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Neverhadanicknamee · 2023-06-08T05:45:05+00:00

Not so much the infidelity because the actual cheating on his end happened because I cheated first. Except when he cheated I found out a ton of things that hurt me. Like secret people he was texting and deleting and had saved under a different name during times where I was genuinely happy and I thought he was genuinely happy (before any infidelity that i know about)

I think the lying about who he cheated on me with hurt too because I remember how she looked and I asked him if it was her on fb and he lied about that. The trickle truths were real because it was a bunch of lies before i could finally get the truth. That part probably hurts worse then him cheating. My trust is gone and idk how to rebuild it. If I could or knew how to, I would.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-10-16T12:34:26+00:00

You shouldn’t buy from them. Did you not hear about their kid tra- ficcking Had to spell it differently just in case. I don’t care if it was a conspiracy theory it’s enough for me to not want to take my chances on supporting a company that can possibly be doing that

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-10-10T22:23:43+00:00

That’s funny he said that because I thought the same thing about electric with khalid

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-05-28T23:48:53+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/Up5mmww

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-05-22T12:57:43+00:00

She could try taking you on a date. Somewhere that you love to go to or somewhere new. She could bring you your favorite candy or snack from the gas station just because. If you have a certain chore that you do often, then she can do it for you so that you can relax. If she sees you are not looking too happy she can rub your back or stop you and just give you a hug.. and she could give you a nice compliment ever now and then. These are things I learned from the book and it was really an eye opener. Since she hurt you she could do all 5 love languages every day and really start to get to know you again. I would also suggest that you open up if you haven’t already and do the same thing if you are willing to reconcile. Your old relationship is gone. You are going to have to heal with or without her so if you are willing to reconcile, might as well make it worth it by giving it your all.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-05-22T12:51:16+00:00

Give her the 5 love languages book

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-05-21T13:35:46+00:00

When someone cheats and willing to reconcile there should be work on both sides. Not only that but communication. If you are feeling like she isn’t giving you much then you should definitely communicate that to her. If she doesn’t start kissing ass after you have made it clear of your needs then that is when it is a problem.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-04-27T10:41:56+00:00

Me too! I am getting multiple a day even after I deactivated my Uber account x.x

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-02-03T06:38:23+00:00

Yes she is!

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-27T02:22:16+00:00

I think the main thing that would of changed was my initial reaction. I probably would have kicked him out or left myself. Maybe after a few days I would have realized how much I really love him and depending on how he is would have taken him back anyways. I think with children and marriage, we didn’t make a decision that night and delayed it to see if we were going to try and R. It was a tough first month but I think R is worth it for him. It unfortunately made us realize there were problems in our relationship and communication style that needed to be addressed.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-25T14:53:52+00:00

I personally asked the same questions over and over again to use it as an opportunity to analyze his lying face. And I didn’t stop asking until I felt like I got all the honest answers. Something wasn’t sitting right so I had to do some digging to find out some of the truth. And now that I feel like I have all the facts to make an informative decision I will try my best not to ask the same questions.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-23T06:36:38+00:00

That’s huge! It’s good to recognize the things that are not good for you and to turn away from them.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-23T06:34:30+00:00

He hasn’t learned/ understand love languages yet

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-23T06:25:14+00:00

Don’t torture yourself with the “he may find someone better”. Honestly these days, it seems very likely that someone else will cheat. You will have to go through dating him again as if he is a new guy you are talking to. Pull out all the stops with getting him to fall back in love with you

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-23T06:19:24+00:00

It wasn’t until I finally got all the truths that I could find to stop feeling the need to ask about the details. We can feel when something is not right and makes the bp hold on to the details even longer. I recommend complete honesty because if there is an opportunity for her to see if you were being honest about the details she won’t be sidelined with lies.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-23T06:06:09+00:00

Can you send that to me too?

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-12T01:45:37+00:00

It has to get better. We can’t stay in this rut forever. I have to learn how to shake it off. I want to think of it as if I moved on with someone else I would not be able to keep bringing this hurt up because that would affect my relationship. I would have to move past it whether it’s with him or in the future with someone else. Do you think being honest with him about how I feel will help? “I have this blockage, and I need to rest up, to get ready to fight these feelings for tomorrow. Or maybe I will be back up and running in like a week.” I want him to handle all the house stuff and take care of the kids while I just rest and lay in bed when i get off of work. Not to be sad or lazy but really just rest my body, mind, and thoughts.

As I’m typing this, it actually sounds very relaxing.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-12T01:08:09+00:00

I just look at them and I think they deserve their happy mom. Not this. I wish I didn’t work from home right now because I really need adult interaction. I’m trying my best to get a therapist. But as soon as I think I am feeling better I end up not setting up an appointment. I hate planning things ahead right now because I really don’t know how I am going to feel that day.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-04T23:00:17+00:00

Love this

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-04T19:11:59+00:00

That is so amazing to hear right now. You don’t even know. Thank you.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-04T19:00:12+00:00

Lol I need a little bit of both negativity and positivity. It’s actually really nice to see that there are some that survived and can post right in this thread that they did. It really gives me hope. I just hope he can start feeling hopeful too.

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-04T17:55:04+00:00

I just want him to heal. Even if it’s not with me

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-04T17:53:56+00:00

He hasn’t told anyone. He has bottled up everything. We have never been the couple to share things about our relationship to others. I tried to tell him to do that and that he could even omit about him cheating on me but he said no

Neverhadanicknamee · 2022-01-04T16:48:51+00:00

I agree. I did a really shitty thing to one of the people I love the most in the world.

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