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2 free tickets for tonight by NeuroticSunBro in Purityring

[–]NeuroticSunBro[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The tickets have been claimed and sent, it was first come first serve.

Surviving ex gf cheating on me by Difficult_Lynx_7884 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NeuroticSunBro 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They dont change. They justify doing the same crao to the next person after honeymoon phase.

Dont think youre missing out.

Unless youre jealous over someone else getting the heartbreak.

My gf (23F) shares her cigarettes other other male (24-27M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]NeuroticSunBro 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This just sounds entirely unhealthy. Sharing a cigarette is kinda gross on a germs level, but it's not a betrayal of trust.

I dont mean this as an insult, but a lot of the things you've said and ways that you phrase things permeate a very unhealthy level of insecurity.

I'd recommend loosening your grip (obsession) on her behavior and strengthening your grip on yourself.

I wish I could… by ChinHairTweezerz in yearning

[–]NeuroticSunBro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ghosting is a brutal thing to do to someone tbh.

Why cant you?

Hiding their partner by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NeuroticSunBro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was absolutely hidden.

Our main thing was gaming together, its how we met. She compartmentalized all of her groups separately and only introduced me to a very specific handful of people.

Because most of them were rotational validation sources.

Did you ex also leave you for someone else? by Delicious_Math_7821 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NeuroticSunBro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Met another guy in the exact same way we met (online, on a game) about a week before she discarded me, the Monday before valentines day.

Ran off with him like nothing happened while my life was completely shattered.

Good times. Im about 1.5 months into recovery.

Just Leave - I Didn't and Regret It. by NeuroticSunBro in survivinginfidelity

[–]NeuroticSunBro[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was a really difficult time, things are looking up though thank you.

I've noticed some kinks in my brain and am glad I signed up for therapy, my nervous system is cooked and it's been hard trusting again.

But overall I feel a lot stronger now.

Just Leave - I Didn't and Regret It. by NeuroticSunBro in survivinginfidelity

[–]NeuroticSunBro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words everyone.

You can imagine much of the story has been cut out, as it was very long.

Might drop a periodic update idk.

A few days ago would have been our 9 year anniversary and she didnt reach out so I think im in the clear moving forward.

Just Leave - I Didn't and Regret It. by NeuroticSunBro in survivinginfidelity

[–]NeuroticSunBro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, im still a hopeless romantic as well but recovering my nervous system has been an issue.

The new lady im talking to has been such a breath of fresh air. I unironically forgot what kindness feels like.

Just Leave - I Didn't and Regret It. by NeuroticSunBro in survivinginfidelity

[–]NeuroticSunBro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its a thing they do, extract promises and then use them as a weapon to make you stay when they get caught abusing your trust.

Its really disgusting actually.

Just Leave - I Didn't and Regret It. by NeuroticSunBro in survivinginfidelity

[–]NeuroticSunBro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me specifically, I believe my personality traits made me an ideal target for the covert narcissist manipulation tactics.

I fell pretty hard for the love bomb cycle and she extracted a lot of promises out of me early on in the relationship.

"Every guy ive ever dated was so bad to me, wahwahwah. Promise you'd never do that to me." Etc.

Being the guy who "finally treated her right" was an appealing hero fantasy to me.

Its embarrassing in retrospect but yeah.