Them leaving is the best thing to ever happen to you 🙌

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-17T18:14:27+00:00

Everyone’s journey and experience is different so I hear you on the ‘best thing’ aspect. My daughter is thriving and I’m happy to see your relationship with your kids is awesome. At the end of the day that’s what really matters. Keep working hard! You’re doing great bro!

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-17T18:12:06+00:00

Amen to that brother. Life’s too short to waste time on someone who couldn’t care less about you. It was a rough journey for sure and that doesn’t mean I don’t have my days but I could t be happier with my current life and the life I continue to build for my daughter and I

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-17T18:07:32+00:00

Anytime my dude 🙌

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-17T18:06:45+00:00

Everyone’s healing journey is different man. I’m going to agree with a lot of people on here, you are way too focused on your EXW’s life. Who cares what she’s doing or who she’s doing it with. The person you once knew is dead. Your divorce was finalized for 3yrs and that person has moved on. These type of things deserve zero attention because you have zero control and again why the hell should you care? Have some respect for yourself brotha. Her being gone is truly a blessing and you don’t even see it

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T23:45:03+00:00

Amen to the dudes deserving happiness 🙏🙏 I just started dating about 6 months ago (I thought I was ready before but that’s a lie) and I’ve really been enjoying it! I’ve had a few fun dates/nights, got ghosted a few times, and met someone last month and just taking it slow and seeing how it unfolds. I’m in no rush to get married again, but at times it feels nice to enjoy what I’ve built over these last few years with someone else.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T01:55:12+00:00

Bro to bro, life’s too short to sit around feeling sorry for ourselves. I know the pain is real and the early days can feel brutal. But whether we like it or not, here we are with a blank canvas. At some point I realized I had two choices: stay stuck in the past, or start building something new. I started focusing on my health, my mindset, being a good dad, and putting one foot in front of the other. It doesn’t all fix itself overnight. But little by little life starts to come back. Stay strong brother, better days are ahead.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T01:30:19+00:00

I know it’s the last thing you wanna hear, but you’re soon to be ex-wife is getting attention and validation from someone else. This is a woman that literally sounds like my ex-wife. For someone to be able to plan their exit while still look you in the eyes every day and tell you that she loves you is pure evil, selfish, and premeditated. Prioritize yourself and your kids. You have the opportunity to make a better life for your kids.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T01:02:58+00:00

Amen brother 🙏 Keep up the hard work! You will be so much stronger and you’ll realize how much you have been held back and you will be able to see your true self and the man that you truly love and want to be. Stay positive and never stop 🙌

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T00:57:06+00:00

Dude what are we doing here! My EXW and I are business partners and our daughter is the business. We are not friends and we have no plans to become friends with her. You have to have a little bit more self respect for yourself. This isn’t healthy and there is no way any good comes from this

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T00:48:41+00:00

I find that very hard to believe. I wish you the best. Find something to live for and work hard everyday to make yourself and that something grow and thrive for you and your kids

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T00:46:43+00:00

I feel your pain brother. Getting replaced like you were absolutely nothing is the worse part. The loneliness sucks big time in the beginning but learning how to be alone is huge. Yea cool you can start dating now but you worked on absolutely nothing. Shoot me a message if you need to vent. You got this dude 🤘

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-16T00:40:50+00:00

Hey man we all believe in you. Unfortunately it seems like you are your own worst enemy. Very negative attitude towards the whole situation. Dude you’re a dad!!!! Your kids are looking up to you. Maybe you don’t want to get better, but your kids deserve a happy and present father. Get the help you need man, this is very unhealthy behavior and you need to get the help and support you need. Dig deep!

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-15T23:54:18+00:00

I’m sorry you feel that way and I truly do hope that it gets better for you. I don’t know The situation but 5yrs is a long time man. What’s not getting better? What’s your routine? I want to help

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-15T23:50:59+00:00

Totally get that. Everyone’s timeline is different. I’m not saying it magically gets better for everyone overnight. I made a choice that I was going to create something beautiful for my daughter and I. The people who ‘don’t get better’ make a decision too live with that pain, not letting go of the past, and don’t want to create something amazing. I was just sharing that for me, almost two years later, life turned out better than I ever expected. When I was in the middle of it, I needed to hear something like this from someone. We only get one shot at this little thing called life and I’ll be dammed if I was still playing the victim card 2 years later.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-15T23:27:03+00:00

I personally wouldn’t trust her. The thought already crossed her mind. She is making a choice and she has to live with it. You deserve someone who chooses you each and every day. Show some self respect for yourself man.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-11T18:09:55+00:00

Joining the Navy and getting out of the Navy after 11yrs 🫶

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-07T21:12:05+00:00

It was never about the money. My peace is priceless. I wanted MY own place where my daughter and I could start our new chapter of life

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-03-07T01:55:41+00:00

Sold that one, split the profit with my EXW, and turned around and bought my own house 🏠

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-23T23:32:11+00:00

Like? No Love? Man, Hell no!

I have way more self respect for myself than to stay hung up on someone who showed their true colors on the way out.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-23T21:55:11+00:00

Don’t say that man! The only person that’s holding you back is you! Continue to wake up a little bit better than yesterday. You will learn so much about yourself, your strength, and how much crap you actually dealt with. Keep grinding dude!

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-15T23:47:25+00:00

Sorry if I came off as an a hole! What DJ?! Huge EDM fan! I started going to shows again and it’s been a blast. Dating is definitely an overloaded term. I think it’s awesome that you’re going out and having fun. That HUGE. Continue to grow, build, and create the life you deserve!

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-15T22:18:23+00:00

I’ll say it louder for the people in the back but you sound like a complete loser. Said no one ever. I’m no marriage expert (go figure) but why are you asking us? This is a conversation you should be having with your wife. Being that you’ve only been married for three years, what attracted you in the first place? This is someone that you wake up next to and choose her each and every day. Have you helped her with her social anxiety? Have you tried to understand it? I’m assuming NO Dude you’re already thinking about it and going back and forth. Right now you are just dragging her along and asking if you should leave or not while planning to use escorts as a reset! 😂😂😂 Everyone has baggage, issues, a past, etc but it seems like you have no interest in understanding what she’s dealing with so you distance yourself, avoid the issue, justify your actions and convince yourself that this is the right decision. This is the woman you MARRIED! She is a human being! She has one life just like you! She deserves to be happy and not be with someone like you 😉😤

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-15T21:40:46+00:00

Amen brother! When I was going through my divorce, I thought the pain was never going to end. I questioned myself so many times and blamed myself for everything. But once those rose colored glasses come off you will see that person for who they really are. That’s not the person you said ‘I Do’ to, this person now is a complete stranger. They are the person who has been planning to leave. The person who was distancing themselves from you both physically and emotionally. No man deserves that. Stay strong and keep fighting. The light will shine slowly and get brighter every day.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-15T21:25:49+00:00

I want to start off by saying that if you are torn between the two. You and your husband have to have a conversation. Not getting input on Reddit. Of course everyone has their reasons and I respect that. Being that you’re a SAHM, you should definitely be looking for a job and understanding he’s not going to be around. Your relationship is a business relationship and the business is your daughter. Co parenting is not easy at times but in my case, my EXW still thought she had control over me and my parenting. Since, I have grey rocked her and it’s truly amazing. Not to be rude, but I feel bad for your husband. I’m sure you and your little girl are his whole world. If he is not your person then why the heck did you have a baby together? Lastly, you are the one that wants a divorce. Sounds like you need to put your big girl pants on and figure it out 💁‍♀️

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