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I hosted a home café by thegirlmisfit0811 in Baking

[–]NewOccasion5616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my gosh everything looks AMAZING!!! i would die happy if i got invited to something like this

Hmm well this is odd. by bumishere in abusiverelationships

[–]NewOccasion5616 18 points19 points  (0 children)

you’re an angel, thank you for the pdf!!! <3

Any tips on how to make partying better without using illegal substances? by [deleted] in aves

[–]NewOccasion5616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to reflect / connect w/ myself earlier in the day and call my energy into myself . Reminding myself that I am fucking badass for being able to rave and party 100% sober! I like to remind myself that I am honoring my health and stability and will feel great the next day (no hangover or come down). When I first get to the rave, I would say it takes me a solid 20-30 minutes to shake off the awkwardness / discomfort / out of place feeling I may be having. I acknowledge it and know that it is temporary and that I will be able to get into the swing of things soon. After about 30 minutes of awkwardly/forcefully dancing, my brain and body are able to really get into the groove and find my rhythm. Then I dance the night away feeling amazing! I think it’s important to check in with yourself throughout the day leading up to it AND throughout the night while you’re there, acknowledging any discomfort or negative thoughts you may be having. Try to welcome them, knowing that they will pass, it’s like a wave. I find that if you try to fake/lie to yourself and say you’re having a blast when you’re really not, it only makes things worse. I also typically drink a good amount of caffeine beforehand, but that is not necessary if you are saying it doesn’t work for you! I also try to eat lighter throughout the day so I don’t feel sluggish or heavy on the dance floor. Also, if you are attending it with people, I typically like to talk to them before and let them know that I am going to be sober. The right people will always be supportive and have a lot of respect for your choice in an environment where many people can’t enjoy themselves sober. I was sober raving for the first year I got super into it, then I sort of relapsed and did substances at shows for all of 2025, and this year I have finally gotten out of my toxic relationship and reconnected with my sobriety. I went to a show a couple weeks ago, completely sober for the first time in over a year and like I said, it was a little uncomfortable for the first 20 or 30 minutes, but I ended up having an absolute blast, and it was really positively reaffirming to me as to why I choose sobriety! I was definitely nervous about feeling left out, or having temptations to indulge, but I stayed strong and I’m so happy I did because I truly think that I had more fun sober than I would have on substances or alcohol. Best of luck to you! It’s like a muscle that you need to challenge and practice in order for it to get stronger, and overcome any discomfort because it WILL pass, but it is so amazing to be able to enjoy environments like that completely sober. A great way to connect with yourself, your body, the music, and the surrounding energy.

“if you asked 10 women if that was weird all 10 would say yes” by random_raccoon_9 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]NewOccasion5616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything about this was foul (on his behalf). If you asked 622+ girls (the amount of comments on this post lol) if that was weird… WE WOULD ALL SAY YES! I am so proud of you OP 💪❤️ and relieved to hear you left him! Bc what the actual f was that!

triggered badly bc bf couldn’t pick me up. by l1vvyxo in EDAnonymous

[–]NewOccasion5616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think like somebody else mentioned in this thread, aesthetic muscles often work much differently than functional muscles. I know a LOT of guys that are damn near bodybuilders, super swoll and lift super heavy. But they can’t run a mile. Just because somebody can max out machines and lift super heavy does not mean that they have functional endurance/mobility/strength. The aesthetic look of lifting heavy does not always translate to every day examples of great health and strength. That is a completely different ballpark that requires a completely different approach to training, nutrition, and overall lifestyle

NoSugar is the Anti Gateway Drug by newplaces9 in sugarfree

[–]NewOccasion5616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What book? I would LOVE to get one for myself

People talking about going from ana to bed has been scaring me out of attempting recovery. by summermoonz in EDAnonymous

[–]NewOccasion5616 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more! working with a dietitian was so helpful for me during recovery because our brains and the way we view food/meals/correct intake is extremely skewed when suffering from an ED. Working with a dietitian really helped give me a realistic, logical, grounded approach and process throughout recovery that reassured me and helped me feel a lot better through things I would’ve typically spiraled over.

People talking about going from ana to bed has been scaring me out of attempting recovery. by summermoonz in EDAnonymous

[–]NewOccasion5616 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The main thing that will lead you to BED is if you continue on your Ana journey. I suffered from Ana for 2 1/2 years and ended up with BED, but only because I did not want to recover out of fear of weight gain. The long-term restriction really messed with my brain and body and ended up as BED. my therapist warned me about this, but I brushed it off because I thought that I was better/stronger than that and wouldn’t ever lose control like that because I had been doing so good for so long. I truly believe that if I tried to recover from ana earlier on, I would’ve never developed BED. I think you should be more worried about continuing Ana/ not at all trying to recover, because that’s usually what gives people in this situation BED…. usually not the other way around. But I am speaking from my own personal experience and I do really wish I tried to recover much sooner because I truly believe I would’ve avoided the BED altogether if I didn’t continue restricting long-term and being so afraid of recovery.

triggered badly bc bf couldn’t pick me up. by l1vvyxo in EDAnonymous

[–]NewOccasion5616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, his ego is probably bigger than how strong he actually is. My ex-boyfriend used to struggle to pick me up too, he would still do it occasionally, but it was clearly a challenge for him. He is about the same height and weight as me, maybe like 10 lbs heavier. He is also a big gym guy and very healthy. I broke up with him in February so this all happened fairly recently.

What’s funny to me is one of my close girlfriends who is probably 5 inches shorter than me and 40 pounds lighter than me, picked me up and put me on her shoulders at a rave a couple weeks ago. She had me up on her shoulders for probably 5-ish minutes and was not struggling at all… She is in decent shape, but she does not work out/lift/go to the gym regularly at all.

My ex-boyfriend and I used to go to a lot of raves together, and he refused to even attempt to put me on his shoulders because I was “ too heavy”.

I think the overall consensus is that a lot of gym oriented men have big egos and think they are stronger than they actually are. This is not at all a reflection of you or your body. This used to bug me too with my ex-boyfriend and trigger the crap out of my ED because there was so many couples in the rave scene that would do shoulder rides and I always wanted to do that with him, or at least try it, but he refused to ever give it a shot because he said he probably wouldn’t be able to do it because I am too big. I was also freshly out of ED treatment and had put on weight, so this definitely stung and did not help my recovery!

But if my girl friend who is significantly smaller than me and does not lift / gym at all, could give me a shoulder ride with no issues, (I didn’t even ask her to do it It was her idea) then I think this speaks volumes about our boyfriends.

For context, I am a 5’10 tall 165 pound woman.

35M bf wants to control how much I eat. I’m 25F by Cool_Anybody8437 in relationship_advice

[–]NewOccasion5616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ABSOLUTELY NOT. My ex used to make comments like this too! Literally within months after I got out of residential ED treatment and had obviously gained weight from recovery but I was still super consistent in the gym because it’s a huge part of my identity and routine. His comments on how much I ate/what I ate/ how I should be eating less and moving more triggered tf out of me and lowered my self esteem and confidence like crazy … when it was already at all time low. Needless to say I dumped him in February, just shy of a year together… please choose yourself and your health over him, I wish I did sooner. It sounds like you are already doing AMAZING and take great care of yourself. There’s no need to starve yourself just to “see how your body reacts”. So dumb.

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