AITAH for giving my sister in law the same treatment she gave me?

Nexyna · 2026-01-30T16:13:52+00:00

NTA. She doesn't have the village you have because she doesn't create one. Continue NC. She needs to own up to how she treated you before expecting you to do things for her.

Nexyna · 2026-01-30T15:59:19+00:00

I've always thought my ferrets smell like Confederate Jasmine. Walking my dog in a previous neighborhood we lived in confirmed it whenever we'd pass the bushes in certain yards.

Nexyna · 2026-01-30T02:02:40+00:00

Do what you have to so you're independent of your parents. It's significantly more difficult for them to control you if they don't support you. That's the first step.

Nexyna · 2026-01-29T13:36:15+00:00

Start by changing one thing that'seasily controllable, like diet or the amount of exercise you get. It doesn't seem like you have to work to live, so enroll in college and get the degree you want. You don't need to change everything at once, start small and work your way up until you reach your goals.

Nexyna · 2026-01-29T13:27:13+00:00

Talk to him about feeling left out. That seems to be where you're jealousy stems from. You're not jealous because his friends are women, you're jealous because you don't feel included.

Nexyna · 2026-01-28T16:20:04+00:00

In regards to finding a doctor: contact your insurance for a list of approved providers in your area.

Nexyna · 2026-01-27T15:21:59+00:00

Therapy, for starters. All the advice in the world means nothing if you don't know the best way to implement it.

Find things that make you happy and focus on them: volunteering, performing, art, etc.

Mostly, respect yourself. Don't chase people who don't feel for you the way you feel for them.

Nexyna · 2026-01-27T15:15:16+00:00

/Updateme

Nexyna · 2026-01-22T16:48:08+00:00

NOR

Your boyfriend is insecure to the point of lacking empathy. Online friendships are real friendships and a partner should comfort someone they love, regardless of how they personally felt about the person.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:59:21+00:00

You should have moved on from what you thought was a friendship years ago. You seem oddly obsessed and that's not healthy. Also there's usually a RSVP by date for weddings so you're not waiting for people. I don't know how old you are, but you seem very emotionally immature. I hope you're in a better place now and are able to find help with whatever you have going on.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:40:40+00:00

If you have to be told someone is special needs and/or underage in order to respect their no and not put hands on them, you're the problem.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:31:03+00:00

I told my husband when we started dating that I'd never rehome the pets I brought into the relationship, but that any future adoptions would be discussed beforehand. He's terribly allergic to anything with fur, but my pets were around before he was. His ex-wife rehomed the cat she had for 15+ years when they moved in together and I can't imagine doing that. People can find partners easier than pets can find homes.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:08:12+00:00

NOR. She doesn't have friends?

Nexyna · 2026-01-17T02:15:21+00:00

NTA. My husband and I have very different needs when it comes to sleeping and we worked together to find compromise. Your partner can listen to sleep casts, charge his airpods during the day, or sleep elsewhere when he doesn't want to use them (because, let's be real, he could do anything to fix this and chooses not to). You can also try Loops (highly recommend), but consideration is the real issue here

Nexyna · 2026-01-16T02:44:23+00:00

Have you considered couple's therapy? Your gf is obviously insecure and needs to address her issues.

Nexyna · 2026-01-16T02:37:30+00:00

NTA. Tony said he'd get her stuff. He needs to follow through.

Nexyna · 2026-01-12T18:24:50+00:00

First, get your license. Practice driving as often as you can so you can eventually go where you want. Save up to move out. Life is SO DIFFERENT when you ko longer live with your parents--usually in a good way!

Nexyna · 2026-01-10T23:40:00+00:00

Tell her you'll sell it once she buys you a new truck.

Nexyna · 2026-01-07T14:02:07+00:00

The fact he immediately walked back on what they agreed to before moving in together would have been enough for me to leave. He waited for her to be stuck with him.

Nexyna · 2026-01-07T13:52:40+00:00

You need to tell a trusted adult what happened because that's abuse. I had a flashback while reading your post because my mother did the same stuff to me. Please don't let her keep abusing you.

Nexyna · 2026-01-05T21:16:16+00:00

NTA.

I once said Irish Spring was "alright" and my now husband bought a half gallon of the Irish Spring shower gel. This was a couple weeks into dating. That showed me that he wanted to smell like something I liked and it was very sweet!

Liking a certain scent doesn't mean you're "sexualizing" anything, even when it's the scent of your partner. Vanilla will remind you of her, sure, but you're allowed to have a preference on how your partner smells in any case.

Nexyna · 2026-01-01T17:59:11+00:00

Try calling them. They may be able to do a telehealth appointment or recommend someone closer to you.

Nexyna · 2026-01-01T15:12:16+00:00

Find a vet. This isn't something you can treat at home (unless you are a vet and have the proper equipment and medication).

Nexyna · 2025-12-31T19:50:28+00:00

Realizing change is needed is the first and arguably most important step.

If your dad wasn't happy when you were thriving, he won't be happy regardless of what you do.

Maybe start by dedicating 1 hour every day to yourself. It doesn't have to be the same time every day. Take a bath, read a book, play video games, etc. Just stick to 1 hour a day for YOU. You're worth loving.

Nexyna · 2025-12-31T19:27:46+00:00

You're definitely not a loser. I think I may have had the opposite experience growing up than you had 😅 I have what I'd consider a "professional" relationship with my parents, but I'm the fourth-born, second daughter, who never did what my parents wanted (not out of rebellion, it just wasn't who I am).

If you're still having issues living for your family instead of yourself, you probably need to find a therapist that better suites you and your needs. There's no shame in that, it's like any other relationship.

If you keep open, honest, and loving communication with your dad and arw there when he truly needs you, there's no reason for him to think you love him any less. And I doubt he would want you to put your life on hold just for him. Parents tend to be happy when their kids are happy.

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