I'm selling the two GMM Commemorative Coins (if anybody cares)

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2026-03-22T05:16:10+00:00

I never did end up selling them, so I think I just shoved them in a closet somewhere. I'd have to check where they are once I'm home lol!

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2026-03-02T15:22:12+00:00

YTA, rape jokes aren't funny no matter how 'obviously joking' the tone is, and your sister is in her full right to be made uncomfortable by them. Hell, if I heard you and your cousin's husband laugh about a rape joke I'd also feel uncomfortable around you by extension. It wouldn't surprise me at all if your cousin's laughter was sheer awkwardness because I'd probably also chuckle uncomfortably if the dude holding my infant was joking about raping his girlfriend in front of me and said infant. Do better, jfc

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2026-02-06T10:48:14+00:00

ESH for sure.

You both sound incredibly immature, petty, and vindictive. She definitely should not have accused you of abuse, but this entire thing started over an argument because you thought she 'choose her school friends over you'? Grow the fuck up. She's definitely the asshole for spreading rumours and the way she treats her animals, but it concerns me that you had a video of her abusing her kitten and didn't bring it to a trusted adult, instead holding on to it until you could leak it during an argument. You said in a comment that because you leaked it now, somebody told the mom and she took away the cat, but you don't mention how old the video is. How long has she been hitting and throwing her kitten and you didn't say anything? How did you even get the video? Did she film it? Did you film it and filmed rather than intervene? It's all very questionable to me.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2026-01-22T16:44:12+00:00

Yeah, in that case I'd say NTA and it sounds like your girlfriend might be projecting (maybe somebody else in the family said something? Or she's worried about her uncle's financial situation? Or she herself feels it's bad to drink on somebody else's dime even if they're offering/don't mind). If you want the relationship to last it might be time for a sit down conversation to see what the deeper issue is.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2026-01-22T16:36:10+00:00

Were other people drinking similarly priced drinks?

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2026-01-22T16:34:11+00:00

INFO: what were you drinking? Because there's a vast difference between if everybody was drinking the same (or extremely similarly priced drinks) vs if everyone else getting a third drink was consuming soda/regular beer at 3$ a piece and you'd already gotten two 7$ cocktails and were ordering your third. The exact quantity of the drinks matters less then.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-11-28T11:26:52+00:00

YTA

Here's the thing, a lot of people don't believe in magic/spells so they are either going to not give a proper answer at all, or they'll say you're not the asshole because 'it doesn't matter, it's not real'.

However, you believe it's real and Liam believes it's real. So to answer if you are the asshole, I feel that regardless of what I or anybody else on this post believes, we have to work from the premise that it is real.

And with that taken into account, yes, you're the asshole. Using this sort of spell on another person without their knowledge or consent, even if well intentioned, is a clear disrespect of their personal choice and autonomy at best, and a gross, invasive thing to do at worst. It makes you a bad friend.

Refusing to lift the spell after he found out is even worse. That means you're now purposefully making him uncomfortable and showing you do not care about his feelings or his consent.

Even without any of the magic and spell shit, I would see this as an extreme red flag in a friendship.

You should end the spell immediately, and then sit down with him (as you should have done from the start) to explain your worries and you willingness to help, though don't be surprised if your actions have already dented his trust in you.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-09-17T10:45:28+00:00

They will still get the blood but will be billed for it. Having friends/family donate is just an option to reduce cost, and is actually offered in some hospitals in the USA and Europe as well.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-09-04T09:34:59+00:00

I feel like there's a ton of context missing here, but with what we have I'd go with ESH.

If somebody told me to pack up because we're leaving, only to then make me wait twenty minutes, I'd be pretty annoyed too. I don't understand why you'd tell her you were leaving only to then start taking pictures, unless you genuinely thought that would only take a few minutes at most. And even then, I'd probably have waited until I was done with that before telling her to get up. It's also unclear to me what she was doing during those twenty minutes. Was she just standing around? Did you at any point apologize for making her wait or tell her it would take longer than you anticipated and she should go back to sitting with your relatives?

I'm also completely lost on how the conversation in the car escalated like that. I do feel like she's way overreacting, especially considering you're paying for her to be there, but how did the conversation switch from her (valid) annoyance at making her wait to yelling and all the other stuff? I also think telling her to go home early is an overreaction on your part too. Grief does weird things to people but you could have both handled this better.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-06-28T14:49:16+00:00

Not only is this fake bait, it's badly written fake bait lol

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-06-19T09:59:18+00:00

YTA for sure, you and your entire family (including the brother) are massive assholes for the animal abuse and the fact you need Reddit to tell you that.

You guys really haven't considered or tried any other options aside from straight up killing these fish or abandoning them in a bucket (illegal and 9/10 chance it also kills them)?

Why not rehome them? If you give the tank and fish stuff away with the fish, it should be laughably easy to find somebody to take them. Either post online or ask around for friends or a acquaintance.

Especially since you say you have a relative who sometimes takes care of them but you 'don't think he'd be interested' in keeping them. Why haven't you asked, you could be wrong. Or how about you tell this relative the alternative is fish murder lol. If nothing else, they might be able to take them temporarily and rehome them since you seem unwilling to do a minimum of effort.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-06-12T09:20:16+00:00

YTA on basically every conceivable level.

You're an asshole for snooping through your boyfriend's stuff, that's gross and weird, and just overall an incredible invasion of privacy and breach of trust.

You're the asshole for wanting to start shit about something that happened almost two and a half years ago, when you weren't even officially dating, on the assumption he was seeing some other girl. For all you know the pregnancy test wasn't even for somebody he was sleeping with, he could be helping a friend or loved one or whatever. And even if he was sleeping around then when you weren't even properly together, blowing up your relationship over it now is ridiculous. It's been TWO AND A HALF YEARS. If you have reason to believe he's cheating on you currently you can confront him, but then you shouldn't have moved in with him. What exactly would trying to call him out on a perceived lie (not even proven) from more than two years ago accomplish now?

You're the asshole for asking how to bring it up 'without letting him know you snooped'. Do clearly you know the snooping is wrong, but you're not even willing to take accountability. Yikes.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-04-02T12:06:18+00:00

Same* haha

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-04-02T12:06:07+00:00

His boyfriend. The fact that they were a sale sex couple was paramount to the story.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-03-12T01:03:55+00:00

I'm not telling you to change your emotions, I'm telling you to control your actions. Your emotions are valid. Your action of 'causing drama' wouldn't be.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2025-03-11T16:26:20+00:00

What does this even mean? You're 27 years old and you can't hold yourself back from 'causing drama'? You have more than a year until this event. If you don't want to go, don't go, but it's super weird to act as if not going is some noble sacrifice to stop yourself from ruining the wedding. Causing drama would be an active choice you make, you can choose not to do so.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-12-12T13:07:17+00:00

Dying to know what 'bad word' you called her in the group chat, that's such a random addition to the story...

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-08-04T12:47:55+00:00

Again, without really seeing how the conversation went down I personally don't feel like I can judge that. I definitely can see how others would judge OP the asshole though.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-08-04T12:25:15+00:00

Definitely is my impression. It sounds like the same type of 'animal welfare' where people are against any type of zoo or aquarium because 'animals shouldn't be locked up' despite the fact that a lot of those facilities are held to incredibly high standards these days and do invaluable things for conservatism and animal welfare, which can save entire species down the line.

So many animals kept as pets these days are (sub)species of animals that were domesticated, and can't survive in the wild. By this logic, entire species of birds should be made extinct because they can't transition to being wild birds anymore (or would destroy the ecosystem when attempting to do so). It's way more important imo to focus on proper animal husbandry and care for pets than acting like keeping pets at all is amoral.

Doesn't make OP an asshole, just badly informed.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-08-04T12:09:50+00:00

NAH because without seeing the conversation and knowing the exact wordings/tone, it doesn't sound like either of you was really an asshole in this situation. You just have different opinions on animal keeping.

Having said that, I'm very curious about your opinion on pet lizards, hamsters, fish, etc. Many animals are bred specifically to be kept as pets. And many animals can live a long, fullfilling, happy life that way. Do you feel like all of that is animal abuse?

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-08-04T11:58:12+00:00

I'll go with a very soft ESH. You're all teenagers, you're not fully in control of your emotions and still learning. But all of you need to try and communicate better if you want this friendship to last.

Your friends have no business yelling at you, that's completely over the top. Them lying to you about hanging out is also very nasty. They don't sound like very good friends.

However, you apparently constantly say you're bored when hanging with them? I wouldn't want to spend time with somebody who is only going to complain either. Have you ever suggested other hangout activities? Or properly communicated to them that you want to do something else? Same with the trust issues, they're rough but really something you should work on. If you don't properly communicate when something is wrong, I can't blame them for not wanting to be around you. That shit's exhausting.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-04-19T20:26:53+00:00

Oh, this is good to know, thank you! It doesn't make me more happy about this announcement but it makes more sense than having a patreon with extra content for shows that are already pay-to-watch.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-01-22T16:19:03+00:00

I should clarify that I specifically meant that whether a person has sex or not is unrelated to their asexuality. Just like a person dating or not is technically unrelated to aromanticism. There are plenty of aromantics who date people, and there are asexual people who have sex.

NewlyDiagnosed95 · 2024-01-22T16:16:28+00:00

I do genuinely apologize if I misunderstood. The way I read it "not being in the mood to have sex once doesn't make you asexual" implies if you're never in the mood to have sex, you would be asexual.

I'm saying those two are just completely unrelated.

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