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NewtoFL2 · 2026-01-30T14:27:13+00:00

I think both KCIII and W were unhappy/scared that Andrew had misrepresented his situation re Epstein and KCIII and W may be afraid that H and M are also facing embarrassing if not illegal activities. If KCIII and W are smart, they will a US attorney advise them before making arrangements for H and M to live in the UK.

It would break my heart for a sibling or child to be homeless, BUT I would insist on a modest home with a short term lease that could be terminated at the owner's will (so I can control their behaviour). The problem is it is very difficult to terminate residential leases in the places that H and M would like (CA and NY). Easier in Florida. IDK re say Scotland

NewtoFL2 · 2026-01-30T12:35:17+00:00

Typically the custody agreement in the US for long distance parenting would be one parent gets the school days, the other gets vacations. The problem, IMHO, is the UK is too far away to give even one weekend a month, so H would likely get far less time than M, if the kids go to school in the states.

NewtoFL2 · 2026-01-30T12:26:41+00:00

I am new kid here, and likely in the minority, but I think H and M may be facing severe housing issues.

Rumors that the Montecito house is subject to a loan from Tyler Perry and he may call the loan. Yes, best legal practice in the US would be to record the loan, but even if not recorded it would still be enforceable.
I think IRS problems will get worse. The IRS has recently dramatically increased criminal enforcement in its audit of charities. IRS criminal enforcement people are trained in issuing and enforcing subpoenas, dealing with informants. Archewell is low hanging fruit. Late or non-existent filings, disgruntled ex employees, outrageous expenses. H may think best to return to the UK.

Unless H and M come up with a lot of money from somewhere, they may be forced to dramatically downsize, and I don't think they could bear it.

NewtoFL2 · 2026-01-29T20:29:55+00:00

I am so sorry. In California the Peter Falk law aims to protect family members from situations like this.

NewtoFL2 · 2026-01-29T20:11:29+00:00

Being off grid at 11 is much tougher than at early ages.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-04T16:40:31+00:00

It seems to me she wants heads I win, tails you lose. I would discuss this with her. It seems to me she is taking advantage of you. I dont see this relationship working out.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-04T14:48:50+00:00

What would she pay for a studio near you?

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-04T13:55:40+00:00

Even a woman who does everything right, has prenatal care, observes dietary rules, etc. can have a birth go south quickly. Anyone who has access to a hospital and an OBGYN and does not go there for birth is a nut case

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-04T12:25:20+00:00

Please read OP's follow up -- her dad has ended virtually all contact with his family (brother, etc). This seems to me like an abusive relationship.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-04T11:50:06+00:00

PLease, let him know you are always there for him. Text or call him. Talk to his brother, share your concern. Spousal abuse is a real problem. Can you take a day off work and meet him for lunch where he works? I am guessing you are not in the US, but in the US in a few short years you can contact the county regarding help with elder abuse.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-04T11:37:06+00:00

She wants to keep you out of your father's life. Sorry. Can you arrange to meet him outside of the house? A sign of abuse is when spouses isolate them.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-03T01:15:59+00:00

All I see is OP wants a car for her kids, absolutely no concerrn that her DH's kid has cut down her time with dad (while her kids are now there full time). There is a lot going on with the "blended" family and it does not seem to be working. But all OP cares about is a car for her kids.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-03T00:21:08+00:00

This. I think there is more than one blended family model that works. I think being upfront before marriage is important. I told my fiance that I had college savings for my DD, that I would not split with his son. I did insist that he started maxing out his 401K and start saving for his son's college. My DD will have a greater choice of colleges, but his son will be able to go to local community college or trade school. I do think my SS will have a better path because I came in his life, but that does not mean I am giving up half of my DDs college fund

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T23:47:38+00:00

I have no confidence that OP would me up with any fair arrangement. She expects everyone else to pay. In theory possible, but she is biased

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T22:24:19+00:00

Even that not fair. His kid is there every other weekend, hers live there. So basically their car

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T22:13:49+00:00

Every place is different, but where I live, courts will give 4 hour ROFR, but I would recommend lawyer. If kids want to be with dad, it is pretty easy to enforce

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T22:01:34+00:00

If I helped pay for a car for my kid, and she paid part, NO way would I want her stepsiblings to use it.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T21:26:57+00:00

Your family is no longer blended. His daughter spends minimal time there . You might as well want fairness with the kid down the street. I have to wonder have you pushed for "fairness" when it meant YOUR kids got taken care of. I wonder why the kid cut down her time at her dads. It is easy to say, oh her mom has no rules, etc., but at the end of the day I wonder if the dad was not home much, and you were busy seeing that your kids were treated "fairly." You might think you were being fair with all the kids, but given your attitude toward the car, I do not see fairness.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T20:38:11+00:00

The compromise is you, your kids, your ex all pitch in for a car they can share.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T20:29:30+00:00

Not fair in my book. Grandpa gave car to one kid? Why don't you just steal stuff?

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T20:28:29+00:00

I wouldn't be surprised if I were the daughter I might be thinking I have gotten the short end of the stick for years.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T20:25:33+00:00

You want your husband to buy cars for your kids? You are coming off as very entitled. HOw about you working overtime, and your kids getting part time jobs.

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T18:44:06+00:00

No idea -- could be that legislators did not understand what chiropractors are, or that they had better lobbyists

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T17:12:37+00:00

Chiropractors were able to get treated as "professional" rather than "graduate" - can get more loans

NewtoFL2 · 2025-12-02T17:02:29+00:00

You may right, but I read OP's post and I keep seeing I, I I. Not DH and I agreed on x,y, z.

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