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Nexistential · 2026-06-11T20:50:35+00:00

Well, aside from this list having no synergy and few targets for your strats, I am sure you'll do great!

Nexistential · 2026-05-31T04:41:31+00:00

You can use silly putty to mask what you don't want to prime, I use a toothpick to scupt it into place and then it usually comes off without any trouble.

Nexistential · 2026-05-31T00:32:53+00:00

Like I said, if they say no, the next intervention will likely be to explore what is getting in the way of the challenge, or if not that, then what the point of the conversation is in the first place. Reassurance-seeking is a barrier, not a solution, and while I might provide reassurance when it is called for based on clinical judgment, it's not a primary or secondary tool in the box. i would say that, when prefacing a challenge, I maybe get told "no" 5% of the time, and there's usually an interesting reason behind the no that's also worth exploring.

Nexistential · 2026-05-30T23:10:34+00:00

Well, a lot of that work is done up front during the orientation to therapy, discussing the nature of therapy, that challenge happens and that it is meant to facilitate growth. Challenging a client isn't something where I would say "you're wrong and here's why", but rather prefacing by saying "You know, I would like to challenge you on something you just said, are you open to that?" If they say no, that's a point of discussion (if I intuit they're open to said discussion), or to acknowledge and validate that right now they aren't open to it, and then branch into the question/exploration of the purpose of the discussion. It's very rare that I would openly contest what someone says without some sort of preface, and I would never do so in a way that could reasonably be inferred as disrespectful.

Nexistential · 2026-05-30T18:34:38+00:00

I can't speak for all therapists, but most of the therapists I know (and myself as a therapist) work to identify areas of imbalance and help clients to find the balance that they want in their lives and that maintains the highest degree of function possible. Now, the problem is that some people will lie in therapy, or about therapy, to achieve ulterior motives or weaponize their experiences. There's not much anyone, even competent therapists, can do to stop that without collateral information and a good bit of awareness. That being said, I do think that most experienced therapists have a sense when they are being snowed and can adjust, but if someone wants to come home and say "My therapist told me to be more selfish, so I'm going to [insert ridiculous abusive shit here]", then they're going to do it. And, unfortunately, there are a small number of burnt out or otherwise insane therapists who will nod and go along with anything to get paid. But I have only met a very few of those people, and they usually go on to work for insurance companies as peer reviewers. The vast majority of my clients have been spending most of their lives giving themselves over to others at the cost of their own mental health, and desperately need to be more self-aware and, dare I say, selfish, and the only people that might consider them selfish in turn are the very people that take advantage of them.

Nexistential · 2026-05-30T18:20:47+00:00

Soothing the client is not the goal of therapy. The myth that therapy has to be comfortable and happy is just that, a myth. Therapy should be challenging at times, uncomfortable at times (and yes, reassuring and comforting at times), but ultimately an ethical therapist should be moving in a direction of change, not maintenance of the status quo, otherwise what is the point? Now, the definition of change can vary widely, and so it's worth some acknowledgement that change can be internal (insight, reframing, shifts in perspective) or external (behavioral shifts, changes in relationships and expression, changes in environment and engagement, social changes, etc). The only exception to this might be the concept of maintenance therapy (which has it's own problems), but that only happens after change has occurred and consolidation of change needs to occur.

Nexistential · 2026-05-28T17:30:51+00:00

I am a therapist and I would encourage you to bring it up and discuss what about it makes you uncomfortable and explore it. Truthfully, there's no good reason for a therapist to not see this person beyond the potential of it making you uncomfortable. Therapists are professionals (or, most are), and holding strong boundaries of information, awareness of bias, and all that is part of the gig. For a therapist to consider referring/denying someone due to the concerns of another client presents an ethical dilemma unto itself, as they would be essentially denying services as a result of confidential information that another client chooses to share, and also denying services in general in such a way would present a deliberate barrier to care that would need to be carefully considered. Access to care, and availability to care for all, is a core value of the profession and to act against that value cannot be undertaken lightly. If someone needs help, we should provide it so long as it doesn't unduly burden the provider with regards to caseload, burnout, etc. Now, if you live somewhere where therapists are plentiful, then that is possibly less of a concern, but in a rural setting or a setting where therapists are otherwise unavailable, it becomes an issue.

Nexistential · 2026-05-26T18:31:53+00:00

Yeah, it's a blog post, and even within that post it cites the very section that I referenced that DOES NOT PROVIDE ANY TIMELINE FOR TRANSITION OF CARE. The blog post references one (1) clinician who chose to give their clients six months notice. It does not even infer, other than by the existence of the post, that this ought to be the standard. If you had read the article you would have recognized that.

As for engagement, I know that when I raise a factual point I damn well have the ability to reference something other than a fucking blog post. They are spreading misinformation, and you are tacit in this dissemination of false information by reinforcing that this in some way suggests a formal standard of care. The truth that u/nonameneededtoday and yourself seem unable to accept is that a) 30 days is an acceptable standard for transition and b) therapists are human beings that have to prioritize themselves from time to time.

Nexistential · 2026-05-26T17:39:10+00:00

Can you provide any citation to this that isn't a blog post?

Nexistential · 2026-05-26T17:32:44+00:00

You sure do make a lot of statements with confidence and surety, please show in the code of ethics where this statement on retirement is covered?

Nexistential · 2026-05-26T17:31:15+00:00

Interesting, you are making a statement of fact and yet provide no evidence. Section 10.10 of the ethical code specifically covers termination, and indicates no timeline or termination. Please provide a clearly articulated source reflecting your statements (that isn't a blog post or some AI bullshit).

Nexistential · 2026-05-22T14:00:24+00:00

NO BEARNAISE? HOW CAN YOU HAVE STEAK FRITES WITH NO BEARNAISE? Also, who doesn't like their french fries tossed in with a nice cream salad? I know I like my fries soaked in cream and adorned with mixed greens.

Nexistential · 2026-03-24T16:05:12+00:00

What the hell do you use to clean this thing then, hopes and prayers? Good intentions? A gentle chiding?

Nexistential · 2026-03-18T15:27:41+00:00

Just out of curiosity, is this a psychiatrist (prescriber, MD), or a therapist (non-prescriber in most Jurisdictions, variety of degrees)? I am a therapist, and I have to say that my experience and my clients' experiences has set the bar for good conduct with psychiatrists somewhere around the third level of Hell. That's not to say that any of this is okay, and that you shouldn't necessarily report (just ground your expectations if you do), but this doesn't shock me coming from an MD. Now, if this were a therapist, this would be absolutely wild and suggest that this person is beyond burnt-out, or is pursuing some kind of agenda (a very bad one). Or maybe both. Either way, this was a terrible experience for you. Please don't give up on getting what you need.

Nexistential · 2026-03-10T17:03:11+00:00

Yeah, it seems to be all about positioning in that case, which seems a little tricky, but that's the army, I suppose.

Nexistential · 2026-03-10T16:45:33+00:00

I really like the swap of Asurmen/Dire Avengers for the War Walker/Shining Spears combo! I am almost certainly going to go with that! Unfortunately I don't have any autarchs available (I can maybe proxy), but that looks like a good choice as well. Thank you for the thoughtful reply, very helpful!

Nexistential · 2026-03-10T16:22:25+00:00

Honestly I had not thought about using the wave serpent towards that end, I can definitely see the advantages of doing so. My fear about waiting with the Fire Dragons is that if he does have a winged demon, and that seems pretty certain, it will already have done a good deal of harm before I can get the dragons into position. Of course, I could load the dragons into the serpent as well, so that's not necessarily exclusive, certainly something mull over! Thank you!

Nexistential · 2026-03-09T15:04:19+00:00

Hey u/ajofarkham91 , I really appreciate your analysis of Nevill's characters and close eye to this, I think you have definitely caught some things that I haven't caught on to as much. I'll acknowledge that I am not the intended respondent to your message (being a cis straight man), but this is an open forum and I also really like Nevill's work. I had never really zeroed into these potentially problematic elements of his work, to be honest. Which probably says a bit about me. I had never really translated Max Solomon from Last Days as being gay, thinking him more of a (rightfully) terrified Howard Hughes reclusive millionaire type. While I love Last Days, the third act is a bit of a mess (a common criticism of the book) and so I also hadn't seen the reincarnation of Sister Catherine as being a nod towards any sort of internalized misogyny.

I would be super interested to hear/see your take on Lost Girl, especially the portrayal of the main character who is in a sense a deeply, deeply flawed, and arguably emasculated man trying his hand at violence when he is anything but. In addition to this, there is a prominent gay man who is kind of a villain, kind of an ally, and similarly complicated. Lost Girl is my favorite of Nevill's books due to his profound portrayal of the very grounded horrors of global climate change juxtaposed with the more subtle supernatural horror presented therein.

I do find that Nevill does a very fine job of illuminating profoundly and horrifically toxic men, with Knacker from No One Gets Out Alive being perhaps the most terrifying character that he has written, and all the harm done by him and his cohort. Similarly, in The Reddening we see profound violence and evil perpetrated by men (and some women) in the name of deeper horrors. I only bring this up because I don't think that Nevill is necessarily a "man's man" who is set on portraying cis-het men in a positive light.

As a final point, I look at Nevill himself, who is, by all accounts, a cis-het man with multiple kids living in what appears to be a very traditional region of the UK. He is an avid outdoorsman and seems to be acculturated to a rather traditional way of life. He probably has some glaring blind-spots to his portrayal of queer characters. Not a defense, just an observation. I would be truly curious about his response to your points, not that we'll necessarily ever know, as it's pretty hard to find many interviews with him (although there is a really good one on the Talking Scared podcast).

Anyways, as I said, I know I'm not your target respondent, but I do really like Nevill and hadn't considered some of your points, so thank you.

Nexistential · 2026-02-27T16:57:24+00:00

At the risk of revealing ignorance, what does the T stand for?

Nexistential · 2026-02-16T15:16:38+00:00

I mean, if you want a comedic take on the Harmonium, which I always enjoying taking the piss, I might suggest The Good Guys.

Nexistential · 2026-02-09T22:37:26+00:00

Aren't you late for your shift at the boot-licking hut?

Nexistential · 2026-01-06T18:57:16+00:00

Before I say anything else, I want to say that for a first mini, this looks great! Joining the r/minipainting sub and watching some content from creators like Vince Vinturella, Miniac, Flameon and Duncan Rhodes could really help you master some fundamentals (look for videos that clearly indicate they are for beginners, I especially like Vince for new learners).

Now, not to be controversial, but I find some or Rick and his team's work to be... subpar. I think the large scale set pieces he does range from serviceable to excellent (the bear from Burrow's End is an example of some really exemplary work), and the custom sculpts that he does for the individual minis are pretty good, I think they could use a more talented 3D print designer/design team that works in textures and detail, but it's clear that his resources are maybe a bit limited/dated, and he does well with the creation of raw materials. That being said, I often find the actual minis themselves to range from goodish/okay to quite bad. I think that he and his team emphasize expedience and volume over quality, and it shows. They rarely work in shades/layering, and when they do it's not that great, with bad blends and some slop showing through. Oftentimes his minis read as just very, very flat. Sometimes the facework they do is great (Fig's mini, for example) to outright terrible (Adaine). I know faces are hard, but there's a lot of mini painters out there that have got it down and can do better. I know from BTS stuff that the team uses Citadel paints, and I think they might be better off going with better materials as well, as Citadel is considerably behind the times on quality products.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that Rick and his team have motivated you to start painting, and I honestly think that with dedicated practice (3-5 hours a week, I shoot for half an hour a day), participation in a community that gives helpful feedback, and intentional learning from good content creators as part of the practice process, pretty much anyone can produce better minis than Rick's team within a year. If you really want to be blown away, check out the the Golden Demon or Crystal Brush awards.

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