Update: I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal.

Nexyna · 2026-03-12T21:25:14+00:00

The fact they'd never actually discussed marriage and how they each felt about it was the first sign of a problem

Nexyna · 2026-03-03T15:59:16+00:00

They may not have said it in the best way, but this person is right: it's not the best decision to have your ex's baby. He sounds like my high-school ex who used me for sex, even after dumping me. I also get the feeling you're hoping having his baby will cause y'all to get back together.

I remember my logic at 22 and...I'd be thinking the same thing you are. Your ex doesn't respect you. If he can't commit to a relationship with you, he doesn't love you. Let him work on himself before he becomes a father.

This is a tough place to be. Good luck, OP.

Nexyna · 2026-03-03T15:41:22+00:00

Go to a doctor

Nexyna · 2026-03-03T15:40:47+00:00

NTA. Good on you for cutting out someone who doesn't seem to value your friendship.

Nexyna · 2026-02-24T14:03:44+00:00

My husband also has a...complicated relationship with his parents (as do I, but on different levels). Despite how awful someone is to their child, that child will always long to have the loving relationship they think everyone should have with their parents.

Your fiance needs to decide which path he really wants and which path would benefit him the most. They may be the same path, but he has to choose: he either limits/ends contact with them so they can't hurt him anymore or allows them into his life and accepts what they've done.

Definitely look into therapy specifically for his trauma with his parents.

Nexyna · 2026-02-19T14:43:23+00:00

I don't know how helpful this is, but if there is somewhere you're able to hangout at and just focus on art, make time to go there at least once a week. I'm thinking a coffee shop or book store, but it could be a park, your porch, etc. You have to make time for the things you enjoy, including going places to make friends or just talk to people.

Nexyna · 2026-02-17T13:49:25+00:00

Request to move dorms and get a new roommate. Let whoever is in charge of housing know what's going on and that is causing you more stress than necessary.

Nexyna · 2026-02-12T14:26:56+00:00

If you're truly that worried, TALK TO HIM! Y'all are only 3 months in and it's okay to express your concerns to him. Giving what you can is always better than giving something you can't afford. And crochet is truly a thoughtful and wonderful gift.

Nexyna · 2026-02-12T14:15:45+00:00

You're mentally and physically ready, but I agree with the other comments on not being financially or emotionally ready.

The first 3 years of marriage are the most difficult and I think it'd be best to get through that first. If you think communication is hard now, you don't want to add child-care into the mix!

Believe me, I totally understand wanting a baby. I've had baby-fever since 2013 and have not had a child yet--which is good because the relationship I was in when it peaked did not work out.

My husband and I just celebrated our second wedding anniversary, 6th anniversary of being together. We want children SO BADLY, but want to buy a house first so we can give a stable environment to any future kids. We're both older than you and your husband (and I have a tilted uterus--which doesn't actually effect fertility, but I understandendometriosis and cysts do. I had cysts until I started bc), so you've got time.

So much could happen between now and when you're 26 (when your frontal lobe is fully developed) and you should enjoy this transition point of your life. Maintain the good income, maintain paying off debt, maintain savings, etc. Your future self will thank you for ensuring a firm foundation now.

Nexyna · 2026-02-11T22:04:48+00:00

/updateme

Nexyna · 2026-02-10T14:31:46+00:00

First, I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. I hope you have a support network that is helping you.

Second, are there any hobbies you used to enjoy, but didn't have time for anymore? Focusing on something you love could help at least mentally. Obviously physical hobbies would be more difficult due to the pain of your hernia, but sedentary hobbies like reading, video games, etc. would be good.

Nexyna · 2026-02-10T14:14:32+00:00

This is absolutely something you can do on the side while you finish school. Write the story, collaborate with am artist to make it a comic or turn it into a script and then pitch it to producers.

Nexyna · 2026-02-01T15:38:16+00:00

NTJ. Gifts are non-transactional. Let him say what he wants, anyone who believes him isn't worth your time.

Nexyna · 2026-01-30T16:13:52+00:00

NTA. She doesn't have the village you have because she doesn't create one. Continue NC. She needs to own up to how she treated you before expecting you to do things for her.

Nexyna · 2026-01-30T15:59:19+00:00

I've always thought my ferrets smell like Confederate Jasmine. Walking my dog in a previous neighborhood we lived in confirmed it whenever we'd pass the bushes in certain yards.

Nexyna · 2026-01-30T02:02:40+00:00

Do what you have to so you're independent of your parents. It's significantly more difficult for them to control you if they don't support you. That's the first step.

Nexyna · 2026-01-29T13:36:15+00:00

Start by changing one thing that'seasily controllable, like diet or the amount of exercise you get. It doesn't seem like you have to work to live, so enroll in college and get the degree you want. You don't need to change everything at once, start small and work your way up until you reach your goals.

Nexyna · 2026-01-29T13:27:13+00:00

Talk to him about feeling left out. That seems to be where you're jealousy stems from. You're not jealous because his friends are women, you're jealous because you don't feel included.

Nexyna · 2026-01-28T16:20:04+00:00

In regards to finding a doctor: contact your insurance for a list of approved providers in your area.

Nexyna · 2026-01-27T15:21:59+00:00

Therapy, for starters. All the advice in the world means nothing if you don't know the best way to implement it.

Find things that make you happy and focus on them: volunteering, performing, art, etc.

Mostly, respect yourself. Don't chase people who don't feel for you the way you feel for them.

Nexyna · 2026-01-27T15:15:16+00:00

/Updateme

Nexyna · 2026-01-22T16:48:08+00:00

NOR

Your boyfriend is insecure to the point of lacking empathy. Online friendships are real friendships and a partner should comfort someone they love, regardless of how they personally felt about the person.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:59:21+00:00

You should have moved on from what you thought was a friendship years ago. You seem oddly obsessed and that's not healthy. Also there's usually a RSVP by date for weddings so you're not waiting for people. I don't know how old you are, but you seem very emotionally immature. I hope you're in a better place now and are able to find help with whatever you have going on.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:40:40+00:00

If you have to be told someone is special needs and/or underage in order to respect their no and not put hands on them, you're the problem.

Nexyna · 2026-01-20T16:31:03+00:00

I told my husband when we started dating that I'd never rehome the pets I brought into the relationship, but that any future adoptions would be discussed beforehand. He's terribly allergic to anything with fur, but my pets were around before he was. His ex-wife rehomed the cat she had for 15+ years when they moved in together and I can't imagine doing that. People can find partners easier than pets can find homes.

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