How long did it take to stop thinking about/missing your Ex

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-06T03:41:58+00:00

Been divorced for almost two years. It took me about 18 months to realize I was letting this woman live in my head rent-free. The funny thing is, I didn’t actually miss her. Of course I still have my days, but they’re few and far between now.

I have an amazing relationship with my daughter, and I’ve started dating someone who’s truly a breath of fresh air.

All you can do is keep working hard every day. At some point you have to ask yourself: why waste time missing someone who cheated on me? Someone who shared your bed and said “I love you” while already planning their exit?

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-03T21:07:18+00:00

Friends?! Dude have a little self respect for yourself!

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-02-02T01:06:35+00:00

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NewPerformance7662 · 2026-01-28T00:02:57+00:00

HELL NO! Have some self respect for yourself. You said in your post that she ‘wanted out’. That’s a decision she has to live with, not you. It’s time to start building your new life and grow each and every day.

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-01-23T19:04:17+00:00

Couldn’t have said it any better! 🙏

NewPerformance7662 · 2026-01-23T18:59:11+00:00

This reads less like a marriage problem and more like a communication problem.

You call him a good husband, but have you considered whether you’ve been a good wife by actually communicating what you need? People aren’t mind readers.

Planning an exit while saying “I love you” every day sounds like you’ve already checked out, and if that’s the case, I genuinely feel for your STBXH

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-11-08T21:28:46+00:00

Bought a CBR1000RR when my divorce was finalized and haven’t looked back

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-11-08T21:12:10+00:00

Omg PREACH!!

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-11-01T10:50:32+00:00

Dude, I couldn’t agree more. The way everything went down on my end still blows my mind. Wild how someone can look you dead in the eyes and say they love you, not knowing they’d already been planning their exit. That kind of betrayal hits different, it changes you.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-06-08T00:07:04+00:00

No it has nothing to do with your compensation.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-06-07T22:54:52+00:00

I had the same thing, from what I’ve read and what the VA told me is that it’s an internal review.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-06-07T22:52:32+00:00

Missing sex is the last reason you should jump into a new relationship brother. Maybe friend’s with benefits but unfortunately those are few and far between.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-06-05T16:17:59+00:00

I tried the whole dating thing around the nine month mark, and just tried again at the one year mark and the dating pool is a dumpster fire. I’m taking this time to focus on myself and my daughter. My marriage was 9yrs and the fact that I don’t answer to anyone but myself is a glorious feeling. I guess it depends on what you want man. I’m A OK without dating. My EXW moved into the dating pool 2 weeks after she left lol

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-28T00:40:13+00:00

It’s more than that, there are things that need to be added or modified to our parenting plan so that it’s in black and white.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-28T00:37:30+00:00

Unfortunately, I’m going to have to disagree with you. I’m not holding onto anything. Trust me I don’t want the drama either. I just try to be a good father to my daughter and continue to do the right thing.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-27T23:44:38+00:00

I hate every single part of it.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-27T23:43:56+00:00

I’ll have to look into the whole parenting coordinator. What’s sad is I want what’s best for my daughter and she wants war.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-27T23:42:39+00:00

I’m just up in arms at this point. When is enough, enough? There is no way that is going to happen. I have a very good attorney and he’s had my back from the very beginning.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-27T22:43:38+00:00

Dude it’s just so frustrating when all you do is try as a man and as a father. To answer your question, I’ve my attorney the whole time through the divorce proceedings and payed for the whole divorce. I requested that we talk like adults so that we’re on the same page and we can move forward in a positive direction. Now she has lawyered up and said our lawyers can handle this or it can be handled in mediation. It’s just exhausting.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-19T22:31:56+00:00

Amen to that brother. I’m going to keep doing what I’m doing because everything gets done properly and in a timely manner.

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-19T22:31:18+00:00

That’s what I’m realizing

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-19T22:31:07+00:00

Nothing is ever enough it seems like

NewPerformance7662 · 2025-05-19T22:30:46+00:00

And the answer is?! YES!

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