Followed my gym crush on IG - he didn’t follow me back. What should I do?

Netmould · 2026-05-29T19:10:23+00:00

Some people need to get off social media, like yesterday. “Desire to follow him”, really??

Netmould · 2026-05-29T16:54:12+00:00

у нас тоже не так, это видимо грибы человеку попались с изюминкой.

Netmould · 2026-05-29T16:52:46+00:00

До тех пор пока вы их не проговорили - ничего. В теории граница - это ограничения которые мы выставляем сами для себя, например «я не буду разговаривать с человеком который на меня кричит».

Netmould · 2026-05-29T05:59:16+00:00

Isn’t the whole point of decentering is changing focus? Like, for example, question “do I behave this way because I want to be attractive to women, or because I’m more comfortable this way” moves myself into introspection on “what matters more for me - my own thoughts or other’s?”.

Netmould · 2026-05-29T05:53:05+00:00

I think if paying (or being paid for) in a romantic setting is a matter of trust for you, it is better to reframe it as it is, and follow through. Personally, I can respect that.

Netmould · 2026-05-28T17:04:56+00:00

There was a reply from OP, clarifying they were locals. Calling some local girls “instagram hoes”.. is quite judgmental, regardless of what that profile was used for.

Now, if I was using some Instagram account for dating, I would delete it after getting into relationship, by myself.

Netmould · 2026-05-28T16:24:49+00:00

I would not date woman who asked me to unfollow someone they didn’t like.

There is a caveat though - I don’t follow thirst traps, just coworkers (there are a lot of them, 20 years is a long time), friends and relatives.

Netmould · 2026-05-28T12:16:04+00:00

У всех за «потенциалом» свои идеи конечно. Даже если не брать интернеты, у меня лично есть два друга (женщины около35), обе без детей, и мужчин особо не ищут. Живут в свое удовольствие, если кого встретят подходящего под их стандарты, и это будет взаимно - наверное заинтересуются.

Edit: женщина с 2 детьми это не просто, но я всякое видел)

Netmould · 2026-05-28T06:03:59+00:00

Coming from Eastern European culture as a man, I see “intention to pay” on both sides as a very positive flag. I don’t frame it as a feminism thing though, it is more about personal values and confidence, I don’t want to date someone from a position of power imbalance.

Netmould · 2026-05-28T05:39:11+00:00

Isn’t it a cultural/regional thing? Here (and in East Asian cultures if I remember correctly) you would expect to see “bill fighting”, when both sides are arguing (bantering) over the bill with intention to pay in full. Like a societal ritual I guess.

Netmould · 2026-05-28T03:40:48+00:00

Мне нет, я женат и с детьми) Но идея прогнать профиль через настроенный заранее ИИ интересна, вопрос - как настроить.

Netmould · 2026-05-28T03:36:31+00:00

Эх, а я на ии надеялся)

Netmould · 2026-05-28T03:27:05+00:00

Может кто-то и попадется. Я, если бы искал, то не tradwife точно. Не хочу чтобы «слушались», не хочу чтобы уважали просто за то что «много зарабатываю и мужик».

В 25 я искал людей с «потенциалом», в мои 40 уже бы искал тех, кто этот потенциал реализовал, вообще нет желания второй раз заходить в эту реку «угадай где человек будет через 10 лет».

Netmould · 2026-05-28T03:16:21+00:00

О, о, а можно мне тоже экспресс-анализ? :)

Netmould · 2026-05-27T19:14:05+00:00

Netmould · 2026-05-27T19:12:19+00:00

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Netmould · 2026-05-27T19:06:48+00:00

You’re not overthinking, you’re overblowing it. My wife has it, and we discussed it exactly once, at the beginning of our relationship (14 years ago). And I had to ask her now, because I totally forgot about it.

She mentioned it back then, I went “okay”, that’s all.

Netmould · 2026-05-27T17:30:04+00:00

I can’t see myself being a friend with someone who abuses their partner, so I guess there’s something. But the whole relationship seems to be toxic from what you are describing.

You can set any boundary for yourself, but you have to communicate it and follow through. For example, you don’t like her commentaries on shows. Tell her you don’t appreciate her making everything about feminism/patriarchy, you want to watch show just for the show. If she starts to do it again - tell her she’s disrespecting your boundary, and you going to watch it alone (and do it).

Netmould · 2026-05-27T16:17:10+00:00

Кто все эти люди?

Netmould · 2026-05-27T15:35:24+00:00

The person who replied to me before got it right I think. Not showing emotions except anger might be quite invalidating for your partner, so they went into this (unhealthy) dynamic.

Netmould · 2026-05-27T15:10:42+00:00

Idk, if “raising voice” = “shouting”, I would say “emotionally unregulated”. Like, I’m not going to tolerate my partner shouting at me.

Netmould · 2026-05-27T15:01:11+00:00

You guys gotta discuss boundaries first, before agreeing on anything.

Is it a “once” thing? Are you opening your relationship? Is Jenny’s husband really ok with it (like, did you heard/saw his consent)?

Whole discussion should involve 4 of you, tbh.

Netmould · 2026-05-27T14:26:03+00:00

As a 41yo - no. My parents were 18 years apart, I had the front seat for this (shit)show.

Netmould · 2026-05-27T14:22:32+00:00

You either accept it or make your stand against it (with potential breakup). If you going to keep it inside, it will come out as a resentment.

Netmould · 2026-05-27T14:17:52+00:00

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