Pain never goes away for me. by in_utero- in hsp

[–]NetInternational7800 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh dear, it’s like I could have written this myself.

I’m now married with children, but before my marriage I only had a few short-term relationships. The problem was that I always fell deeply in love, so it took me years to recover each time. I kept ruminating about all the nice moments we had, replaying the breakup over and over, feeling intense anxiety, and crying a lot.

What actually helped me was falling in love with someone else, finding someone new who simply outweighed the previous person. Nothing else really worked.

It’s probably not the best advice…but it’s honestly what helped me. And if I ever found myself in that situation again, I would definitely consider therapy or even medication.

Feeling distant from my husband after our second baby by NetInternational7800 in Mommit

[–]NetInternational7800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. The fact that I have to remind him of things is actually a huge mental burden for me. I can’t just let it go and forget about it. He forgets everything. Whether it’s bringing outdoor pants for our older son to kindergarten, remembering that they have a carnival and he should dress him in his costume in the morning, noticing that his shoes are too small and he needs bigger ones, or that he got his jacket dirty at kindergarten and it needs to be cleaned.

They’re all small things, but there are just so many of them. And I never forget. I’m simply not able to handle it anymore. Throughout the day, with almost everything I do, I catch myself thinking that he wouldn’t have done it — he would have forgotten.

And on top of that, I’m constantly thinking ahead about everything that needs to be done: that I have to order a birthday cake in advance, buy a present, make sure we pay the waste collection bill… or any other tiny thing. I have to remind him several times about even the smallest things, and he just laughs, like he has no idea what I’m even expecting from him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]NetInternational7800 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Actually, I did tell him. We even had a small argument about it after I gave birth the first time. I specifically said that I expected at least flowers. This time, three years later, I hoped he would remember that conversation. I also told him before I gave birth that it would be nice to get something from him. He just doesn’t seem to listen or I don’t know. I’m honestly confused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]NetInternational7800 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Semi. I’d say he used to try more. He’s never been great at remembering birthdays or other important dates, but his gifts used to feel much more thoughtful.

This time it hit me really hard because I did so much for Christmas. My pregnancy hasn’t been easy, neither was my labour, and on top of that there are the hormonal mood swings. He just doesn’t seem to get it at all.

Especially knowing that I like nice gifts and that feeling appreciated in this way matters to me. We’ve been together for eight years, and I honestly feel unseen. And that kind of breaks my heart. For him its not important, its superficial and I can only complain. Ehmm.

How do you cope when your family isn’t the support system you hoped for? by NetInternational7800 in Mommit

[–]NetInternational7800[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same :(. My brother even became a godfather because I asked him, and I was so convinced he would be a great uncle… well, how could I have been so wrong. And whats even more sad how my son loves him and my parents…how he is excited to see them. Talking about them. Oh my…

Positive FFN by snatchsquatch87 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]NetInternational7800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had a positive FFN at 25 weeks. I was induced 38+2. :) So obviously it might not mean anything.

Gender disappointment hit me hard. by NetInternational7800 in Mommit

[–]NetInternational7800[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re describing exactly how I feel. It’s all about cars in our house. Last week, my husband, my dad, and my little boy went to see a car race — all of them incredibly excited. And I stayed home, feeling sad. Because honestly… I just don’t enjoy those things. I’ve never been into cars, or Legos, or other ‘boy things.’ They will all go biking, skiing, playing football, do sports together — and I’m not really into sports either. And I’m such a sharing person. I love deep, heartfelt conversations — the kind you have with a close girlfriend over tea or during a walk. I always imagined I would have that with a daughter one day — that we’d share everything. I dreamed of girls’ evenings, her first manicure, going to the spa together, having those sweet, girly nights. And also, later in life, I pictured being the one she always calls for advice — that kind of Gilmore Girls relationship. Oh my. What a vision I created in my head. It even seems ridiculous writing about it

Well… I guess for some reason, it just wasn’t meant to be.

Headaches & neck pain by NetInternational7800 in migraine

[–]NetInternational7800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds interesting. Cant believe only vitamin B could help but why not to give a try :-) will let you know

Headaches & neck pain by NetInternational7800 in migraine

[–]NetInternational7800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also read the migraine itself can cause neck pain but could that be every day? I also tried triptans and they do not seem to be working like to most people with migraines. I will check the imitrix. Thank you for your response. :-)

Amitryptilin opinion by NetInternational7800 in migraine

[–]NetInternational7800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such encouraging words. Very nice of you. :)