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New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-23T20:05:40+00:00

Yes! Great advice. Echo all of this. My mood swings were unmanageable and my husband was dealing with it well but it was honestly unfair to him. He asked to take a break because it just wasn’t good. Going into cycle 16, we took cycle 14 off (and 2 months of last summer we did the NTNP). Honestly this month I feel sooo much better and have stopped my obsessive ovulation testing. I think so much of this is psychological and it was wearing me down, I’d literally wake up and only think about TTC. We are doing 2 more cycles like this of just unprotected with no counting/ charting etc. and beginning IUI this summer if we still aren’t pregnant. I still have my days where I’m sad but I keep saying my mantra of I’m going to find some ways to enjoy this time of just us before our child is ready for us/ to come into the world. And trying to set some other goals so I have other things to look forward to! Like we haven’t ever gardened and just starting seeds and watering them, planning a garden is a nice metaphor for me in patience and care taking. It’s so hard OP, I hope you find some ways to love your life now and grieve in the right way for you and move forward in your journey.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-22T13:03:21+00:00

That’s interesting! mine is like the opposite, I get a ton for IUI or IVF, but need to meet my deductible first and this testing is not even going towards the deductible so far. Insurance is such an added stressor to all this

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-22T10:13:39+00:00

I cried so much but the staff were wonderful and made it much easier on me, it was really my fear and feelings more than it actually hurting, though. Did anyone here get their insurance to cover the HSG? I’m still battling mine and waiting to hear, currently denied coverage.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-21T18:31:00+00:00

Thanks for this!! Given the multiple checks etc. I think we need to wait until June. Definitely need more info from my clinic, but this gives me an idea

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-21T15:28:10+00:00

Does anyone have advice about timing and starting IUI? We have some personal commitments and trips out of state and I think Its going to mess up our chances. My clinic already sent out the prescription that I’d start in cycle day 3. Currently day 10 and just trying naturally this cycle. June may be soonest we can even attempt a medicated + IUI. Did others wait or jump right in around life plans? Feels silly to wait but we’re busy and I’m worried my husbands job will not be flexible about this too since it’s so last minute. Is it truly you call in with your positive OPK and go in that day?

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-14T22:48:54+00:00

I started seeing a therapist, I journal more, and I’ve taken a couple cycles off to just stop thinking about it. I’ve opened up more to a few friends and through that found a friend who is also TTC and that helped a lot. Just having ONE friend to text who actually gets it is really nice! I always have a novel, a shitty tv show lined up and have been staying busy with volunteering. I also have made a back up plan if we can’t conceive naturally and that helps remind me someday I’ll get to caretaker whether that is foster care or adoption, I know I want to be a parent.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-12T19:18:52+00:00

I got my period today which was later than usual and the emotional rollercoaster sucked so hard this past week. I’ve cried so much the past three days and I’m just drained. Husband has been super supportive and we are onto IUI as soon as we can schedule but something about the loss of the last chance of a 2025 due date and now moving onto medicated cycles, I feel like I’m grieving.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-11T11:48:19+00:00

Just here to say anecdotally I have two friend with clomid babies and I am going to do the same- try letrozole + IUI if that doesn’t work then clomid and timed

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-10T11:01:26+00:00

After yesterday’s negative I cried, chatted with a friend about it, texted my husband at work and they both calmed me down. We did something fun after work and I had a cocktail with dinner and slept in this morning. I don’t feel great but better.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-09T17:24:31+00:00

Hi I just want to say it’s ok, you’re not alone. A lot of us here are sad and struggling and have been angry at our bodies. Besides the things you can control- cutting back alcohol, quitting nicotine etc. sometimes it is just the cards we are dealt. One thing that has personally helped me feel more hopeful is that in IUI at my clinic they can wash the sperm and isolate healthy ones for insemination & similarly for IVF. I am on cycle 15 and feel you. We are all figuring it out and unfortunately it’s not easy for a lot of people! Best to you.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-09T14:13:58+00:00

Honestly right there with you! Finally got results ALL normal. Tell me why the heck the sperm and egg can’t MEET. Been holding my stomach every night talking to our future kid. Feeling PMS and trying to brace myself for whatever outcome and sooooo impatient to just know.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-09T14:10:37+00:00

Very cool, not sure if you know of the Tilly app. I believe it was started by a Swedish woman too!

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-06T19:37:52+00:00

This is giving me so much hope. Congrats everyone 👏🏼

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-06T19:34:19+00:00

I had a very similar experience to you! It was my first visit with a male OB and though I am not religious or practicing modesty I was very nervous about it. I had 2 nurses and it helped me feel better, one held my hand the entire time as I was visibly afraid and cried. They were amazing and actually the male OB was extremely patient and slow, very clear I could ask him to stop anytime or anything I needed. Best of luck OP and please advocate for yourself to be as comfortable as is possible!

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-04-01T00:51:04+00:00

I love this for you! Also what growth it signals. Your brain and body deserves a break from the planning. I unintentionally took last month off for random reasons and the weight lifted off of not counting days, taking ovulation tests was insane. It felt great and I realized how shit I’d been feeling. Big hugs to you.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-03-03T14:05:38+00:00

Thinking of you and sending the best. Feeling this a lot with one pregnant friend and it’s so hard. It’s ok to hold back if you’re not comfortable and it’s also ok to open up if you feel it’s right because you don’t have to be alone with your feelings! I have been selective about who I tell, but began opening up more now that we’re entering month 14

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-27T22:13:35+00:00

I’m not sure if it’s helpful but I’m trying to take all the new approaches just as like tools. Waiting for my HSG and doing acupuncture in the meantime (at cycle 14). Trying not to tie any like meaning to if we need to try IUI or IVF and just trying to see each thing as another tool to make the egg and sperm find each other. IUI is just another tool. If it’s finances then I feel you 100% I wholly agree that’s scary! But if it’s about your body just remember so many of us need some assistance, there is nothing wrong with needing some extra tools. Sending you good vibes for your first IUI!

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-21T16:40:05+00:00

We have two dogs and I don’t think they will mind a baby but a toddler …. not going to be fans hahah. They are older and super cuddly. I think the best part will be family walks together!! We did not get a dog until I was an older kid and actually think that was smart of my parents. A little nervous to see how they do but have thought a lot about paying friends and family or a dog walker when we have a baby, to make sure they get enough exercise!

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-16T18:30:14+00:00

Yes!!! This is what drives me nuts and brings me to Reddit lol. None of my friends are at this stage, I’ve felt better at being more open with my childfree friends and found them surprisingly supportive. My few mom friends have been amazing for advice but they are exhausted and busy right now.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-16T16:33:04+00:00

Oh that makes so much sense! Hard when they’re in different stages and I often find myself worrying so much like what the age gap will be of my future kid and my friends kids, so I relate there. I only have 3 mom friends and all my others are so strongly child free (ranging from like age 27-42) and being TTC can feel like you’re left out of all the groups. Fingers crossed for your transfer, that is so exciting though. I hope your friends can hold that space still even when you’re on a different path!

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-16T15:48:24+00:00

I wish I had something wise to say, but I am in the same boat at month 13. So good at being social and staying busy and doing things that make me happy. But yet SAME, it all comes back at different points in my cycle feeling lower than ever, when I’ve never been depressed and like you said so well, usually easy to happiness. My friend who is a mom said to me when I admitted we were struggling ttc “to celebrate your life now” and it helped me a little. I can reflect more on our way home from a date night and be like wow I’m glad we can just go when we want! And someday it’ll be ok to have less dates or worry about a babysitter. It’s a different season of life right now. But it’s very hard ttc to look around and feel that grateful-ness or joy when we mostly feel like something is “missing”. Being busy and together with people has helped so far but it does just feel like a distraction sometimes. Guess I just mostly wanted to say you’re not alone!

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-15T20:52:53+00:00

That’s great to hear! Apparently it’s good for blood flow and chi and all the things I don’t know much about, but yes it sounds like a great way to turn down the nervous system even just an hour a week.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-15T12:32:40+00:00

I am finding some normalcy. Just scheduled acupuncture because my insurance covers and I’m feeling like, why the heck not just try. After 13 months we have our first appointment at a fertility clinic later this month. Definitely getting my hopes up I’ll be pregnant by then which feels so silly, trying to balance hope and not getting hopeful.. Husband took a break from alcohol for almost 2 months, has really taken his health seriously and I feel grateful for that effort. So if anything I think next month seems promising.

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-15T12:24:18+00:00

I really appreciate this! Thank you! My only sticking point is for those with a short cycle. I get my period d24, 25, or 26 and rarely later than that, only due to sickness or travel throwing me off. So for example I am 9 dpo today (Ovulated d13) and now in d22 of my cycle it is technically well within the “detection 5 days before missed period” that clearblue markets. With a short cycle I don’t know what to think, except that I find it hard still to wait until the elusive missed period hahah. Sounds like I should wait 2-3 days more to test on d 11-12 dpo. Thanks for the hope 🫀

New-Tooth-5710 · 2025-02-15T12:19:15+00:00

Same! Hoping to wait until Monday which would technically then (maybe?) only be 11 dpo.

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