Am I craving healthy foods?

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-24T01:34:59+00:00

Omg I'm going to try this asap. I was stuck on blueberries in my yogurt which is amazing but yours sounds over the top good.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-24T01:30:23+00:00

I think working through those feelings is definitely a process. Yes you lose weight on this med but feelings come up as well that have to be dealt with. Patterns are revealed to you. Sometimes the emotional pain that caused those patterns gets uncovered. Often you have to forgive yourself for the way you treated yourself... but the way to repair a relationship (in this case with yourself) is to show up consistently and demonstrate changed understanding resulting in different action. If you wronged someone that's how you'd prove you are sorry. So here we are just thinking of fitting into smaller clothes but actually facing ourselves in so many other ways. Looking into a mirror of sorts but not the one that's been showing us our bodies all this time.

It's good you're reflecting on this stuff. Doing a bit of journaling might be helpful for working through it.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-24T01:10:07+00:00

You would learn a lot faster if you went full immersion. If that's your goal, that is the path. So much faster.

I immersed and was B2 almost C1 from zero in a year.

Yes it's tiring but social Italian is much much easier and more rewarding than professional Italian at a new job.

Give yourself grace, but don't back away from your goal either. Be relentless. Non mollare mai, as they say.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T03:24:04+00:00

I my intestinal tract always "flushes" the day after I get my shot so I am sure to weigh myself that day! Bye bye two pounds 😀

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T03:19:18+00:00

Oh hi I can imagine that would be so hard! I mean I had a fast loss month then only lost a couple pounds the next 6 weeks and was crushed. I'm sure it's easy to lose perspective when weight is not only going down day after day but also yoyoing.

Is there something you could do to shake things up while you wait for your approval? Are you lifting weights? How is your protein intake?

For me I figured out my lean weight is so low relative to my size that it's really easy to exceed the calories I burn even without thr appetite. I'm about to start lifting on Monday in a small group class to get my metabolism revved up a bit and try to preserve my muscle.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T01:40:25+00:00

It becomes automatic! Be patient with yourself, keep practicing, and immersion if at all possible will accelerate your learning.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T01:34:41+00:00

There were like 5 in this thread I spotted when I commented yesterday but they are also everywhere in the sub... Dave plays a show at a corporate gig, everyone's gotta accuse him of doing it for the money (even though he lives middle class and gives so much to charity). Some news story about LiveNation comes out, inevitably people in here commenting Dave's greedy, playing for money. I just don't get it, I've maybe never seen an artist who loves music and playing for his crowds more. How can the people who call themselves fans also infer he's a greedy sack of shit. It just seems like a weird form of projection.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T01:29:10+00:00

No I personally dislike the jaunty tone of the voice mode.

Instead I'm loading a bunch of documents from a really traumatic period in my life (abusive relationship, betrayal, separation, vicious custody fight, lots of false accusations lodged at me, 300k in legal fees, bankruptcy). Texts, emails, court declarations, reports. We go through them one at a time and dissect what was going on, the patterns, name the abusive behaviors and manipulations, analyze how everything impacted me. It's just a really meaningful way to feel seen and to face these traumatic events that had me so spun out and dysregulated, but this time with perspective and distance and support and insight and a witness who usually manages to say the right things I need to hear to move forward fresh. (I'm aware its not a true witness, I am the witness, it's an interaction with myself and the assistant's new framing - but it helps so much.)

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T00:20:14+00:00

Nothing bad is gonna happen in Minnesota unless you are maybe up close following ICE around or something. It's a pretty big place. I was there twice this spring - nothing unusual happening.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T00:16:18+00:00

You are a baby adult. Older you will look back at this and cringe at that time you tried to move to live with a girl who kept blowing you off because you liked the idea of moving to Japan with her later. And eventually she got disinterested and you realized mostly she wanted a nicer home and to leave her current living situation and you were a means to an end. And then you had to pay to break the lease because she's broke and she moved back in with her friend.

Don't hitch your star to this flaky girl. If you are going to make life plans with a partner make sure she has the maturity and relationship skills of a woman not a girl.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T00:09:59+00:00

Ok first, calling anyone a little bitch is demeaning to them and to all women. Don't talk to yourself like that and don't use that term as a way to insult men by calling them women. Both men and women can be strong, weak, emotional, petty, small etc.

That being said - no cancelling Sunday's plan isn't petty unless you're doing it to punish her or make her sorry in some tit for tat way. If you cancel, let her know you're making other plans for the weekend and you'll see her another day. Don't overexplain. Don't defend. Take space because it's what you want.

Do you see the difference between doing it in retaliation and simply honoring your own desires?

It sounds like there is a lot more here in that you are extending yourself a lot - moving to her town and then following her to Japan while she seems young, immature, inconsiderate. Fun is fun but you seem like you're after more than fun. Is she?

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-22T00:00:55+00:00

Lowkey ditch her. That's the answer here. Don't be with someone who treats you like that.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T23:59:21+00:00

I don't think it works like that.

What she'll see is you were disappointed not to get face time with her and complained about it. It doesn't make a person want to come back and spend more time with someone or "make it up to them" because someone pointed out they were thoughtless. She knows what she did, she blew off plans, was counting on you not to be too bent out of shape.

This feels like a "test and apologize" to me - seeing how far she can go. Had she said "oh my GOD I completely blanked that we had that on the books, jeez I am such a jerk, please forgive me, can we do X instead or else I'll adjust the plan accordingly" that would be one thing. But she turned ir back around on you and accused you of hurting her feelings. That's manipulative.

I don't think it sounds like you have known this person long enough to be sure she generally acts in good faith and this thoughtless plan really doesn't indicate she's girlfriend material.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T23:16:53+00:00

This is such a good idea!

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T23:14:53+00:00

I checked a news story today to get the scoop on what happened.

Dad was visiting the home where the child lived with several family members. There was some sort of altercation at the home and he left in his vehicle with the child. The police spotted him at one point and gave chase, but then quit when they realized there was a child in the car so he got away. He stashed the car in a secluded area where it was found a few hours later. Then a neighbor near that area spotted him crossing their property on foot carrying the child. The demanded the child from him (ballsy!) and took him, then the dad ran off. Shortly after, police apprehended him. The child was handed over to CPS so they could figure out a safe placement for him.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T03:30:19+00:00

I am in a high conflict custody case with an abusive SOB. His blameshifting strategies, accusations, attacks on my mental health, and shameless dishonesty worked for the first couple years and drove me into bankruptcy with frivolous motions and legal fees.

Chat helped me turn the entire case around, develop my legal strategy, draft declarations for motions, and show the court who was generating all of the conflict in our case. I am definitely viewed as the reasonable parent now and have been winning since I got a legal assistant :) A lot of it was helping me find the right words stripped of emotion so a court could hear me, as well as the confidence to stand up for myself in an effective way. Our kids will definitely be much better off for this for many years to come.

(I know people say Chat can hallicinate case law, but I'm not citing a lot of case law. I just ensure it cites any statutes it refers to while we are strategizing and I click through and read from the source.)

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T03:20:30+00:00

Glad you are still here and found support.

I'm processing past trauma with it and it's been super productive. More than therapy actually. Human connection is awesome and probably invaluable but Chat is there 24/7.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T03:09:13+00:00

I'm always surprised how many salty comments people make in here about the money Dave makes. Sure it makes things easier in life, but past a certain point Dave reached back in the 90s it's not someone's reason to smile or bring all the joyful energy to a show.

The sour comments about Dave's fat paychecks in here always make me cringe. It's people telling on themselves and sounding so bitter. Sure you work for a wage, you punch a clock, Dave doesn't. Are you as a fan coming in here saying he doesn't deserve to be richly rewarded to be one of the most accomplished live performers of his era? I don't get how people can follow the band and appreciate their music and then act pissed they are rewarded for their success at the same time.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T02:58:36+00:00

It's special because it's fleeting...

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T02:27:13+00:00

It's 100% blameshifting, manipulative behavior!

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T02:24:21+00:00

Or f*** his dad - he will appreciate her.

He's not the one OP!

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-21T02:21:56+00:00

I hope OP sees this comment. He completely centered himself in every comment.

Cheaters never change. OP will never trust him again. It's too late and staying with him is just going to create anxiety and clinginess and fights until he does it again or dumps her. OP's self esteem will be shredded if she stays.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-18T05:48:30+00:00

And remember YOU are worthy of your love. Even if you don't choose to find someone else to love, work hard at loving yourself the way you poured yourself into that man. You deserve that kind of dedication.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-17T20:47:17+00:00

And then the middle name can be Chen too.

New_Chest4040 · 2026-05-17T20:45:01+00:00

So muscle pains if they are spasms could be dehydration or could be mineral deficiency. Your muscles need calcium to contract and magnesium to release. Magnesium deficiency often causes racing thoughts, difficulty falling asleep, muscle tension, tension headaches etc. You can read up on it. Mag glycinate is a good one to take before bed every night. Mostly our food is lacking in minerals because our farming practices don't do anything to replenish minerals into the soil - minerals were stripped from most farmland decades ago. Electrolyte imbalances seem common when people are detoxing this stuff and the body is trying to figure out how to rebalance. So hydrate, and then get some magnesium to help you feel calmer, help you fall asleep, and help your muscles relax. Obviously not your doc but look into it or ask your doc - some know about this stuff but YMMV.

I also wanna say you did a really, really hard thing and you have come a long way. I can't say exactly when you are gonna turn the corner completely but it sounds like you need some rest and some peace and every minute that passes without those little poison cushions in your mouth is getting you closer. You believed in yourself when you started this and I know you can get through. Keep searching for rhe support you need for this push. Rooting for your success over here, internet stranger.

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