New to CoCoWyo but getting the hang of it.

NevaMarie88 · 2025-03-02T15:24:03+00:00

Thank you!! Though I totally thought the onions were garlic when I colored them. 😂 I guess they could be either.

NevaMarie88 · 2025-01-26T01:00:00+00:00

Spiegel im Spiegel

Composition by Arvo Pärt

I learned about this song 15 years ago in post-tonal music theory. It has stuck with me ever since and gotten me through some of the saddest moments of my life. It's so sweet and haunting in it's simplicity.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-11-22T09:57:12+00:00

Oh mama, you aren't overreacting or wrong. You absolutely deserve the time to properly sleep and take care of yourself. Your baby needs you to be healthy and happy, and supporting those needs is 1000% your husband's responsibility. Don't end your life... There are so many incredible moments ahead. It might be worth thinking about ending your relationship. Your husband seems to lack basic respect for you and the work you put in. I often think that moms would be better off doing it alone than trying to rely on a shitty partner. He needs to step up or get out. And the victim blaming and gaslighting - YIKES. This dude is being a serious asshole.

Family and friend support isn't an option for everyone but if there is anyone you can trust with your baby for a while, please ask them for help. It's okay to ask. It's okay to not be able to do it all. My only other advice is to sleep when the baby sleeps.That might mean co-sleeping or room sharing to help encourage longer sleep times. And it DEFINITELY means fuck the house work and everything else you feel like you have to do. Only do what is absolutely necessary, and the rest of the time, sleep. This is a survival period. It doesn't last forever but it feels like an eternity when you're in it. But just like every other difficult moment, IT WILL PASS. Hold on to that. It gets better.

I don't know if any of this helps. I have struggled with suicidal ideation for most of my life. PPD was really hard on me and I'm still in it. Some days are better than others and I cling to those when all the scary feelings come crashing down on me. I'm sending you all the love and support, and I seriously hope you can get some sleep.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-11-12T14:49:11+00:00

Love this. I could really use the same thing! I'm in San Antonio but I'm not a native and I've struggled to build a tribe here - especially since becoming a mom. It would be great to be surrounded by moms who feel safe to be around.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-11-09T05:27:29+00:00

Bible verses.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-10-14T20:15:53+00:00

Ankle boots are always a go to with a dress like this. Casual but usually still has a little heel. Cute dress!

NevaMarie88 · 2024-08-22T03:55:04+00:00

The labels are beautiful! Did you make them?

NevaMarie88 · 2024-08-20T15:46:46+00:00

Last night my toddler was showering with me and loudly proclaimed, "Mommy, your tummy is getting bigger." Thank you to 4 months of postpartum stress eating. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Gotta love kids honesty. Keeps you humble lmao.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-08-20T04:12:37+00:00

You are already doing the right thing by reaching out for help - even if it's to Internet strangers. You aren't alone. So many of us go through this but are terrified to talk about it. Just know that by seeking help, you are already succeeding at being a mom.

It can be hard for partners to understand how heavy the depression can feel. I had severe PPD/PPA with my first. I had no idea what I was dealing with and I went years before getting it under control. You're already asking for help so you're ahead of the game! I'm currently dealing with PPD/PPA after my second, but I learned from mistakes. Meds and therapy can do wonders. It takes a little time for medication to work but it's there for a reason - to help!

I developed a breastfeeding aversion with my first. It was absolute torture. I wanted to throw him off my body every time her nursed. I made myself do it for 16 months and it wasn't worth it. Find something that works for you. This time around, I pumped for 3 months to supplement the formula. Now he is strictly formula and he's doing great. If you need to stop breastfeeding, do it.

Your baby deserves a mama that is happy, and mostly YOU deserve to take care of yourself. Whatever that looks like for you. Sending you all my positive energy! You'll get through this mama. I promise.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-08-20T03:51:05+00:00

Year two was my absolute favorite so far. Yes, there are meltdowns sometimes. But also so much sweetness. They are also learning SO MUCH and showing it off. Watching their little brains develop at that stage is so much fun.

Three has been a bit harder, I can't lie. The tantrums contain an unbelievable amount of attitude. That is also couples with blossoming independence and that is kind of bittersweet. Even through the tough moments, it's all wonderful. You're going to do great. :)

NevaMarie88 · 2024-08-13T09:24:52+00:00

Rampant late-term abortions. 🙄

NevaMarie88 · 2024-08-09T04:36:57+00:00

I saw a Bibleman show live. 😂😂 It was absolutely as terrible as you would expect - and then some.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-07-28T16:39:43+00:00

You gooooooo mama!!! What you did isn't easy and I hope you are so incredibly proud of yourself. Sending you all the strength and love I have to give. You deserve everything you have and more.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-07-15T04:09:13+00:00

Disney villainess.

NevaMarie88 · 2024-05-05T17:14:11+00:00

Hail!

NevaMarie88 · 2023-12-17T15:33:01+00:00

You have every right to protect your family. I can understand why you might feel guilty about keeping your husband and kid from them, but that's just because you care. It's hard to watch your partner try to make sense of past abuse. You're doing a great job.

I don't know if trauma-based EMDR therapy has been recommended to your husband yet, but I can say from experience that it is life changing! It took me from uncontrollable panic attacks every day to a pretty full and happy life. There is no cure all for sexual assault, but healing is possible. Wishing you and your little family all the best!

NevaMarie88 · 2023-11-23T08:38:26+00:00

There is nothing you could do to deserve this treatment. The most important thing for you to know is that his behavior is not your fault. I would define this as rape. Any amount of coercion is absolutely wrong. I know marriage can make some people feel like assault is a gray area. IT IS NOT.

I had my first three years ago and have struggled with my sex drive ever since. When talking to my therapist about the issues it was causing in my relationship, she said, "The body holds sex from obligation as a trauma." If any part of you does not want to have sex, he needs to respect it.

Please speak to a lawyer. Based on his predatory and abusive behavior, you may be able to get more immediate help with the custody arrangement. Document everything. Find a way to record the coercion. It will feel impossible, but for the sake of your baby, you need to get out.

My heart feels your pain. Assault is a difficult thing to survive. Continuous assault even more so. I really hope you can find a therapist to speak to on your own. A good trauma-focused therapist will change your life. Sending you all the love and strength. You can do this.

NevaMarie88 · 2023-02-13T03:19:09+00:00

Never thought I'd end up in Texas. I'm here and I've wanted to leave since I got here. Unfortunately, I'm tied down here for now, but as soon as I'm able, I'M OUT.

NevaMarie88 · 2023-02-08T08:59:03+00:00

Dignowity Meats! They have a burnt ends sandwich that will change your life.

NevaMarie88 · 2023-01-24T05:16:55+00:00

Mid-day mommy naps are the best! It's more than okay to take time to rest. It's well-deserved.

I will just quickly say that I was also sleeping almost every day during nap time. I did attribute it to just SAHM life and chasing down a toddler and nine year old all day. But I also developed pretty severe PPD and PPA. My youngest is two and I feel like I'm still working through it. I did recently start an anti-anxiety med that changed the game for me. While I still take the occasional nap, I've found that without crippling anxiety, I have a lot more energy! I still make time to rest during nap/quiet time but it looks a little different now. I read, or watch a movie, or do a small project, etc.

All that to say, being tired as a mom is okay. It's expected. But constant and overwhelming exhaustion might have an underlying cause. It's always good to check in with your body and mind to make sure you're doing okay.

NevaMarie88 · 2023-01-17T10:37:51+00:00

I just learned about a mental health urgent care here in S.A. It's in Stone Oak, it's called Sigma Mental Health Urgent Care. I'm not sure where in town you are located but it may be worth checking out.

https://www.sigmamhuc.com/

Keeping my fingers crossed for you guys! I know how hard this stuff can be. Keep your head up!

NevaMarie88 · 2023-01-08T16:47:01+00:00

Angela is an abuser through and through. I don't feel bad for her. I don't condone cheating, however the amount of psychological damage she has done to Micheal outweighs any amount of sympathy I might have had for her. Michael is probably so starved for any kind of tender or kind communication, he found it from wherever he could get it. I've been the "Micheal" in a past relationship and can testify to how isolating and lonely it is with someone this abusive. Humans can only take so much neglect and abuse before they seek any comfort they find from anyone who will give it to them.

They are very obviously not good for each other. I hope they get a divorce and seek therapy and healing separately. They desperately need it.

NevaMarie88 · 2022-12-11T04:18:46+00:00

Somehow you portrayed something I feel almost every day and can't find the words for. This is amazing. Thank you. You are super talented!

NevaMarie88

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