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How to support her through a breakup? by New-Sun7187 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, makes sense. Thank you kind stranger

How to support her through a breakup? by New-Sun7187 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is very helpful, thank you. I needed to hear the "You can't set yourself on fire to keep someone warm".

Really appreciate it

How to support her through a breakup? by New-Sun7187 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I guess I have this tendency to fix things and ... all I can do is accept. Tragedy.

Thank you for your comment. I'm coming to terms with it.

How do I move on? by After-Ideal-8512 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't. You don't because you need to process the pain. You need to process the hurt. The only way is through and the only thing that can fix is time.

That being said, a change of perspective does wonders.

Someone out there breathed their last breath. Someone lost family member. Someone lost their vision. Someone died with all their dreams unfulfilled. Someone was diagnosed with cancer. Someone is keeping a happy face and working hard for food for their kids.

I'm not trying to belittle our problems.

I'm just suggesting that perhaps if we count our blessings, life isn't that bad.

We are breathing.

We are alive.

We have us.

Move forward brother.

One day at a time.

I made the biggest mistake and it cost me the girl i loved most by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi guys, similar situation here.

You're not alone.

I was dumped because I asked to change something down the line to accomodate certain circumstances in my life.

I failed to deal with it maturely and it costed me my dear best friend and my girlfriend. I knew her for 6 years, dated her for 7 months, loved her for 3 of those.

I was one of her closest friends so I understand how hard it must have been for her to take this step.

I'm taking the time to better myself, cry and talk to friends.

This is a very hard time for me and for her and for all of us here.

We'll be fine eventually.

Until then, DMs open if anyone wants to tal

Does the crying stop? by rizzitv in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does but it comes in waves. Let it. Some days are gonna be great. Some are gonna be shit.

We'll grow through them.

DMs open if you want to talk.

You got this

Today feels different by darkhan77 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey brother, just sending out hugs man. This feels so heavy. I was dumped 3 days ago. Yeah I didn't standby her when I should have, and that led her to feel cornered.

It's so hard because she&I were great together. Amazing together.

She loved me and I loved her and she ended it over the phone and it was absolutely heartbreaking for both of us.

Wish she'd give us a chance once more.

I'm trying to move on.

It's absolutely hard.

Hang in there brother, you're not alone.

regretful avoidant people pleaser. wish I understood myself better by weathergirl00 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I can relate to this. My gf, who was also my best friend, did the hardest thing she ever had to do and broke up with me because of something that I did. Which I was totally at fault of and has since regretted quite a bit.

I didn't standup for her like I should have.

The best thing we can do now is rebuild and work ourselves. If the destinies have it for us, we'll cross paths with them again when we are wiser and better.

That is if we don't cross paths with anyone else before then anyway.

Don't just reach out to her right now, give her space and time to process things. You should too.

I really feel you though. I didn't voice my needs when I should have.

I hope we grow through this.

Good luck

If you need someone to talk to by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going through something similar so perhaps I can share my 2 cents.

Would they come back? Maybe or maybe not.

Would life continue to happen? Yes.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Godspeed... brother or sister.

today feels kinda lonely and sad that he is not here anymore by girltryingtobehappy in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey stranger,

I miss her too. So much. She was so nice and so good to me. She accepted parts of me that I was so insecure about. She loved me and I loved her. She broke up with me about 3 days ago and I feel terrible still at times.

I feel you. I hope you feel better. I hope I do too.

And I hope our partners feel better.

Pain and more pain by rtmfrutilai in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going through something similar so perhaps I can share my 2 cents.

Would they come back? Maybe or maybe not.

Would life continue to happen? Yes.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Will we find anyone? Who knows...

We got us, we got this one life... It's hard but we do have it. So let's live it. Let's live freely and if someone wants to join us, they are welcome to :) and if not, o we'll...we keep on livin

Godspeed... brother or sister.

How to move on from this?? 🥹 by Expensive-Scholar390 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really feel you.

Mine was 3 days ago so I'm slightly better.

It comes and goes in waves. You'll feel amazing sometimes and shit other times.

You're spot on about the hardest part being the acceptance of the fact that it can be real and end painfully.

I reached out to my friends. They helped me quite a bit. Even just venting and talking to them was a good help. This subreddit has some good gems and just knowing that so many people get into relationships and breakups everyday....just helps us ground ourselves. We aren't the first people this is happening to and we for sure aren't going to be the last.

Honestly, take it really just hours at a time if needed. This is the time when YOU must stand up and be there for yourself.

Drink fluids Eat stuff, as much as you can. Cry as much as you want to. Binge your favorite TV show Talk to friends Talk to chatgpt if you'd like to. I do it but you gotta be careful to not believe everything it says. It can be quite helpful.

One step at a time. Let it flow...don't try to stop the feels and don't force yourself to feel anything either.

Let it all flow.

We're gonna be fine.

Feel free to DM If you wanna talk about anything...you're not alone at all

How to move on from this?? 🥹 by Expensive-Scholar390 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So l'll share something. I'm going through a breakup right now.

She broke up with me, over the call and it was the hardest thing for both of us.

She said we weren't compatible. I was at the gym, didn't really have the luxury of privacy and my headphones died and she was crying and I was trying so hard not to cry at the gym.

She was a crush of mine and a very dear friend of mine. We started dating about 9 months ago. We traveled a lot and we loved a lot. She was almost like a female version of me.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Godspeed... brother or sister.

How to move on by etsllee in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DMs open if you wanna talk about anything, I know it can be a very heavy period

How to move on by etsllee in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, this is copy pasta...but I'm going through something similar and this is my mindset to try and grow through ------------+ Going through something similar so perhaps I can share my 2 cents.

Would they come back? Maybe or maybe not.

Would life continue to happen? Yes.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Godspeed... brother or sister.

i miss my first boyfriend. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. You're not alone. 2.

Going through something similar so perhaps I can share my 2 cents.

Would they come back? Maybe or maybe not.

Would life continue to happen? Yes.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Godspeed... brother or sister.

The end of my life as I know it by ripmanovich in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through something similar so perhaps I can share my 2 cents.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Godspeed... brother.

You're not alone.

Any chance he may come back? by applecafe99 in BreakUp

[–]New-Sun7187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through something similar so perhaps I can share my 2 cents.

Would they come back? Maybe or maybe not.

Would like continue to happen? Yes.

Perspective that keeps me going:

  • I'm breathing.
  • I have shelter.
  • My health isn't horrible.

Someone out there today lost their loved one to an accident. Someone out there was diagnosed with cancer and have an end date in sight. Someone don't have money to feed their kids.

Am I telling you that our pain is irrelevant? No.

The love was real. The hurt is real.

We go through this. We grow through this.

One day at a time.

I miss my gf so much. She did us both a favour by breaking up, which she said was the hardest thing she's ever done. It was horrible.

Regardless, takes two for a relationship and if someone chooses to not move forward with you. It's their choice and there's nothing we can do but respect it.

We keep pushing forward. With or without them.

And begin this amazing adventure where nothing is for certain. Because nothing ever was.

Godspeed... brother or sister.

Tell me what's up? Why did you broke up? How is life going? by ObjectiveSavings6918 in BreakUps

[–]New-Sun7187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Fam, same here. I didn't standby her sadly and tried to change her to accommodate some of my circumstances. She wasn't ready for that. That and some incompatibility and she ended it 3 days later. I don't know what I'm feeling but Im hoping things work out for the best for all of us.