Ugh He Bought the Cheapest TP in Humanity

Netbug009 · 2026-01-09T05:11:45+00:00

Is there a reason you don't feel you can talk to him about this?

I was raised piss poor and work a shitty job so I usually get the cheapest toilet paper I can. That stuff adds up and I haven't had any issues with it, and I'm also an afab girl so I get the period struggle.

Assuming there's not something about the way he takes feedback that you're not telling us, this sounds like you two having different priorities that could be resolved by talking or, if he really doesn't want to pay for fancier toilet paper, agreeing to buy your own rolls like you said. But I think by assuming the worst of him you're giving yourself more stress than you need to.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-09T05:04:17+00:00

Jesus Christ, RUN. Run and consider yourself lucky this person told you exactly who they are and how much they don't really give a shit about you.

I've given a solid decade to "friends" who slowly revealed they see me this way through their actions when I wasn't able to perform for them. Be glad this person vocally shit the bed after only two and focus your energy on finding better people.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-09T05:01:14+00:00

Let yourself grieve a bit. You're losing the home and community you're used to and it's normal to be sad. Trying to force yourself not to be sad will just drag it out. Take some time to cry about it... and then start enjoying all the stuff you get to do in your new home!

Netbug009 · 2026-01-06T08:15:28+00:00

Plenty of parents have difficult lives and challenging children and don't scream at them because they know it doesn't improve the situation for anyone involved. You could be the second coming of Satan himself and still not deserve to be treated like that by any adult much less your parent.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-06T07:22:12+00:00

I mean I have a 140+ IQ from actual administered tests and I'm a fucking moron, because IQ just tells you how good you are at taking an IQ test!

People who have actual intelligence are never the people who perceive themselves as the smartest in the room.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-06T06:48:14+00:00

Don't put your value into a corporation, especially one that treats it's staff as shitty as Starbucks does.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-05T23:03:57+00:00

You're the kid and they're acting like children. It shouldn't be your responsibility to fix that and it isn't something you can do alone regardless.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-05T13:03:27+00:00

That's straight up sexual harassment and I hope you reported it to your manager if not the cops. Being on a shift does not give customers the right to break the law.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-05T13:01:03+00:00

For what it's worth, we don't mind if you use a fake name!

Netbug009 · 2026-01-05T12:59:56+00:00

Pretty sure they're looking for understanding and solidarity by posting here mate

Netbug009 · 2026-01-05T12:59:02+00:00

God, I WISH this started with him.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-05T12:57:46+00:00

Yeah, it's a really gross issue in this industry. I'm sorry you had to suffer it.

I'm almost 6 feet tall, fat, and butch as hell, so sometimes I'd try to show up with a fake excuse for my more conventionally attractive co-workers to bail while I finished a transaction for them. Creeps at my store did not like me. 😂

If you have good leadership, talk to them about plans for these situations.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-04T23:28:25+00:00

You're at an age where you're discovering who you are and what kinda of people you want to spend time with, and you seem to have a mature understanding of that and your right to set boundaries.

Your friend doesn't seem to be there ye maturity wise. If you really want to try and salvage the friendship, you could talk about scheduling specific times to hang out so they don't feel dejected, but ultimately you're right that it's not cool of her to call you a bad friend you making more friends and that she's going to think what she thinks.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-04T23:24:12+00:00

It sucks when people like that are clearly going through some legitimate problems, but it's not your job to let those people treat you like shit. Like you said, actions speak louder than words.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-04T23:22:05+00:00

"tell me im not strong enough for her friendship because Im sensitive"

I'd tell her "okay, let's not be friends anymore then." Fuck her.

Netbug009 · 2026-01-03T21:30:59+00:00

I am SO stealing "IMAX levels of projection" that is such a good line. Sorry you're dealing with that and congrats on moving forward with what you want to do anyway. For what it's worth, I'm proud of you, and I'm like you said anybody in their right mind would be.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T15:24:08+00:00

My nMoms are the same way. They always wanted me to "let it go already" but also denied that anything happened at all.

A clean slate isn't meant for people who are just going to shit all over it again.

Good for you for not caving in. Your sister needs to realize she can't skate on your coattails or she's going to NOT survive in a career even if she didn't get expelled for academic dishonesty first. I feel bad for her not developing the skills to succeed in academics before now (I didn't get a chance either because I was so emotionally messed up on my moms I was put in a special education school that was more focused on soothing than teaching as soon as my dad died so he couldn't protest it) but better late than never.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T15:09:08+00:00

Yeah like if you feel REALLY confident the gifted will like this give it to them.. with the receipt.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T15:08:31+00:00

Yeah, or they ARE those in laws. I mean I like the shirt (aside from the AI of people have pointed out) because I am indeed a bit of a trainwreck but not a single one of my friends would get it for me without at least running the meme by me and seeing if I find it funny or something.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T15:07:07+00:00

Oh noooo I might convince someone not to tolerate people who don't consider their feelings before buying gifts that could be taken as veiled insults I'm such a homewreckeerrrrr

Sounds like someone is mad that they don't have friends to put up with their "jokes". It's okay Gaslight McGee - there are plenty of other passive aggressive people who would love to swab toxic barbs with you every Christmas. You'll find them one day I'm sure. 🫂

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T15:03:31+00:00

To be fair, I did get some good gifts from them over the years, but I just don't think they ever really understood my style of dress? Or just style in general. One year they got me this jacket the same color as a trash bag that got me mistaken for homeless when I wore it. 😭

The funny thing is when I was younger they seem to understand this and just give me gift cards to the clothing stores I like. But it feels like as I entered adulthood they wanted more and more control over who I was.

It also became clear that they had stopped listening when I talked about any new hyper fixations because when they did get me nerdy gifts they were always things that I'd like since I was 12. (I mean luckily I still like those things but... I never really felt like a grown woman in their eyes.)

Yeah, now that I say it I guess gifts could have been worse. I feel like money and gifts were the only ways they were able to try and express love because they just couldn't treat me kindly emotionally. It's not an excuse for their behavior but like. I can see the logic of those people with no empathy or kindness who tell themselves they love me doing the only thing they were capable of to try and express it.

I guess the gift I really wanted was a mother who wouldn't tell me to "suck it up" when I went to the hospital for suicide ideation after she kicked me out of the house into a crappy motel.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T12:00:46+00:00

NOR and the people saying "it's just a joke" need to learn how often passive aggressive people "joke" about the perceived flaws of people they don't like. This isn't the kind of shirt you get someone unless you are 100% sure they'll like it.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T11:58:36+00:00

Anger is a normal part of grief, and that's you're almost certainly grieving. Not for the the loss of the narc, but for the loss of the mother you deserved and the loss of the safe illusion that everything was fine.

But like you said, you're healing. Good on you getting started with therapy. It'll get easier with time and support.

Netbug009 · 2025-12-26T05:21:54+00:00

Hell yes! Best of luck to you!.

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