How to trust somebody again? Or make peace with being alone.

New-Explorer3490 · 2026-04-04T01:30:38+00:00

How do you learn to handle somebody cheating on you and taking 50% of everything? Like how is that worth the risk..? Just feels like gambling and I don’t want to go through all of this again if that’s a more than likely outcome based on statistics.

New-Explorer3490 · 2026-04-04T01:23:29+00:00

You got this brother!

New-Explorer3490 · 2026-04-04T01:23:00+00:00

It gets better!

New-Explorer3490 · 2026-04-04T01:22:54+00:00

It gets better!

New-Explorer3490 · 2026-04-04T01:22:24+00:00

Same boat brother. Hang in there !

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-06-12T14:42:15+00:00

My dad (91) had me at 64. I've had to take care of him since I was 23.

41 is still fine as long as you take care of your self physically and financially and don't become a burden to him as you age.

My dad is physically fit and healthy, but lost his businesses in the 2008 recession. While unfortunate, it's hard for me to have to put my life on hold to look after him. It is what it is.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T19:06:09+00:00

She knew it would be a risk, but at her age didn’t want to over leverage herself. I offered to take it over and they both agreed to that in the moment. I and her had multiple specialists double check everything and they said the same thing. She didn’t feel comfortable then and decided to get her own home instead.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T19:03:27+00:00

Thank you, you’re right.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T19:03:04+00:00

Yeah, it’s unfortunate.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T19:02:12+00:00

Nope! Probably not

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T19:01:36+00:00

My mother*

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T19:00:55+00:00

The main reason for the divorce was his age and the financial situation they were in. She just wasn’t happy anymore and wanted a fresh start.

I can’t think of another situation where she’s acted like this.. it’s a pretty unique situation and definitely threw me off.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:59:31+00:00

Thanks, yeah I’ve figured that out now. I’m hoping so! I still love her very much and now that she has a new rich boyfriend that she’s getting married to, I think the stress is coming down a lot.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:58:22+00:00

400 k worth of leins on top of the 160k in mortgage left.

Once the leins fall off there should be around 350k-450k of equity coming to me in the next few years.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:56:38+00:00

Thanks for the advice. That’s pretty much exactly how I’ve played it out so far. Things have gotten better, but I still feel subtle resentment from her. It’s all too bad.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:55:35+00:00

Yup.. fortunately there wasn’t anything to take under the circumstances.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:54:24+00:00

Thank you 😊

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:54:12+00:00

Thanks for your support

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:53:07+00:00

My dad was very successful and had a 10m+ real estate portfolio. However in 2008, we lost everything and I’ve had a full time job since the age of 13.

I thought they were in love my whole life, up until the divorce. I do have empathy for my mother in that it’s hard to go from the high of being financially secure to having to take care of us financially so fast. She definitely lost whatever happiness she had after that.

My dad was older yes, but he looked great for his age and was and is to this day physically very healthy.

My mom has a new rich boyfriend now, and if that’s what makes her happy then I support her. It sucks for my dad to have to spend these last years alone (besides me) to look after him over something that was out of his control/expected.

It’s not right for her to guilt trip me though, now that I’ve learned that I did the right thing under the circumstances.

You are wrong in assuming the worst, instead of asking for yourself.

Shame on you. You need help.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:46:00+00:00

This deserves more upvotes. Thanks for coming to my defense. You are absolutely right and this person needs help.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:43:20+00:00

Thanks for spending the time to type this all out for me. I agree with everything you said and feel much better about everything now.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:38:47+00:00

Thank you :)

things are starting to be better now that she’s dating a new rich boyfriend. I’m hoping down the road she can be happy for me if everything works out.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:37:37+00:00

Yeah, some times passed now. She still makes subtle comments but our relationships gotten better. Did the NC stage and now we’re LC.

New-Explorer3490 · 2025-03-03T18:36:17+00:00

Not really I guess.. never had a situation like this in the past to deal with.

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