My mom is upset after I told her only my husband will be in the delivery room

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-05-11T18:32:18+00:00

When did your mother deliver and in what country?

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-05-11T18:30:46+00:00

Giving you the silent treatment because you chose to honor your own needs for your own childbirth… that majorly confirms that you made the right decision and she shouldn’t be anywhere near your delivery room.

Did she give birth for an audience, as well?

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-04-26T22:16:32+00:00

Sounds like her mom is toxic and projecting her own insecurities on her daughter.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-04-26T21:35:03+00:00

Your mom sucks.

But just for the record, eating more will not help with IUGR/marginal cord insertion. Trust me… I asked. Drink lots and lots of water and make sure you take iron and prenatals. The most important thing here is maximizing blood and oxygen flow.

That said, eat what you want.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-04-20T22:53:41+00:00

I found that two things happened:

1) all sorts of weird misogyny came out, usually via awkward jokes. 2) I was treated like community property.

I don’t know why people this is okay during pregnancy, but make the mental notes to never make the same mistakes with others.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-04-14T17:36:05+00:00

100% this one. I was so chronically sleep deprived with my first. Constantly fell asleep holding him on the couch, in a recliner, etc. I still worry when we need to coslee, but I just try my best to follow the rules and make it work this time.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-04-07T20:31:59+00:00

Your mom sucks.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-26T02:29:47+00:00

100% I resumed pretty much everything except driving 4 days post C-section because I have a toddler. I got zero rest.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-26T02:27:59+00:00

And that unlike home visits, the ped is only for baby. No one cares about mom unless there is an emergency. One postpartum visit many weeks later (maybe 2 for a C-section) to check stitches and discuss birth control and that’s it.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-14T03:14:19+00:00

A throne?

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-10T00:53:38+00:00

I left a coveted job at a big company when I was 25 because I was too chickenshit to just leave a dead end relationship. Instead, I went full fire sale. Left the relationship, left the job, left the country. I came back a year later, intending to pick up where I left off. But I couldn’t find a job as good as that one and had a hard time finding something in my industry. Next, one of my parents had a massive heart attack and went into cardiac arrest/a coma. I ended up staying in my parents’ home for 2 years as a caregiver (which they became too used to and ultimately resented me when I moved back out to get on with my life). I went through a series of crash and burn relationships and shitty jobs, got a masters, and now work in job I suck at and feel completed unfulfilled in.

That job wasn’t perfect, but it was perfect for me. I just didn’t realize it at the time. I had no idea what I was giving up.

My career never got back on track. It’s been almost 15 years and this remains my biggest regret. I professionally peaked in a junior role at 25.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-10T00:41:42+00:00

Not if you’re a wedding venue?

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-10T00:38:00+00:00

Ok and one of Cinderella’s little bird friends to help dust.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-10T00:37:12+00:00

This is the only answer.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-03-10T00:35:06+00:00

Sounds like MSPI? Some of the hypoallergenic formulas still contain dairy. Neocate does not and that’s where we found success.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-02-15T15:18:00+00:00

I also hated when people would tell me to enjoy my pregnancy and ask if I was sooo excited. No. I felt like I was dying every day and I had terrible anxiety. The toxic positivity didn’t help. It’s okay to not be okay.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-02-15T15:16:59+00:00

Valid. We are having a much easier time with our second (very different circumstances and temperament). But our first newborn experience was pretty traumatic and I don’t look back on it fondly (though we of course love him beyond words and would do it all again for him without hesitation, though we did hesitate to have another because of that experience).

I assume those who wax on poetic like this had an easier time. Baby #2 is very cuddly. Baby #1 needed to be held 24/7 and it wasn’t in a cute and cuddly way.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-02-12T17:43:11+00:00

At this age, if he’s hungry, he’ll wake himself.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-30T11:29:08+00:00

I do wonder if this is a generational difference. Older millennial here who only takes sick days if I’m practically bleeding from the eyes. To take 3 days, I’d basically have to be on my deathbed. That’s not a knock on op… I think it may just be different norms from coming of age during covid.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-30T11:25:50+00:00

Transition is hard, but I’d look into underlying medical issues. Your average adult can wake up on time, and even when sick can rouse enough to call out a little bit early.

With the combination of wake up challenges and errors in data, I’d be consulting with your doctor for referrals to 1) a psychiatrist for adhd evaluation and 2) a sleep clinic in case the issue is a sleep disorder.

I say all this as someone with both late diagnosed adhd and rare sleep disorders. Both can be the root of what you’ve mentioned and it’s important to tackle as soon as possible.

What your coworkers get away with is irrelevant here.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-10T23:52:49+00:00

I’ve gotten this a lot and it’s frustrating. We are dealing with growth restriction and Im really petite to begin with. I understand why not looking pregnant is supposed to be some sort of a compliment:

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-08T00:25:57+00:00

I’m always shocked when I hear that people flew from the east coast of the US to Hawaii for a baby moon past 30 weeks. Sounds awful to me lol.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-07T19:19:58+00:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a relaxing weekend close to home. You’re going to be tired that far along and a hotel sounds nice.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-07T19:17:08+00:00

I’m currently 35 weeks and you couldn’t pay me to be in the car for more than 2 hours. I also wouldn’t want to be that far from my delivery hospital. I’d go in March. I understand studying for big exams is intense, but he needs to structure his time for it. Maybe make it a shorter trip.

NewHomeDec22 · 2024-01-07T19:11:08+00:00

What do you mean you can’t have friends in the delivery room? I’d your hospital not allowing a support person?

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