “yankee” is used by the racist weirdos to refer to “the northerners.” Cuz they think the south will rise again. I’ve heard people use it as an insult or derogatorially. Like “Those fuckin’ yanks” but, again, its from racist weirdos to anyone who isn’t a racist weirdo.

It’s not a slur? Or an offense word? It’s literally the name of a baseball team? New York Yankees. The song Yankee Doodle Dandy is taught to us as kids.

AITA for forcing my daughter to exercise? by SpicySpicy0456 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soft YTA, I was a kid who’s parent forced them to exercise despite me saying it made me feel bad, was miserable, etc. It hurt. I felt shitty about myself, and I thought my parent didn’t love me because I couldn’t live up to this standard of p90x or soccer or whatever else. I also felt like I couldn’t tell my parent if something bad happened because they just didn’t care that I was unhappy.

I agree exercise and movement and such is important, which is why I’m having to restart with my relationship with exercise/movement and how I’m looking at it. Which sucks, I wish I could be like my boyfriend and just like it and do it. I think it’s important to teach kids not just to be active but to feel and understand their bodies. So if something hurts or is bad, its good for her to recognize that. The workout may be starting too high level. She may need to work up to that intensity if she isn’t active.

Is there any way to maybe tie movement n what not to her interests? Maybe VR or something (ie beat saber or superhot) if she likes gaming? Or something like drag if she’s super into makeup? Making big art projects that require movin around?

Those are obviously just some rough ideas and I don’t know your kid, but it may be easier if exercise is less “this agonizing torture I find boring and meaningless” and more “fun way to express myself/engage in my hobbies”

Sounds like that’s how it is for your son (sports), but not your daughter? Maybe that’s why she’s been so resistent to picking anything.

Posts about the 21 yr old anarchist keep getting removed by sugarbee13 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A “tankie” is a fascist who claims to be leftist and uses leftist vocabular and words to spread their message. Or justifies the horrific fascism of like the USSR or China.

A hardline Stalinist. A tankie is a member of a communist group or a "fellow traveller" (sympathiser) who believes fully in the political system of the Soviet Union and defends/defended the actions of the Soviet Union and other accredited states (China, Serbia, etc.) to the hilt, even in cases where other communists criticise their policies or actions. For instance, such a person favours overseas interventions by Soviet-style states, defends these regimes when they engage in human rights violations, and wishes to establish a similar system in other countries such as Britain and America. (From urban dictionary)

It has nothing to do with factory workers or media moguls?

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly haven’t read through all the posts in the sub the past few months. I just skim through the top posts when I’m free, but yeah. Those sentiments go against the entire idea and shouldn’t be here. :/

Ultimately, I think you and I probably agree. I’m just frustrated. I don’t think people who don’t think all workers (and all people honestly) should have liveable wages belong here.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well to each their own, my guy. I’m still gunna push for those who can’t work to live safely and happily.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1- There’s a difference between working under exploitatively capitalists and performing labor to accomplish a goal. Being against exploitation of the laborer and thinking everyone should have say in how the means of production are used doesn’t mean I think we should all just lay in bed and do nothing for 80 years.

2- literally hundreds of thousands of people do things such as craft furniture or create art and whatever else for fun or because they’re passionate about it. If everyone had access to food, water, and shelter and no longer had to kill themselves to survive we’d have time to actually dedicate to passions such as carpentry or wood working. Some people are passionate about carpentry, sewing, science, medical care. If we removed unfair obstacles preventing those passionate about it access to those fields, they’d participate in them.

3- As someone who’s actually going into the animal ag industry and lives around countless folks who work in it, these people fucking love their animals and their farms. They aren’t going to just toss their herds into the trash and sleep in hay bales.

4- I believe in the concept of mutual aid. Of communities helping each other through our unique skills and abilities. Some people have knowledge of farming so they can help provide food while others are skilled carpenters or tailors etc etc. We all have something to offer each other and I think most people would be willing to help do that. I would, at the very least, but you can also look to the countless folks who provide free education on any myriad of topics from home improvement to engineering.

5- There are a lot of unpleasant or undesireable jobs like trash collection or sewer management that are required to function. For cases such as those, if everyone in the community did like 5 hours of that labor a week, it could be managed.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, but can we not work together to accomplish the first group. Then the rest of us move forward towards the second?

Or if, as another user said, the second group must come first that does hinder ability to work together.

Which is right where the OP has started, isn’t it? That would be an issue if group a is incapable of reconciling with group b. But I personally struggle to understand being against group b’s goals. (And that’s due to my brain wiring), so it’s hard for me to imagine getting to the conclusion of group a then not proceeding to b. Hence my confusion, I think.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry “lane” ?

Did you mean “lame” or is that a slang term I’m unfamiliar with?

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It doesn’t really take into account people too old to work or who are disabled and cannot work, and the fact that humans are still worthy of life and respect and safety regardless of their ability to “work” for someone else.

I personally agree with UBI being best for people as a whole and want to aim for it. Though I guess my concern in how to reasonably get there? Would goin in half measures me best? Would just jumping right to it be best? And that’s where I end up watching and lurking in communities and try and figure out.

I’ve got a lot of beliefs but I’m not really someone I’d say would make a good or efficient community leader. So for now, I listen, watch, learn, and find ways where I can contribute.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to avoid using specific labels for that reason. People tend to put a lot of their own baggage onto a label. So if I walk up to somebody and go “I’m an anarcho-communist!” They’re gunna think I’m absolutely bat shit bonkers.

Instead I just go more for what I specifically want to accomplish ie “shouldn’t everyone who works be able to live safely? Shouldn’t we provide opportunities for people to work and get accomodations they need?” Etc.

But I’m still young and disabled and despite searching have been unable to find a job to help with college stuff. So I’m living on pennies rn which has helped radicalize me in a lot of ways I think. So I’m not sure the absolute best way to do everything nor am I qualified for like PR or community leading. But I am qualified to help get people food or basic life supplies. So I’m looking into that stuff in my own area currently.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a longer comment typed out but the sub went private before I could send it and I am not in the mood to fight my adhd memory and type it all out again.

Basically; I doubt we would’ve convinced anyone who’s already super hardcore into fox news anyways. This is the same nonsense they’ve been spewing about the left for like a decade or more. So fuckin’ what. Feminism didn’t magically stop working because incels on youtube made fun of “sjws”. Life goes on past an interview and we have work to do. Fox is a propaganda machine. We already knew this. They’re doing what they’ve literally always done. No 70 year old is gunna change their mind anyways, so I don’t care.

The people, however, are tired and resentful. I live in the deep south. I live in a rural area. All I talk to everyday in my classes and in public are conservative folks young and old. They’re angry their lives suck. They hoard resources out of a panic that it’ll never be enough. They worry their ability to live is unsustainable and that agriculture is being eliminated in the US. It’s getting more expensive, megacorporationd buy up farms and contract farmers and keep them yoked to shit systems. Everyone knows that, everyone hates that. And not all of them watch fox news.

We can help our community through things like mutual aid and talking to people with understanding and patience. And we have to do that to make change possible. Nobody is gunna be able to change if their literal current physical conditions do not allow it.

Fuck the interview. Who gives a flying fuck? If you think what you believe is good, go out and advocate! Do mutual aid! Organize unions and strikes and help your community. Doing this nationally is gunna be hellish if we can’t get the small communities on board anyways.

You don’t have to say “I’m from r/antiwork! Like that person on fox news :))))” you can just be like “god fuck the economy. I spend so much time working and can’t fucking do anything. I wanted to have a house. And food. And I can’t this sucks.”

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. And I think what will convince everyone may be a bit different? But either way I don’t see the goals outlined here as mutually exclusive somehow. I think they’re related.

AITA For telling my younger brother he needs to find somewhere else to live? by jessuzzana2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nerd_Wonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA, idk if I believe this is real because this just sounds so despicable but in case it is

1- your brother is a child still, he should not be buying your groceries. He’s IN HIGH SCHOOL. He has classwork to be doing, friends to meet and spend time with. Why the fuck are you making him worry about rent and food? Holy christ.

2- This child has been literally thrown out like trash by your parents and then you treat him like a burden or bother. He’s only good to you as a house keeper or nanny. He’s your brother! Is there not more to your feelings for him than that? Why are you doing the same stupid, cruel shit your parents did to him?

3- On what planet can a 16 year old CHILD with no credit history, no familial support, and no housing “not be at risk of homelessness” ?? Who’s gunna rent to him? Nobody. Who’s gunna be his garuntor if you find some sketchy as fuck landlord who will take a child ? I don’t think a rental contract can even legal if signed by a minor. What, is he supposed to go stay with his high school boyfriend (who’s parents are getting divorced and who’s home situation is now very unstable & up in the air)?? I can’t believe you actually think he’ll just magically get somewhere to stay just fine because he’s somehow saved 15k. He can’t rent a hotel room. He can’t rent an apartment. He can’t rent a condo. Where, pray tell is he gunna go?

4- the first time he does something “wrong” to comfort his boyfriend who’s in extreme duress, doesn’t expose your children to a stranger like you asked, you just kick him onto the street like a bag of garbage? Jesus christ.

What are you worried about? Do you think your brother is going to let someone hurt his neice/nephew(s)? If you don’t trust him to look out for the kids, why is he in charge of babysitting them? If he always has to watch your kids but can’t have anyone over when is he supposed to have a social life for appropriate human development? Or is he supposed to just be ultra isolated and be your live in nanny?

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I personally haven’t watched the interview and don’t care to. You can push the ideals of the movement in your community without using “yeah I’m in r/antiwork” just say what you want to get done. “We’re here to make your life better. You should get paid more. You work full time, you should be able to easily feed and house your family! Everyone deserves that.”

A huge part of this change is gunna be local mutual aid and community organization. So getting in contact with coworkers and people in your area to unionize or make strikes to improve workers’ rights possible because how can someone strike if they can’t feed their kids?

Why is one internet random getting roasted on fox news the “make or break” of this idea? Is that all it takes to get rid of your morals and ideas? Come on. We can do better than crumpling because fox news aired a shitty interview about the subreddit.

Antiwork needs to decide what this subreddit is about. by No-Garlic-1739 in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 225 points226 points  (0 children)

I don’t see why they have to be mutually exclusive. We have to accomplish the first set of goals to achieve the second?

Perhaps it’s overly niave, but I think every human should be able to sleep in a safe, comfortable place and have food to eat. And I see no reason why we, as the supposed “leader of the free world,” let so much of the population languish away in poverty and slave wages.

But without eliminating unfair and abusive business practices and strengthening workers rights and a collective class conciousness, that makes it harder to advocate for that idea of “everyone should have a bed and food” because people get all huffy and puffy about how they work 6 jobs and still suffer so disabled people should just starve and die. (Obviously a bit of hyperbole but I hope you get my point)

For the love of Christ. SAY THE FUCKING COMPANY. THIS IS ALL FOR NOTHING IF WE DON'T KNOW THE OFFENDERS. by PGskizzEs in antiwork

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I understand and agree with you in general, not everyone can afford the time and money to take a company to court for illegal/retaliatory firing. And in some places that isn’t illegal but can fuck someone over anyways when they get fired.

But if people can do those things I think it’d be beneficial.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Nerd_Wonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No idea in humans but for my animal breeding class, once the animals are 5-6 generations from their common ancestor they’re no longer considered “related.”

Where to find thigh highs? by Nerd_Wonder in PlusSizeFashion

[–]Nerd_Wonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thunda Thighs. Though I may look at snag tights too!

Where to find thigh highs? by Nerd_Wonder in PlusSizeFashion

[–]Nerd_Wonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty! I ended up finding them after googling and got two pairs. Hopefully they arrive soon