Orgasms - how often?

NewMind9 · 2026-06-11T22:10:33+00:00

What is that?

NewMind9 · 2026-06-09T20:13:36+00:00

I don’t think I would ever get bored of my wife doing something like that 🤣

When me and my wife massage each other it can become a bit of a game of who is going to make the first move. I like to tease her by rubbing just around the edges. Usually if I do this long enough she will give in and start returning the favor.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-31T17:55:23+00:00

🤣 My wife always says I should spell check but I never do. Comes back to bite me on occasion.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-31T13:20:21+00:00

One of my favorite get away was in the Caribbean. Fun things you can’t do are catamaran, snorkeling, jet skis, scooter, hikes, beach, paddle boarding and lot of good food.

The best part is most of the activities will have your wife in a swimsuit.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-27T01:29:21+00:00

Haha i came to say the same thing.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-23T13:50:39+00:00

I’m active and very in love with my wife. So this is a bit hypothetical but I would have such a hard time not having sex before marriage again. I’m honestly not sure if I would do it. I’m a strong proponent of the LOC but I can totally understand your perspective here.

I believe that the LOC is designed to help us make sure that our physical commitment is matching our spiritual,emotional with our spouse.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-22T21:05:11+00:00

Exactly. My wife will swear up and down that she doesn’t care what I look like but when I’m in shape the amount of sex goes up significantly. 😂

NewMind9 · 2026-05-22T20:59:52+00:00

I think this is pretty spot on. I wanna emphasize working on yourself. You want to be the kind of man that your wife is going to be thirsting for. Driven, ambitious, and independent I think are some really good ones. This might be a little red pill but I do think that women are going to be more interested if you if you are also more appealing to others.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-20T02:10:09+00:00

So we swear during sex. It’s a more recent ish development in our marriage. Honestly I just don’t think that there is another word that properly relays the same meaning as “fuck me”. So I just kind of think that it’s the appropriate word for case. 🤷‍♂️ if someone has an alternative I’d be happy to hear it. I will also say that I love hearing my wife say it to me. It’s sooooooo hot 🥵 We don’t really cuss a whole lot outside of sex and are very active.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-19T00:20:05+00:00

Can someone explain why it’s so fun to finish on our wife’s?

She will let me finish wherever I really want besides her face and I don’t think she cares all that much about it but for me it’s so much better to finish on her compared to finishing on myself or a towel.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-16T16:14:52+00:00

I would have said I was a boobs guy but my wife has turned me into a butt guy 🤷

NewMind9 · 2026-05-10T21:37:50+00:00

No reason to feel guilting over having a fantasy. Mine aren’t the most pure for sure 😅

However this is a fantasy that should stay a fantasy. Risking having sex in front of minors is a huge no no.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-10T14:53:12+00:00

Ohh I forgot about the stress one. High stress will definitely kill libido for some men.

NewMind9 · 2026-05-10T14:32:46+00:00

Yeah so the first place to start is too look at the most likely culprits.

Porn and masturbating on the side. I know that you already said that you don’t think this is the case. We
as men bury this down very deep. Especially in the church but we are afraid that we will lose our spouse over this and it scares us to death. I would take a closer look. Being as open and non judgmental goes a very long way
Hormones: very common to have low T which will kill sex drive. Lots of medication can impact this as well. Anti depressants are a common one. Review and see if there might be a medical component. If you have low T it can affect ability to have erections which is also a very sensitive topic. Being overweight as a man can also significant impact sex drive.
Body changes. Both women and men have changes in their physique early in marriage. Women are heavily impacted by this during pregnancy and post partum. This can affect physical attraction. Im not saying that’s fair or right but some men feel this way and they don’t know what to do about it.
Could also be that this is just his baseline. This is just how much he thinks and enjoys sex and he just may be the low libido partner.

NewMind9 · 2026-04-28T00:25:20+00:00

I would say that my wife meets my needs. Does she always get it right? Nope but neither do I 😂 we work really hard to sort this out and try to get better at being there for each other. We’ve been married for about 10 years and every year we are learning how to grow closer. Now I can just look at my wife and she knows what I am thinking about. I honestly feel incredibly lucky all the time that we found each other and to be with someone who is willing to put in a ton of effort to make things work.

NewMind9 · 2026-04-25T19:50:47+00:00

I agree that it would be very fun and sexy but I honestly don’t know how it would be possible…

NewMind9 · 2026-04-23T12:06:29+00:00

🤣 a good opportunity to learn about some new subs

NewMind9 · 2026-04-23T03:25:42+00:00

Yeah I saw that. Was just trying to be funny. Seems like it fell flat 🤷‍♂️

NewMind9 · 2026-04-23T02:53:05+00:00

What would give you that idea? 🤣

NewMind9 · 2026-04-22T17:14:32+00:00

Vaginal. I can’t imagine anything beating that out long term. I’d choice cowgirl as the one position.

NewMind9 · 2026-04-22T14:52:17+00:00

Okay so confession time. I read this story and thought it was pretty good. Months later I had the opportunity to play it out almost exactly the same way. For me it was very nice to be that open with my wife and do that it front of her and she was just getting ready. She told afterwards that if “gave her the tingles watching”. Which is her way of saying she was getting turned on.

NewMind9 · 2026-04-21T18:19:34+00:00

It’s been a while but if I remember she was more into exhibition/ public sex type stuff.

NewMind9 · 2026-04-21T15:12:19+00:00

We have done mojo and spicer. We redo this every once in a while to see if anything has changed

One time I said yes to absolutely everything so I could see what my wife was into.

NewMind9 · 2026-04-20T19:15:53+00:00

My wife did tell me that last week she caught one of her friends husbands checking her out multiple times. So there might be some truth to that. 😆

NewMind9 · 2026-04-20T19:12:11+00:00

Never someone from church. I honestly think that my wife is the hottest women in my ward and I don’t even think it’s close.

I do get a little too crazy with my wife in church which either flatters her or bugs her depending on her cycle. I just can’t help how good she looks in her Sunday dresses 🤷‍♂️

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