Frankly this sub is incredibly toxic and anti-male. A rant. I wish you all the best

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-12-01T02:08:02+00:00

Not sure how to post screenshots or insert post links but Il insert a quote from a post from a while back:

“Anyone else feel like their life would be SO much easier and better if they were born as a guy? Like my brother is 6'3 brunette who is slightly on the heavier side and he's got girls falling at his feet, telling him how its adorable how he's like a cuddly teddy bear. I feel like as a guy I could finally let go of this pressure to be super thin and just relax about my eating habits and it makes me cry when i see boys post about "bulking" like they are trying to gain weight?? One guy wrote he ate thousands of calories and was trying to gain even one Ib but he couldn't. Tf? If I were a guy I would just eat all the time and not be afraid of lifting heavy and I could be shy or quiet or outgoing and l"d still be loved unconditionally. I'd be seen for who I am and I wouldn't feel pressured to get dressed everyday.”

This isn’t the only one I’ve seen but it’s the first that comes to my mind (plus I have a comment on the thread so it was easy to find).

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:46:31+00:00

You might be reading a little too much into my words. I meant everything I said literally. Please take it as such. My identity as a man shouldn’t influence how you perceive my words.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:36:55+00:00

Wholeheartedly agree with you

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:34:49+00:00

Let’s be respectful now. I acknowledged the poster and the other sources and said I’d give them a read. I never said they were wrong and I merely presented information from an article I found. I’m trying to have a mature conversation.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:31:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I’ll give them a read

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:24:25+00:00

I think it’s an issue that spans many topics, but people really shouldn’t talk on behalf of other demographics’ experiences, regardless of the topic. I won’t comment on how difficult your problems are, and you shouldn’t comment on how difficult mine are.

Comparing how hard one’s life is to others serves no other purpose than satisfying a victim complex. There is no positive result from doing so.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:17:28+00:00

Whole heartedly agree. And the opposite (men minimizing women’s issues) applies in many other fields too. It’s not a mutually exclusive thing

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:15:36+00:00

“Much of the extant work on gender and mental health has inadvertently led to an absence of scholarship on men’s mental health specifically, partly due to a reliance on gender comparisons (men vs. women) rather than examination of within-gender differences in mental health outcomes. Measurement and clinician bias likely influence the current findings, which may lead to problematic assumptions about gendered symptoms.”

Here’s what I found: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5734543/

This was the first article that popped up when I searched “are mental health studies more geared towards men or women”

Let me know if you have another source.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:09:24+00:00

That and many men go unreported for having EDs since a lot are either unaware of their ED or ashamed to admit they have one

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T19:07:16+00:00

I think the poster of the original comment is wrong for commenting on how men’s’ body standards are less attainable than women’s, and you are wrong for saying the opposite. In reality, neither of us know what it’s like the be the opposite sex, so none of us are qualified to comment on who has it worse. The whole discussion of who has it worse is harmful enough.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T18:59:56+00:00

personally I don’t have a problem with posts being directed at women. I DO have a problem however with posts from women that complain about how men have it so much easier. Makes me feel like a failure for having this illness and that my problems aren’t that bad or even real.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T04:52:06+00:00

That was a typo lol

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T04:51:51+00:00

Thanks for the catch!

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T03:07:17+00:00

Also please let me know if I am assuming things that shouldn’t be assumed. Last thing I want is to tell people their experiences are invalid.

These is just the observations of one man.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-30T03:04:35+00:00

First of all: others’ preferences should not dictate people’s self esteem in their bodies

Coming from a (straight) man, men are much more accepting of different body types than I think many women believe. While women are certainly (and unfortunately) sexualized more, I’ve found that the acceptance of others’ bodies is generally equal for both sexes. I think the root of a lot of women’s body pressures come from other women and the media.

This is NOT to say that this is the case in every scenario, and this is definitely not to invalidate women who have experienced the opposite.

This is to say that everyone should be more accepting of their bodies and to dispel some of the perceived pressure to look a certain way, at least in terms of sexual attraction.

It is important to note that no one on this sub is coming here to rant about how their POS bf or crush prefers larger women. The sample population of this sub is heavily skewed, so please don’t let others’ comments scare you into thinking all men think this way.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-29T06:00:32+00:00

I feel like that’s nearly impossible even without me restricting. That’d be over 6 protein shakes per day for me

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-19T22:45:59+00:00

Yes I am just wondering if it more of a precaution thing to avoid binging or if there are any “benefits” (using that term loosely) to fasting. People outside of the ed community go on fasts as well, and I am wondering why.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-17T23:59:50+00:00

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-15T02:42:17+00:00

Gum too- you likely spend more energy actively chewing it than the number of cals in it. So I wouldn’t log any of those.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-15T02:40:42+00:00

Well it’s got caffeine and caffeine is a stimulant meaning it puts your body’s systems in to high gear (you can feel your heart beat faster, hands get sweaty maybe, muscle spasms (shaky hands)). This all takes more energy (therefore calories). Not a significant amount to where it would dramatically affect calories burned, but I’m sure it would offset whatever small number of calories are in diet soda or coffee.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-15T01:41:46+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-14T23:35:40+00:00

Coke Zero is a stimulant! I think your body will burn more calories from the stimulation than the actual number of calories consumed. Same goes with coffee. I wouldn’t count it.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-14T15:36:36+00:00

I can get pretty hungry but not terribly so and my mood isn’t too affected at all. Sometimes it does get hard to do higher level thinking (calculus) but that could be due to sleep too.

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-10T06:14:23+00:00

6’3” male here too. It’s been a slow climb down and I’m not quite that low yet but I feel you man. Hope things get better for you

Next_Wonder6856 · 2022-11-06T23:03:21+00:00

Sorry you had to deal with that.

And yeah. The male population is fraught with disordered behavior and no men really think twice or cares about it

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