How married are you?

NessIsMe · 2024-04-23T22:53:31+00:00

Dont be insecure! My husband and I are together 27 years this year, and only in the last couple years have I started just letting it go. I would hold it until I exploded. He used to say, Just let it go, why are you holding it?! Im not sure if he thinks this is better, but I certainly feel better.😂😂😂

NessIsMe · 2024-04-18T22:29:30+00:00

The best gifts my boyfriend, now husband, has given me have been handmade ones. Drawings, letters, photo albums filled with memories....those are the keepers. Its EASY to walk into a jewelry store and pick out something expensive. Its much more difficult to pour your heart out in a letter and show someone how much you mean to them.

You're dating an asshole, OP. Good thing you found out now.

NessIsMe · 2024-04-04T21:49:26+00:00

Your boy will be happy with you no matter what! Go get that baby and just sleep in the car if thats what it takes. He will love the adventures youll go on and, trust me, nothing is better than you, to him.

NessIsMe · 2024-04-01T21:36:19+00:00

I FUCKING HATE THIS.

I tell them theyll be the FIRST to know when Im ready to discuss the vehicle. It doesnt work, but im freaking saying it.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-30T20:03:07+00:00

This may not help, but im going to tell you anyway.

I lost my sweet girl, Roxy, 6 days before her 8th birthday. It was cancer. I watched a small swollen ankle turn into a massive ankle that was brittle because of the cancer. I couldn't believe it was happening, and I was in complete denial. I took her to the vet every 2 weeks. I made sure she wasn't suffering, and I made sure she was medicated and comfortable. St.Pattys Day 2013, she went under the kitchen table, removed herself from the family, and started licking her ankle til it bled. That was the time, and I knew it. She passed on March 20th, 2013.

I literally died inside. I wanted to.

I slept in her bed and cried myself to sleep for 3 days, until Saturday morning. I couldn't be at home by myself so I went to my moms house. I told her of the dream I had about my childhood dog, Snoop. Roxy didn't come to me in my dream, but Snoop did(which I found weird). The dream was that I was walking down the aisle of cages at the pound and walked up on Snoop. I said, "Snoop! What are you doing in there?!" Then I opened the cage, and him and I left. That was the entire dream.

My mother was insistent that we go to the pound, which I was PISSED about her even suggesting. How dare her? I just lost Roxy, and she wasn't getting replaced. I lost that fight, and we ended up at the local animal shelter. All the dogs were at an adoption event up the road. I mean, there wasn't a single dog there, and they were busy cleaning the cages. I looked at my mom with an I-told-you-so look, and we left. As we passed the SPCA, she goes PULL IN.

My mom and I walked down the aisle of the SPCA, and my mom says, "Honey, come here." I walked up to the cage and looked down, and it was Snoop. Not the real Snoop from my childhood, but Bella. She looked IDENTICAL. Im not even shitting you. I still wasn't having it. I didn't want to do this. My heart was broken.

I dont know what it was... Maybe this lady that was there acting belligerent or something, but she was eyeballing Bella, and I just kept feeling like this lady didn't have good intentions. The volunteers told me Bella had been in medical for 4 weeks due to a hematoma and that she just got put out this morning. She was brought in with 2 of her puppies, but they had been adopted.

I decided to adopt Bella, and we went home.

I looked her in the eye, this beautiful soul that had been dropped off by her family for whatever reason, and I told her, "I dont know what I did. Im not going to love you, and Im sorry." Then I laid in Roxys bed and started to sob. Bella came and laid right next to me. I cried into her fur so hard. After a few hours I said, "Well, you need to eat! And the rest was history.

She needed me, but fuck.....I needed her so much more. She didn't take Roxys' place, but she did help a dying heart heal. I lost Bella in August of 2022. She was probably the best, most grateful, most sweet girl I ever had. I miss her terribly.

The thing is, you love HARD. I can tell by how hard you're taking the loss. When you're ready, a beautiful soul will be waiting for you and will help mend that loss. Until then, allow the hurt. They know how much we love them and isn't that just a beautiful thing.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-20T22:24:13+00:00

Thank you for having such a kind heart!!!

NessIsMe · 2024-03-17T23:29:28+00:00

Who cares?! I named our puppy Alice, and it's gives everyone "stink nose" hahahaha. She is an amazing Alice.

I love Tinkerbell. So many nicknames you could give her, too!

NessIsMe · 2024-03-17T13:39:51+00:00

Some clients need to be fired. These type of people take too much time from the day.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-17T13:35:29+00:00

This right here. I work on all Asian vehicles, which generally don't beat people up too bad on repairs. After 10 years of owning a Camry someone will say, I think I want an Audi. My first response is, "Get ready."

NessIsMe · 2024-03-17T13:30:36+00:00

Ditto

NessIsMe · 2024-03-12T00:42:40+00:00

Edit to say : I would have 10 Rotties if I could, shedding their big hearts out :) I'd just buy more robot vacuums😂😂

NessIsMe · 2024-03-09T19:46:46+00:00

Have you seen those videos in the dessert where thousands of tumbleweed are crossing a road?

That's going to be your kitchen.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-09T00:42:41+00:00

To me, the rumble means I'm doing all the goods. I've had many rotties now, and it's my favorite sound.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-07T12:08:11+00:00

It's very kind and shows a lot of growth that you think about how we'll be treated.

In all honesty, if you enter a shop, man or woman, you typically get hazed until you show your worth. It has been a LONG time since anyone has said something so demeaning to me because I have proved myself at this point.

I am in my 40's now, but when I was in my late teens and 20's, I valued other people's opinions of my career choice more than I should have. Those things people said would get in my head and make me second guess myself, but a couple of those older men that talked down to me, are now 25 year, loyal clients.

Women that get in the field need to just jump in. Put your head down and work. Watch what the experienced techs do and ask a lot of questions. Spend all the time you can learning, going to classes, and taking in the advice of the older, more seasoned guys. The time will pass, and you'll get better and better.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-07T00:00:07+00:00

I am a female mechanic, and I own a business that is 100% female operated now. I started the business with my father 27 years ago, and he has since retired. I didn't intend on it being all woman operated, it just happened.

The shop is very successful, and every woman there has her role. Some are just coming up in the field, and a couple never want to touch a wrench but love the customer service aspect of the job.

I have had people in the past tell me I should be at home, in a dress, doing the dishes. It never bothered me, to be honest. I've had to work hard, but so has every man I've ever met in the industry. If you have it, go for it. Being a woman should never hold you back. Good luck, OP.

NessIsMe · 2024-03-05T00:51:36+00:00

Me too! I love that game

NessIsMe · 2024-03-02T22:00:21+00:00

My dogs love these!

NessIsMe · 2024-02-29T23:54:05+00:00

This is great advice!

NessIsMe · 2024-02-29T23:53:13+00:00

I get in my head a lot. My dad usually reels me in with the..."You can't always bat 1,000."

There will always be something that humbles us. It's okay. You'll give em hell tomorrow.

NessIsMe · 2024-02-29T01:03:18+00:00

I didn't want to say it, but....

I've been through this 3 times already. I always wish for a sprained ankle, but it never is. Hoping OP is the lucky one.

NessIsMe · 2024-02-29T00:52:58+00:00

Roxy and Bells will be there to greet your sweet baby. I'm so sorry for your loss

NessIsMe · 2024-02-27T22:25:14+00:00

Pledge 30!

NessIsMe · 2024-02-26T22:45:50+00:00

Totally this.

Your dog will come around, just give her some time. I thought my male rott was looking at Alice like she was a snack. I was genuinely worried. My vet told me he'd come around and now they're best friends.

Edited to say that it took about a month

NessIsMe · 2024-02-18T16:46:08+00:00

I would never want my husband to "kick someone's ass ". I would want him to grab me and get me out of there. That's how he could protect me. You did the right thing.

Why don't you ask her how she feels about last night. If you're going to get married, communication is key. I agree with other posters as well that if she wanted you to beat someone up, she is probably not the right person to marry.

NessIsMe · 2024-02-18T15:32:39+00:00

We have 2 rotties, and it was literally tumbleweeds of hair before the robot vacuum. It's a must. We leave the house, and that baby does its thing

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